Hot or Not

United States
January 4, 2009 12:26am CST
Men, lets say you were given the choice of two women to spend the rest of your life with. One was beautiful beyond description and the other was not at all perceived beautifully. The beautiful woman is the meanest woman in the world while the not beautiful girl is the kindest and sweetest person God has created. Who would you spend the rest of your life with and why? How much do looks factor into the decision of a spouse?
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@fangxum (43)
• China
4 Jan 09
i am a girl.As far as i know about men,most of them will always have a good impression at somebody who is beautiful at the first sight.However,if letting them to choose from the two kinds you describe,i think they will choose those suitable for him to be a spouse.Beauty will also become old and not as pretty as she was.Moreover,i don't think any normal guys will choose a meanest woman as his life partner.
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
10 Feb 09
While every man loves to look and fantasize about being with a beautiful woman it doesn't take long to come to the understanding that beauty is truly only skin deep. A sweet, kind and loving woman is by far the very best. Of course looks along with the sweet personality is a fantastic bonus but looks alone are not the most important thing. We are all human and what we look like tells us nothing about the true nature of that person. Give me a sweet, kind and loving woman anytime. That I can truly love. I am sure I am not the first to ask but is the picture you have posted here really you? Sure looks like someone I have seen at the movies. LOL!
• United States
10 Feb 09
:) I wish that were me :)...this is angelina jolie...famous american actress...i only put her up because i couldn't find any good pics of the acctress i wanted...Audrey Hepburn
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• United States
10 Feb 09
Well have someone take your picture and put that up Audrey. Got to be much better than this one don't you think. LOL! In looking at some of your posts and responses there is no doubt you are a quality woman in every way. Don't be afraid to show you off....."He says with his picture of a Kauai lighthouse"...... LOL!
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
4 Jan 09
Let me ask why it has to be extreme. Both looks and hearts matter a lot in life. Just like not good looking girls dont get dates same way ugly men dont get dates too unless he is very loaded. So both ways looks matter. But in long run a good wife matters a lot. Good wife is not necessarily good looking but she is definitely knows how to keep her home in good shape and how to look after husband and kids because it may be day of equal responsibilities but a home without woman taking it over is no home in any culture. So if i have to choose between two extremes i would choose a wife material not a showcase material but if i find a girl which is good looking and good heart then:).. what kind of girl r u? good looking or good heart? or both
• United States
4 Jan 09
I would choose heart before beauty any day. I chose the extremes because i see some women who behave like beauty is the only thing in life with meaning and substance. They act like if they can attain perfect beauty then there life will be happy. Just like money beauty cannot make you completely happy. I wanted to see where women who are like this get this idea from. Is it from men? Or is it from our culture? Or is it from other women? I should ask another question reflecting this thought...who puts more pressure on a woman to be perfect physically...
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
5 Jan 09
These days we are going for perfect bodies. Both men and woman are under pressure. Less in third world more in developed countries. I think no one can have a perfect body all the life and one must age gracefully but then when a man wants to hold a girl he needs some meat in his arms ..i dont think any man would like to hold bones but only some meat not a meat shop . but then gaining weight with age is ok but everyone must take care of his/her physique for health reasons and if u look good u feel good too. i dont know if i have been able to make u understand my point of view but if u love someone then the loved someone is always beautiful no matter how ugly he/she is... like a child is always the most beautiful person to mom same way ur beloved is most beautiful and sexy in whole world. If he/she is not then search your heart and see if u really love him/her
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I would take the nicer one. I hate being around rude/mean people, and besides, they all look the same with the lights off LOL
@zhang55 (19)
• China
6 Jan 09
Nice and pretty my mind ,I believe that the relationship ,and I believe my heart ,I will use his own life accompanied my love ,beauty is daydream space ,the spirit of the beautiful is truly beautiful!
5 Jan 09
You have asked to choose from beauty and the beast. My response is which one is the beauty or the beast. Inner beauty cannot be taken for granted. Perhaps on the outside the not so pretty lady is not perfect, but she will be a good mate, support the man she loves and be supported by that man. The good looking woman will make life a Hell on earth, never satisfied with the man's hard work, never acknowloging the good in others, and just plain mean. This describes my ex wife, as for many years I took her verbal, physical and mental abuse. Finally, I woke up and got out of the situation. I was lucky as I was able to bring my children with me. Being a good looking person does not translate to being a good human being. In this instance there is no question as to whom I would pick. My purpose in life is to be happy, enjoy my children and family, and to work equally with my spouse to make our house a home.
• India
5 Jan 09
I don't know about others but if i had to spend rest of my life with someone then i would choose the woman with a Kind heart over the one who is mean and selfish.After all its a matter of my whole life and why to waste it on someone who does not care for anyone besides herself only....
@modstar (9610)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
As my spouse? I would pick the not so beautiful woman. I don't want to spend my lifetime with mean woman. Sooner or later beauty will fade away so there'll be not much use of it. Nobody will go wrong with the sweetest person right? It will overcome her physical features. Looks really matters just on the dating stage. I mean it will be irrelevant as time go by especially when both of you are already married.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I know man who consider not beautiful as very pretty , it is very much"beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Beautiful can be defined in many ways and have different definition and degree in different man, some measure through look only, other measure beauty with other factors in addition to look. Is that really such a woman alive that is beautiful and the meanest in our world today?
@singlemommy (2953)
• United States
4 Jan 09
I'm not a man and I know their opinion would probably be totally different than mine, but if it was the best looking man versus the ugly man, I would totally have to look at the person on the inside versus the person on the outside. Sometimes it is the things on the inside that make a person ugly and another person beautiful.
@shamsta19 (3225)
• United States
4 Jan 09
The thing is though as men when are initially attracted to outer beauty, as I am sure women also do. It is when we get to know a person and find out who they really are is when we see their true beauty. I for one would not stay with the mean women because she was beautiful but I fear I may never meet the sweet one if I never get a chance to know her. I may never approach her if I didn't know her.
• United States
4 Jan 09
I would choose your icon/avatar. Hot, Fiesty, Actress, and kind! lol She is the beautiful woman and the not beautiful wrapped into one!
@myklj999 (19744)
4 Jan 09
I was married to a beautiful woman who ended up being the most cold-hearted b!tch I had ever met. She taught me that beauty on the outside means nothing at all.
• Romania
4 Jan 09
If i were a boy i think that i'll choose the not beautiful girl because she is the kindest and sweetest person and she understand me and she knows how to cares me...and i don't think that she can be so ugly...every women is beautiful in her way.
@sixclix (677)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I would spend the rest of my life with the kindest and sweetest girl while I spend a few months with the beautiful girl...or at least while she's still young and very beautiful. If she's mean, I'm sure she'll know the reason why I'll dump her after a few months. There's no point spending the rest of my life with the meanest woman in the world. That would be like living my current life in hell.......although that might encourage me to aim for heaven since I'm already in hell.....hhmmm.....