Why do people have a problem with telling others their weight anyway?

@SomeCowgirl (32273)
United States
January 1, 2009 9:19pm CST
I guess more girls then guys have the tendency of getting offended. Today we went to my fiance's granny's to eat for new years. While their for the second time (went back fro dinner) we all weighed ourselves. I'll admit I've overweight, and my fiance is too. I weigh a little more then my fiance. Okay so I won't tell you how much I weigh online. I don't have a problem telling family though. So do you not like telling others your weight? Do you have any weight loss ideas?
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19 responses
2 Jan 09
Shying away from discussing weight is something that puzzles me. If a person is thin and they tell me their weight, theys still look the same. Likewise if a person is overweight. The number doesn't affect the way you look, so why hide it. Hiding the number won't give you the body you want. You need to work for it.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
3 Jan 09
I agree that it is odd when you put it that way. You can look thin but be over weight and vice versa, clothes do a lot to make a person look thin but they can do a lot to make them look thick as well. I appreciate the response.
@mariposaman (2968)
• Canada
2 Jan 09
Weight seems to be as much as part of the person nowadays as any other characteristic. I will not blame this on the media, but apparently in some countries more people are overweight than normal weight and the number of obese persons have skyrocketed. You weight tends to get personal like your age as it goes up. Small things you can do to moderate your weight is to start a food diary. Apparently if you write everything down you tend to lose weight if you are on a diet. Use a small plate or dish. If you have a large plate you tend to fill it up. Drink water with a twist of lemon or soda water instead of soda pop. What people should be doing is concentrating on being healthy, not thin. Even thin people can be unhealthy if they are not eating enough, not enough nutritious food, or nnot getting any exercise. Plan a healthy way of eating you can sustain for the rest of your life, crash diets do not work as you will lose weight but gain it all back again and more when you go back to your old eating habits.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
3 Jan 09
I've heard of food diaries as a way to realize how many calories you consume as well as bad cholesterol and etc. I think that it's a good idea to keep one but at the same time I do not think that I will. I know what I eat from day to day and know the importance of what is in it, or the things that are in it that are bad for me. Then again, I might know completely. I agree that we should be more concentrating on what is healthy and not what will make us skinny, it's easy to get skinny by crash diets like you say, but then again it's also to gain the weight you just lost and even more. Starving yourself of nutrients you are lacking is no way to go with diet. I appreciate the response and the suggestions as well. I feel I might have come off a little harsh but want to stress that that was not my intentions. Have a wonderful day.
• United States
2 Jan 09
We are what we are. I know people who are thin and won't tell their weight. What the heck! When I met my husband online I told him exactly what my weight was. No secrets there. Once you meet me you know that I don't weigh 110 or even close to that. I am fluffy and make no beans about it. Being fluffier than most doesn't mean I am less of a person than one who is thin. I am more active now than I have been in years. I weigh 264. Next week I start Curves (a gift from my husband for Christmas). I am looking forward to helping my body become more toned and healthier. I wish you a happy and healthy New Year.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I agree with that, they are so skinny and yet won't tell their weight. I don't know my sister's weight, but I think now if I asked she'd divulge. I hope that you have fun at curves, I've heard good things about the program there. Have a wonderful new year yourself!
@srik11 (483)
• India
2 Jan 09
people have this perrinial habit of judging person at the first instant. ironically,people hate to be judged. so,its obvious that many people will not freely reveal their details such as height,weight,complexion..
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Very true, people do hate to be judged. I appreciate the response.
@dhaksha80 (143)
• Singapore
2 Jan 09
I think i a bit overweighed.I dont have any problem in telling my weight,my weight is 66, height is 157.my weight is keep on increasing no matter i am eating more or less. I dont know why? I was 50 at my college days,from then i keep on putting weight like 55,60,62..now 66. I am not taking extra food,or fats. I think it is my genes.Bcoz my mom,granny everyone are fat.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I wish I was that skinny. I'm not by any means, but I am definitely not skinny. In KGS I am 98. I am not sure why people can continue to gain pounds even though they have restricted their diet. I appreciate the response.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
2 Jan 09
I am overweight but by the grace of god I am not obese. I have problem in telling people my weight as it is not the right one. Had I been in shape I would have told people about the same proudly.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I can understand that. I hope that you can reach the weight you want. I appreciate the response.
• United States
2 Jan 09
I have never really had a problem telling people how much I weigh but most of the time I keep it to myself. I was always pretty small and I would get teased a lot since people would always tell everyone that I had some sort of eating disorder which was far from the truth. It didn't matter how much I tried I had trouble gaining weight even while I was pregnant with my both my girls. It was always a bad subject for me and now that I am a little older I was finally able to start gaining weight but now it seems that I won't stop!! At least people don't accuse me of having a eating disorder any more though.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
My sister is a skinny minnie. She had surgery to get even skinnier. I'm not sure if she was bullied or teased in school, but she was also popular so any bullying or teasing probably wasn't even heard by her. She's got high metabolism, or so everyone used to claim. I've heard sometimes some women just can't manage to get the baby fat off. I'm not sure if that's what yours is, but I know stress can be a part of it too. There's so many reasons why they say women are fatter now... I don't even bother keeping up with it all.
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@Amberina (1542)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I'm not the kind of person who runs around telling everyone my weight because I am fat and I am trying to lose weight. I'm ashamed to admit how much I have gained over the years so the more I lose the better I feel about what weight I am. What I am doing to lose is I am eating little meals more than 3 times a day I eat little portions and I even use a little plate so I can't take more and I only take one serving I don't go back for seconds. And I don't go out to eat a lot I don't drink sodas and I can't drink milk. I try to eat good home made food and not a lot of it just small portions and 4 or 5 times a day just a little snack sized portions. I also eat yogurt that has live cultures in it to help digest my food and it keeps me regular. One person I think they wrote something on Mylot about it but they get those little yogurt cups with lids and fills them with left over food from dinner and stuff that they cook for the family and puts them in the fridge and they eat them thru out the day I think to keep their blood sugar at a good level. But that would be a good thing to do and you can take them with you if you have to be gone for the day instead of eating out you can put them in a lunchbox.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
I suppose now that I am heavier than I would like to be I am not anxious to share that piece of information, but it isn't a secret either. I was just telling my mom about the fact that I didn't want to sit at home getting any "fluffier" so I was going to have to come up with a plan to shed the extra me......I tell my girlfriends if they ask. They are such great friends....they always say....."No way! You look great!" I am planning on participating in my church's Daniel Fast this year. Cutting out processed sugar, bleached flour and meat works wonders. You clean a lot of toxins out of your body while rapidly shedding weight.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I can understand not being anxious to blurt it out. I guess I was talking more about at the actual scales, or in a discussion. I've heard of that type of diet, but as for how effective it is I am not sure. I am sure the processed sugar being eliminated does do a lot to help with shedding pounds. My fiance and I are going to need to cut back on a lot of our eating, but at the same time we need to get out and boogie woogie or something, lol. I appreciate the response.
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@elitess (5077)
• Ipswich, England
7 Jan 09
Hi there Some Cow Girl. I don't really have a problem with telling family my weight. I was a little overweight on holidays as well as i got an extra 4 kg on me and i am now getting them off slowly. I had about 94 the most, about 2 years ago, but then i lost in about 7 months until i reached 75 - it was sort of a goal for me and i did it with out any diets or anything, i just cut back on bread, and stopped eating very much. I later decided to set my default weight to 80 kg tops - actually my goal is to not get the 80 number so now i have about 4 kg to get off like i was saying.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I'm glad you don't have a problem telling others your weight. I know that I don't, but right now I am not sure how much I weigh as I might have lost a few lbs from what my fiance and I are starting to diet. I hope you can get the 4 kg off and keep it off, they say it's harder to keep small weight off then it is to keep big weight off.
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@elitess (5077)
• Ipswich, England
8 Jan 09
well i managed to get 1,5 already as i just weighed myself after 3-4 days since the last time i went on the scale, so i am on the good way - i think in 2-3 weeks i will get back at the desired weight - the exam session is also almost here, so that will also help me loose a little weight :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Oh I agree, stress and worrying over exams can do that! lol! Glad your doing well on your goal.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
5 May 09
This is a really good discussion baby and I am sure that there are a lot of people who have different opinions when it comes to weight and whether or not they will share it with anyone,I know it seems that most of the time women get offended easier when people ask their weight,even though I have seen guys who have gotten offended about their weight,especially guys who are over weight,and I remember when we went to my Granny's to eat for New Years and I remember that we went back and ate again that same day,and I remember us weighing ourselves,and I know I am overweight and I knew I would be overweight when we weighed ourselves,and I do not have a problem telling people my weight,because I know I am overweight so I do not care if other people have comments or rude remarks to say about me,and I know we need to try and exercise more,and we need to try and eat more healthier foods,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
5 May 09
I know that there are people in this world who have a problem with their weight. I also know that we both need to exercise and that at times when I do feel ashamed for my weight, I know all I need to do is exercise more. I love you with all of my heart and soul, and hope you have fun mylotting when I do give you the computer, lol.
@oyenkai (4399)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
I think it's because media has brain washed us to believe that there is an ideal weight for everyone - a specific weight, and not necessarily the same that health optimists vouch for. I actually mind telling people about my weight, because I'm short and stuff and weighing a lot doesn't sound good for someone with my body type - plus my sister's body looks like that of a model, which is in complete opposite of mine. For losing weight, I'm incorporating lots of fiber in my diet :D Thanks for the comment on my discussion!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
9 Jan 09
My sister is very skinny herself, so I understand where comparison of family's weight comes in. I believe fiber does a great deal to help with losing weight as it helps regulate you, lol.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
3 Jan 09
[i]Hi SomeCowgirl, I have no problem about this in fact, my friends and I love to share about our weight once in a while...(when I was single) This time, I know that I gained weight but still it is within the appropriate weight as far as my age and height is concern! I've known also people who prefer not to talk about their weight! My friend told me she will get sad when she will talk about it![/i]
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
3 Jan 09
oh well I can understand your friend getting sad about it especially since it can be a very touchy subject. I know that, I guess I hadn't really thought about how touchy it can be until I've read all these responses.
@uditpanda (1023)
• India
2 Jan 09
I will tell you the story from my personal side. I am a little overweight. Actually I weigh more than I look. My dressing style & my face makes me hide a few pounds of mine. So i never wear a skin tight t shirt and always dressed formal. So when somebody asks my age I give him the false answer a few pounds less than the actual one. I guess it would be the reason with a good number of people. Some of them consider their weight to be purely a personal thing & they don't want anybody to share the secret.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Well I guess I do understand that. I mean people have the right to secrecy in their weight. I just wonder why some people have a hard time sharing it with their family members. I appreciate the response.
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I do not like to share my weight with people because I have put on a bit of weight over the last six months, and I hide it well, so no one really believes that I weigh what I do. I am not afraid for my family or close friends to know, but I am definately not proud of my extra weight.
@vanonas (950)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I don't have a problem with telling people my weight, but that's because I'm skinny. I think if I were overweight I'd have a problem with it and be a little more embarrassed to tell people how much I weighed. It also has to deal with being a girl because girls always want to be the right weight and not too heavy or too thin.
@cynthiann (18637)
• Jamaica
2 Jan 09
I have to tell you that I am not happy about this heavier me. I expect because I am not swimming like I used to that I have just gained the pounds. I'm not swimming beacause I have a part time job as welll as my full time job and so my schedule is tight. My daughter brough me a botle of pills called 'my ali' or something. I do want to shed two sizes before she gets married next Christmas Eve. At this weight, which is the heaviest that I have ever been, I am not going to want to look att he wedding photos or video. lol. To be honest - I don't tell my skinny sisters how much I weigh either and I am the youngest one! Blessings
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
1. before you eat, drink plenty of water 2. don't eat too much rice, fatty foods 3. exercise 4. be positive.. always think that you're SEXY :) God bless
• United States
2 Jan 09
I am overweight and I don't get offended if someone mentions it. After all I already know I am overweight. I have tried a lot of different things and nothing ever works.