Does it make it right?

United States
January 4, 2009 1:54pm CST
Being a stay at home mom isn't all what people think it's cracked up to be. Sometimes moms need at break too! Taking care of family is a 24 hr job. Some husbands believe that a mother/wife is never suppose to be "off the clock" Yeah he make the money and pays the bills but does that make it right for him to think that a mother/wife's job isn't as important as his and that we don't deserve a break every now and then?
5 responses
• United States
31 Jul 09
I think that is so wrong. I myself am a stay at home mom of a soon to be 2 year old. It is plenty hard especially sence I am only 18. But all moms should get a little time to them self's that is why I love my hubby he says sence my job never ends that once in a wail I should just go out and do something. that is how I think all husbands should be. I mean how would they like it if they where the ones that stayed home all the time and never got out to be themselves. They get off work and then they relax so when is it our turn to relax.
• United States
14 Feb 09
I can't say I enjoy being away from them for too long. I enjoy my time when the children are asleep just before my husband gets home from work. However, when they are all up, I want to take in all I can. My children from my current marriage are 2 1/2 and 6 months. My older children from my first marriage are all teens. They grow up too quickly and before you know it they are out of the house. I'm sucking up every last breath of "now" as I can.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I agree that there are alot of husbands that feel that way...and it is unfortunate especially when it was a joint agreement for the Mom to stay home. I am a SAHM and I am so lucky that my husband realizes what I do all day.There was a time when I did work outside the home and he would have to be home with the kids and doing all the daily chores and he said he would rather be at work. He couldn't get the multi-tasking down....and alot of men can't. They think that we just do one thing here and there, when usually it more like 5-6 things at once. I hope your husband realizes the work you do soon and you feel appreciated.
• United States
4 Jan 09
You're right, stay at home mom's need a break now and then, thats why I sometimes have family members babysit for me so I can have some "me" time once in awhile. I have been both, A stay at home mom and a working mom and yes, the extra money is great and comes in handy but I find being a stay at home more rewarding because my son appreciates it and he is less mad and upset with me because I'm around more for him then always being gone at work, also the house is cleaner when I'm a stay at home mom..lol. My husband is the main bread winner now but sometimes I get stir crazy and I have to get a part-time job, my last job was suppose to be a part-time job but somehow I ended up with more hours then I wanted and my son wasn't happy about it so I quit. Taking care of a family is a 24 hr job and mom needs to make it a point to make time for herself and perhaps have a date night with the hubby or just have a evening off to relax and do whatever you want.It's the only way a mom can save her sanity .You just need to find a babysitter , like grandma or a trusted friend or family member to watch the kids overnight, like on a Friday or Saturday so you can kick back and relax .
• United States
4 Jan 09
No. It's not right, but, unfortunately its all too common. A lot of men feel this way. Until they step into the life of STAY HOME DAD......lol. Let him be mr. mom for a few days, and I promise, he will have a new found respect for what you do....lol...Good luck and Happy New year!