Why is so easy for girls to get any guys but hard for guys to get any girls?
January 1, 2009 3:41am CST
I have seen many girls that they had no hard time finding guys.You can hardly see girls discussing about having guys or like to have guys.There might be some but very rare.Even the ugliest girl gets a guy.But with guys they always talk about having girla and love in their life.Even i have seen many good looking hunks are desperatley looking for girls.I dont understand why girls dont have to work so hard to get guys like guys have to do to get girls.
2 Jan 09
Depends what you mean Girls have an easy time getting guys when its no strings attached, no obligations. And guys have a hard time finding girls when thts only what they want. Other wise girls have a hard time finding guys when they want to settle down and have a relatinship. Unlike most girls, guys cant easily jump into things like that. Some do, but however, guys have to thinik a girl is completely worth it to give up their freedom. Guys have a hard time finding girls when it comes to no strings becuase girls are so emotional. It is proven that when a girl is intimate a chemical is released that makes her attached to the guy. Its hard for a girl to be completely emotionless when with a guy. I dont know it all depends, this is my opionon, but Im also 18 and at this age alot of motives arent the most sincere or respectful, I just believe at this age its hard to get a guy to want to settle down sine they're at the age where they realize theres so much more in life they want to do before settlign down. However I believe despite this, girls wont wait until they're ready, and will get a boyfriend even if they arent necessarily looking for one becuase they dont want to let a good chance to have someone they like, pass them up..
2 Jan 09
yeah man very aptly stated but then again with women empoowerment and women's lib girls today can be pretty darn choosy and opt out of serious commitments rather prefering casual flings as u already have stated but i wouldnt go so far as to make a generalisationand say that it's hard for guys to get girls or vice vera i think its 50 50
• United States
1 Jan 09
Oh, mepaurav! Girls DO have a hard time getting guys... Trust me, I am a woman, and have been on this side of the game for a long time.... If only you could eavsdrop on the conversations that go on in the women's restrooms in clubs/bars!!!! Women struggle, just like men... we just keep the discussions between us girls... and most of the time these discussions take place in the bathrooms! LOL Hang in there... girls are going through the same thing!
7 Jan 09
I was surprised to found out that you feel this way. I always thought that girls are having much hard time getting guys. A guy can always choose the girl that he wanted to court but it doesn't look right if a girl will court a guy especially in a society that is double standard (though some girls do it nowadays). There are also more girls than guys, I think the ratio now is around 5:1.
2 Jan 09
Girls DO have to put in effort to look for guys too. Who do you think we work so hard trying to lose those pounds for? Because we're vain.. but really because we want to capture your (guys) eyes! It's not just a one-sided thing really. And i wouldn't say we are the rare ones who are single and not looking. Most of us (i mean me & my peers) we do keep a lookout just that we don't display our desperateness. Sometimes showing yourself to be over desperate is a huge turn off. And though some not so fair to look at girls get guys that doesn't mean that the fairer looking ones are all snapped up. In contrary, i have quite a few good looking friends that are single.. and guys just don't pick them up. we still have no idea why.
2 Jan 09
Hmm perhaps the guys are more choosy when it comes to finding the right girl? But everyone is choosy including girls. Or perhaps those guys are looking so far for a girl when actually there already is a good girl right on front of their eyes. Such thing happens.
• United States
2 Jan 09
A lot of girls tend to work very hard to get a guy's attention. Mornings before work or school are very long. Gotta find the best thing to wear, the best makeup combination, and how to wear your hair. It's not just because the girl wants to be all spiffy for herself. But because she cares about what other people, like guys, think of her appearance. This isn't true for all women though. Some don't go to those lengths or not as extreme. And some just don't care. But think... A girl just has to throw herself at certain guys and begin a non-serious relationship. Thus, the girl has a guy. But if a guy wants a girl, especially in a serious relationship, that have to struggle and impress. Looks don't mean everything. If you're a total jerk and look like a super model, the relationship probably won't last. But if you're average, have human flaws, and the personality she is looking for... the relationship has a chance. I don't think there is really an imbalance. I don't think women don't try. I KNOW they do. And girls don't always get the guy. Why do you think you see so many movies with the chick crying over being dumped? It happens. Just take your time, and if you're wanting a relationship stay open minded but don't 'look' for the relationship... let it come to you. Hopefully that'll work...
1 Jan 09
Hi There! Welcome year 2009! Hmmm… well, that’s odd for you to say that girls get guys easily but tell you what, maybe the right person is yet to come in your life so take it slowly. You know, I have been single for a very long time… Let us just say I am a late bloomer, in highschool, I am more concerned of my friends than having a boyfriends, I had crushes but I was too childish to focus on that… so till college, I had a so called boyfriend for 6 months but we broke up… so I decided to just enjoy my life as a single as long as I could… That is what my uncle told me. Enjoy my life and he will come in the right time… Which it really did! I have a boyfriend for two years now and still going strong… And I am happy n ow being with a relationship with someone… I do not miss being a single… so take it slow.. you will meet the right girl for you. Thanks for the discussion! Happy Mylotting! Cheers!