do you like being elder sister or is it better being younger one?

@ammie07 (322)
India
January 5, 2009 2:56am CST
what do you think is more better being elder or younger one,i being elder think being younger would be better as my sister always gets what she wants and if she does any mistake she is excused whereas i am not.i guess when a elder sister is there you can receive a lot of help and she can guide you better ...........what do you guys think.let me know your opinions take care, WITH REGARDS amrita
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• Indonesia
8 Jan 09
like or dislike, i love to being elder sister. because this is my position and being elder sister is great. i feel so useful here, especially when my lil' bro and sist need my help.even sometimes they are always disturb my activity, but i love them and i wanna take care of them.
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
8 Jan 09
yeah i agree at end of the day they are our own.......have a good day
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
I am one of two children and have a younger Sister. From my own experiences growing up, the younger child definitely seems to get more leeway! There is also a larger amount of responsibility placed on the older child in most cases, which I guess is fair enough. I wouldn't have changed my own circumstances for the world, but I can appreciate how some people may wish they had of been the younger one!
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
5 Jan 09
i do agree that until we are at one's shoe we cant judge a person.but i too sometimes wish i was younger.anyways happy new year,take care[",]
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@youless (86595)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 09
I would like to be the younger sister as it seems that I will be much more spoiled by my family since I am the youngest:)
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
2 Feb 09
being younger has its own benefits........have a good day dear friend
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I think I like being an elder sister rather than being the younger one. It's true that being the younger one has its advantages like being excused for making mistakes but still, if you look at the whole elder sister idea, it's still the best. I have one younger sister, and our gap is about 7 years. We do get along well although we sometimes fight about nonsense things. I think I will not trade being an elder sister to being the younger one.
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
2 Feb 09
its good that you are happy in your relationship......one should be happy in all relationship as its the key to successful relationship have a good day dear friend
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I like to be the younger one only. There are many advantages in that. You do not have any responsibilities. You can be a free bird. You can get advice and informations from your elder sister. You can share her apparels and accessories. You can be a pet at home..There are many advantages like this..
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
24 Jan 09
yes i totally agree with you my dear friend........have a good day
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Hello ammie07! I would prefer to be a younger sister than an elder sister. I know how hard to be the oldest sibling in the family. All the responsibility is in you. You have to mature fast too to be a good role model in the family. If you are the youngest, everybody in the family would understand you and sometimes everybody would consider you.
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
8 Jan 09
yeah that's what we elders always feel,but there are two side of coins......[",]
@pumpkinjam (5697)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 09
I can give you both perspectives as I am in the middle. I am the second of 3 girls. I think I prefer being a little sister and having my big sister to go to if I need someone who's not my mum. Being a big sister has always been a bit of a pain for me for the same reasons you mentioned. My little sister often used to get away with a lot of things because she was the youngest. Although being the middle one, I did used to find that my older and younger sisters would be closer to each other and I would be left out. Now that we are older, it's not so bad as we are all grown up with our own families and everything and while my little sister is still very little sister-ish, my big sister is like a friend although she knows when it's time to be a friend and when it's time to be bossy big sis!
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
6 Jan 09
hi pumpkinjam.......happy new year,take care[",]
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@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
hi, ammie i am the youngest in the family and i am fine with it. i get to experience being a little spoiled and being the favorite. but i also get to experience being the "responsible" one because i am my two brothers' only sister. as a girl, i am the one always responsible for taking care of the house and the finances whenever our parents are away. i have no complaints have a nice day!
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
5 Jan 09
hi,rainegurl. happy new year.i do agree sometimes younger ones do take responsibilities
• United States
5 Jan 09
Well I am an older sister and i think it puts a lot of pressure on my shoulders to pick up the slack say if my mom decides for the moment she doesn't want to be a mom. Then i kinda have to be the big sister and be their for my siblings. Sometimes can be very irritating when no one ends up being there for you in the end.
@ammie07 (322)
• India
5 Jan 09
hiiiii happy new year, i am the elder one and have been in the same situation before so i can understand sometimes it very difficult and irritating
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I am the older sister. I feel guilty. You see i never realized that when you have a younger sister they look up to you and follow in your steps. I never realized it untill after i had my son. My sister was following me in my steps. She has completely caught up. I am disappointed in myself and wish i wouldn't of made some of the choices i made. So in a way i think its best being the younger one cause you can learn from your older siblings and have a chance not to make some mistakes. ALthough i do like being the eldest because i get to help my younger siblings out in alot of ways.
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@subha12 (18462)
• India
2 Feb 09
i am younger in the family. I do not have sister but brother. i feel its better to be younger. But it always does not mean I am excused at all faults.
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@aweins (4203)
• India
1 Feb 09
hi ammie07, my dear freind, we are two sisters and i am the older one. it is i think , a lot of responsibility and burden, as the right word, i suppose for elder sister. but as my friend, always says, that it depends on a person to person. if you are older, but dont take your responsibilities, then there is no use . but i am a person who know and understsand her responsibilities very well. i am always like a shadow for my young sister. i am always there with her, when she needs and when she dont also. sometimes she dont even know , but i know each and everything about her . how she spent her day, what happened, and all. sometimes i have to tackle the situation very delicately. it is a big responsibility to be a big sisiter, my friend.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
I'm the eldest of seven and it's a HUGE responsibility. I hate the I can't do anything wrong because my mom would lay a guilt trip on me. 'Your siblings look up to you!' I was also responsible for babysitting. I had to make sure they were in bed on time, had homework done, etc. When they didn't I would get in trouble because it was my job to make sure they did what they were supposed to! At the other end though, I was always the first to do anything. Go to a school dance, wear make up, etc. My siblings were always so jealous. 'That's not fair, Veronica gets to do it, why cant I?' They would kill to hang out with me. They loved being in my room listening to music with me. They felt so cool. And their friends would come over and obsess over me. 'She's so cool!' They would always brag about having a sister in middle school. And they would threaten bullies with me. No one would mess with them. I would make appearances to scare these bullies and they would always back off.
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@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Hi, friend. I'm the eldest of 4 siblings, and presently I'm already married with one daughter for a child. However due to some financial difficulties and upon the advice of my parents, my spouse and I decided to work and live here in the city renting same house with my younger siblings. I find it quite difficult being the eldest because eventhough I'm already married, I feel that my parents still expect me to take care and supervise my siblings. Honestly, I don't think they still need my supervision because they are already of age. In fact, my youngest sister is turning 22 this year but she's still studying in college. She's a bit lazy in her studies; she would often ask for my help and I'm willing to teach her. Unfortunately, she seems not to take things seriously. She has even stopped for 1 semester because of personal reasons and of her own doing. Being the eldest, I tried to be as responsible and understanding as possible. But sometimes, I feel that life seems unfair because at this point in time, I should be busy with my work and my own family; but because we live in the same house with my siblings, my time for my family is divided with my siblings, too. Particularly when I'm feeling down or disappointed, I find myself wondering if life would be the same if I were not the eldest, instead I'm the youngest. Would life be different for me? Anyway, happy new year to you, friend.
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@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I have been the eldest since I was 5. I love it. I have never known what it is like to be a younger sibling. I loved looking after my siblings & making sure they were safe & well. My youngest sisters are 9 years younger than me & 2 of my best friends. I also loved that they have always known they can depend on me when needed.
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
2 Feb 09
People tend to think that being younger is a good excuse to receive help or be taken good care of.Thats what actually happens in most families.I cant say I like to be the elder one,but I sometimes I do enjoy being the one who give orders in some situations.lol. I guess I just get used to it. Happy mylotting!