How far is too far?

@Humbug25 (12551)
January 3, 2009 4:15pm CST
When I was about 17 years old I once dated a guy who lived a good 5 or 6 hours car journey from where I lived but I was never in love with him and soon I met someone who lived closer to me and so broke it off with the long distance guy. What is the furthest distance you have dated someone?
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@ellie333 (21029)
3 Jan 09
Hi Humbug, I personally haven't dated long distance as such but my eldest daughter has been in a relationship since 16 with the same guy who she in fact met whilst abroad and is still with him today at 22, in that time she has lived in Devon, him in London, her in Australia, him in UK but they are still going strong and right now she is in Cambridge and he is in London (well actually at this moment they are both in Mexico together) but it works for them. Its been a bit crazy at times because of the distance but their love is strong and although young has stood the test of time and of distance. Huggles. Ellie :D
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 09
Wow, that is a love so strong! They say love can build a bridge, well that is some bridge spanning the distance of those young lovers! Sadly the bridge of love for Wolfie was demolished years ago and he ain't interested in rebuilding it, forgive this overly cynical wolf, I just don't believe in love.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Jan 09
Hi ya ellie333 I do think it can work but there has to be a lot of trust there and true love. I personally could never do the dirty on someone I was dating, never, I would sooner finish the realtionship first before taking another relationship any further which is what I did when I was 17 but like I said I didn't love the guy. I am so glad it is working out for your daughter and I think they do have something special or else the relationship would never have lasted as long as it has so far! Cheers ellie
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@ellie333 (21029)
3 Jan 09
Hi Wolfie, I know you have been hurt in the past but LOVE is very powerful and will hit when you least expect it too, I have been hurting over stuff recently myself but remembered words from a song I wrote years ago 'don't look behind into the future, the futures today, the futures tomorrow, the futures not yesterday. Don't cry too long over a loved one, look forward to tomorrow you might meet another one, someone to love you, someone to care, someone you didn't know yesterday. It goes on but open your heart it won't always get battered and bruised but you seem closed right now to allow anyone to get close to you in that way. If I sound like I am nagging, I am not, it is because I care. Big Huggles. Ellie :D
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@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
5 Jan 09
When I was younger and in my dating years the longest distance was probably only about 40 minutes. That was long enough and it didn't last long.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
7 Jan 09
Hi ya Shar19 They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder though eh? I don't think it is always the case! Thanks for your response
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• United States
4 Jan 09
2 hours by car, and that was plenty far enough. I'm glad I did, but it definitely can be taxing. (He's since moved back to near where I live. Now the commute is more like... 5 minutes. It's much more manageable, far more pleasant.) :)
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@Humbug25 (12551)
7 Jan 09
Hello CheshireKat Yes I guess it would become a bit of a bind. See I am interested in this guy who lives a couple of hours away but I have kids and that is the problem, I don't want them to get involved with him until I would be sure of the relationship, that it is going to work out or the kids get to an age where they don't care who I date but they are only 3, 5 and 8 and things like this effect them deeply! Thanks for your response
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@luvandpower (2049)
• United States
22 Jan 09
I dated my ex we were like five states away from each other...then I came back for her gosh...
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@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Jan 09
Hi ya luvandpower Five states is far!! So if you went back for her how come she's now your ex? Thanks for your response
• United States
27 Jan 09
She cheated on me, then I forgave her, she cheated on me again...so it was over lol. Then to make it all worse she emails me and says I am cheating on her wtf...we don't even go out anymore!?
@ammie07 (322)
• India
22 Jan 09
well it really depends on ones in relationship whether there relationship can handle the distance or not,according to me what matters the most is not the distance but love that binds the relationship,the commitment for each other....if the bond is very strong it would last any distance but if it is not then it wont....have a good day dear friend
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@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Jan 09
Hiya ammie07 I think you are right and if people are honest and trust each other then all should be good. I think if one gives into temptation then they didn't love the other person that much in the first place! Thanks for your response
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Jan 09
He was only about 1/2 hour away. When we broke up, I realized that I was always the one to travel the distance to see him. I think I should have taken that as a sign that he was not the guy for me. I think that if a guy is only sitting back and letting the girl do all the travelling, it's not a good sign. That's why one of my requirements for my hubby when we were dating, was that he did the travelling. He didn't know it was a requirement, of course, but I made him "work" a little bit in pursuing me. I wanted to see if he felt I was worth it to him.
@Humbug25 (12551)
7 Jan 09
Hi rocketj1 Good on ya!! Cheers
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@Mayuko (1272)
• United States
3 Jul 12
I've never been in a long-distance relationship, & I'd rather not be in one if I can help it. The farthest I'd want to live from my boyfriend would be a 20-minute drive. And I only say that because I don't drive. So a 20 minute car ride is about an hour bus ride (which is how I'd get to his house). If I did drive, & had a car, then I'd say about a 40 minute drive wouldn't be too bad, I guess. I just don't like the thought of being in a relationship with a guy, but not being able to see him very easily & quickly. For me, absence does not make my heart grow fonder. I'm an "out of sight, out of mind" kind of person. I know we could always talk on the phone or even video chat, but I just know there would be times when I'd just want to be able to hug or kiss him, & I'd be so disappointed that I couldn't. Probably the only way I'd be in a long distance relationship is if I knew the long distance was temporary. Like if I was dating a guy and he had to go to another city, state or even country for a couple of months, but I knew he'd be back.