how do you make friends with strangers?
January 5, 2009 11:40am CST
when i was younger i used to travel a lot even if i dont know the place cuz i love adventures...then i make friends to stranger by smiling or asking for something..so that we can have a conversation..and thats i make friends to strangers..how about you guys..how do you make friends to strangers..plz.share
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5 Jan 09
oh yes. i make the same way just the way you do. Just put on a HUGE HUGE smile. And make idle talk. You can talk about the weather, the activity the both of you are working on or just some other random stuff. But of course, i don't go walking down the streets with a huge smile plastered and talking to any other person though. They might think i'm mad. IN fact, i don't even smile much when i'm on the road walking alone.
5 Jan 09
I used to find speaking with strangers difficult and uncomfortable because, well, they're strangers! What could we have in common that would be sufficient to striking up a friendship? I was also self-conscious and critical of myself, and probably subconsciously afraid of rejection. I still have moments when I'm shy, but over the years I've become much more comfortable with myself and consequently with others as well. Making friends with strangers involves first taking an interest in others, of not being self-focused. The rest follows naturally: As soon as you're not focused on yourself, on whether or not someone will like you or whether you will like them or what you like and don't like, your attention turns to those around you. And the world, the people in it, are fascinating even on a mundane daily routine level. Using curiosity of others as your guide, it's simple to find something to relate to: we all experience the same weather (locally), we all eat, we all wear clothing, and so on. Those elements and more connect us all. I've found myself commenting on a person's hairstyle, their children, what they're buying, where they're going, the stress or joy that shows on their face.. it's all interesting if your focus is not on you but on them. Usually just sincerely noticing a person, sincerely taking an interest in them, even if the topic is simple and mundane, is flattering to that person and will usually cause them find you attractive on some level. And a friendship is started.