Ever feel like you partner takes advantage of you?

@Margajoe (4720)
Germany
January 3, 2009 11:04am CST
Do you ever have the feeling. Your partner (Man or Women)goes out and says they will be back within an hour... You are at home waiting. You don't have much money, so you stay at home all the time. Meanwhile your partner is finding all kinds of excuses to go out of the house. See's friends, drinks beer having fun. And it does not just stay with one hour. Why do people think other people are stupid? Why do people take advantage of each other? The great part is, he does not even realize that I know what he is doing. Or am I over reacting??? Are men (women) suppose to act that way? Take care.
3 responses
• United States
5 Jan 09
I feel like that right now. I know i shouldnt because I'm pretty sure he's not. But for some reason I cant help but think that he is. I think it's just uncertainty at times so it's normal from time to time
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
5 Jan 09
Hi! Uncertainty is very normal from time to time. Could it be that you have a low self esteem? That you don't see yourself as good enough? If that is the case, (which I hope not) then try to be more self assured. Be happy with you first. You are good and he should be happy with you. If not then he is not worth it. Normally when my self esteem goes down, I get uncertain too. Take care.
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
3 Jan 09
Sometimes, yes. I've always been liberal about buying gifts or spending money on my partner and both my current and several past boyfriends have taken it for granted and just started expecting me to pick up the tab for dinner or to bring them small gifts. I just had a long talk with my boyfriend about it, since it was starting to wear on me a bit.
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
3 Jan 09
Yes I know what you mean. We are doing something wrong. Men have cost me money all the time. And this last one has cost me the most. I will never learn my lesson!!! He keeps on telling me, he will help me pay my credit cards. I hope so. But, I am somewhat scared it won't happen. How was your conversation? Did it go well? I hope so. Take care.
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@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
3 Jan 09
There has been time in the past when i felt that way in the past. I simply told my ex when I was feeling that way and that it needed to stop before I ended the relationship.
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
3 Jan 09
Thank-you for your comment. I think I will have that talk pretty soon as well. I was going to talk about it, but I keep on thinking it might just be me? When I think he is acting normal, he starts again. By the way, is that talk the reason why he is know your ex??? Take care.