It's been a while, but I'm back and hubby is deployed again

United States
January 4, 2009 10:25pm CST
Hey everyone!!!!! I know it's been such a long time since I have been on here, but there has been so much going on in the past six months that it's just been so crazy with me trying to get on here. My husband redeployed December 1st of last year. This time, Afghanistan. It's like a never ending nightmare that will never go away. our daughter is now almost three and is really having a hard time with him leaving. I have had to deal with her emotions, as well as my ten and nine year olds, that I have had no time at all to grieve myself. A good thing at times, but not so good at other times. I have really missed talking and responding to everyone on here though. You all were so wonderful the last time he deployed and really encouraged me and kept me lifted up when i was down. It's good to be back though. I definitely missed you all. God bless
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6 responses
• United States
8 Jan 09
Hugs to you!, My husband is also deployed and even though you would think I would be used to deployments I am not. Girl please do not grieve ! grieving is for the departed. He will be back sooner than you think. I totally feel andunderstand your pain. I have a pic of my hubby by the front door on a table and I burn a religious candle everyday until he comes home. It helps me alot because I got it in my mind that as long as I do not let a flame go out he will come home sooner than expected & the same way he left. Do not forget there are some Army Wives who do care. I will do anything to help you keep your spirits up because right now is hard for us & most regular people do not understand the pain.
• United States
8 Jan 09
I don't think you ever get used to deployments. My husband and I have been married 5 years this coming July and this is his fourth deployment since we've been married. He left four days after we got married and been going ever since. It's not that I really grieve him being gone, I guess it's really just needing that time to myself to adjust and deal with how I am feeling. Although my three children keep me really busy, I still need that time to deal with myself. I do a lot of praying and reading and it helps a lot, but I guess I'm just one of those that I need to be able to sit and rationalize everything. Always been that way I reckon. Thank you so much for your kind words and I do realize there are still some military wives out there that care about each other. Not many around where I live, LOL, but I know they are out there. And this is a great site to be on as well. These people on here have gotten me through many a deployment. I will be here to, if you need anything as well. I know how it is. Thanks again so much and God bless you and your spouse!
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
7 Jan 09
I'm so glad to see you back hon! It's understandable why you were not here. I wouldn't be either if my hubby had been gone like that and came back. How long is he deployed for this time? I hope it's not a long time...for your sake as well as the kids. You just need to take it one day at a time. We're all here for you hon. Sending you lots of hugs.
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• United States
7 Jan 09
It's definitely good to be back. Thank you! He will be gone until March of next year, so it's another 14 months before he will be home. we thought it was a twelve month deployment, but no...it's a 15. Oh well, that's the life of a military family. Great to be back though. I have definitely missed talking to all of you. hugs to you..God bless
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@elemental69 (1562)
• Ireland
6 Jan 09
Hey, I am so sorry that you had to say goodbye to your husband again... I can imagine it is so hard... I hope he wont be away too long. :-)
• United States
6 Jan 09
Unfortunately, he will be gone until March of 2010. our daughter will be four by the time he comes home. I'm just having such a difficult time with this right now. This one has definitely been the worst one out of the three, not only for my kids, but for me as well. I am so frustrated and so bitter about it all over again. It's just crazy, but I have stayed strong more for my children and the people around me than for myself. I haven't had time to grieve over this or to just scream at the top of my lungs to get the anger out. LOL! Guess that time will eventually come. Just hope no one is around to hear it thinking I'm crazy and all that. Thanks for responding. and it's good to be back. God bless
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Here's a hug for you...and one for your little ones...and a special one for your brave husband. I want to thank you for all you and that wonderful man of yours have done for us. I can't say I understand what you're going through because I've never had a spouse deployed before, but my boyfriend is deployed in Iraq right now. Lucky for me, I meet him for the first time next month when he gets his leave. Afghanistan...I'm not going to go into that because there's no words to express them. Deep down inside, I have a feeling that my red head will be deployed there eventually as well. All we can do is hope for the best, pray for those who are there and stay together. Welcome back, by the way. I just wish I could have been more help. *Pleiades
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• United States
5 Jan 09
Thank you so much. And congratulations on getting to see your boyfriend next month. I know you must be so excited and nervous at the same time. I will be praying for you and yours as well that hopefully he won't have to go there to. It's not a good situation and I believe it's only gonna get worse, but I pray for our men every day that God keeps them safe and watches over them. You are going through a lot to, even though you are not married. Any time a loved one is sent over is a stressful and lonely time. i wish you the best and if you ever just need to talk, i'm here. thanks again and God bless
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Hi sweetie! I know it's a wee bit late in answering but I did want you to know that I haven't forgotten you! It's just that I've been going through pure hell since April and it's not let up yet. It's been one major thing after another. In fact, I've been sooo depressed and down and out that all I want to do is cry or sleep lately. I'm plain worn out mentally and physically. BUT, I do want to welcome you back to mylot although I wish it were under better circumstances but unfortunetly it's not and the life in the military. Been there and done that and don't want to ever again! lol Anyway, just in case I don't respond to your discussions, this is why, I've had to take some time for myself in hopes to get my head back on my shoulders the right way. In due time, I hope I do and soon.... God Bless You Too!
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• United States
20 Jan 09
Hi! I am sorry that you are struggling with some things. Life can get tough out there and it feels like we can't pick ourselves up sometimes. I know I've felt like that a lot here lately. Your in my prayers. Thank you for responding. That is definitely life in the military. Third deployment in 4 years. Getting old, but I knew what is was gonna be like when I married him and I don't regret it one bit. Having him home for any time is better than not having him here at all. God bless you and know you have a friend that is praying for you and wishing you the best. It will get better, have faith in that.
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• United States
25 Feb 09
My husband was in the Navy before we met and married. He's a bit older than me. He was deployed to Iraq many years ago, but served his time and got out of the Navy. God bless you for being there for your husband. We need more people like you in this world.
• United States
28 Feb 09
Thank you very much! It is greatly appreciated. God bless you as well and your husband!
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