do you believe in Marriage?

India
January 5, 2009 11:57pm CST
its one of the words that most single people dread, isnt it? Especially the men.. Why is it such a scary thought? Some people say that they are against marriage coz they see lots of marriages fail around them.. Is that the reason? unless someone tries something out, he/she cannot know whether it would fail or not right?? Just because someone else failed in marriage doesnt mean we would.. I do intend to marry someday.. so i am open to the concept of marriage. i think it is beautiful when a man and woman decide to become one and share everythign for the rest of their lives.. so do u believe in marriage?
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33 responses
@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
6 Jan 09
I definitely believe in marriage. It's one of the best institutions around. I've been married to the same man for 44 1/2 years! He had made up his mind before me met me that he wasn't getting married until he was 30. He was very shy. THEN, he met me. We married 15 months later. He was 22 1/2, and I was 21 1/2. And we've been happily married ever since.
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• India
6 Jan 09
wow.. that is beautiful.. i guess is a very lucky guy and you have been lucky to have found a guy that loves you so..
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• Pakistan
6 Jan 09
i think marriage is so much important for life love will fail once a day if there is no relation of marriage between 2 of them.
• India
6 Jan 09
thanks for replying
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• India
6 Jan 09
I believe in marriage ,bcoz every person need some partner to share their happy and sadness.That is the reason they are called life partner.It is very boring in our life without a life partner .Upto certain age we can live with our friends ,brothers ,sisters,etc but after some years every body will look after their own life and then you will be alone in the world .And the second important thing after our marriage we get is our precious child .It is every persons duty to look after their own child .So marriage is a important event in every ones life.
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• India
6 Jan 09
yes ajith.. marriage is very important.. thanks a lot for replying
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Well I am a man but I am married and happy about it. I do not think that we should dread because it is a choice for one. You may choose to be single all your life if you want to. So for those that dread it you should not if you cannot commit at all. For me back then I have the same feeling but as I mature in life I felt the need to find a partner for life and fortunately I found one and I am happy about it. It is just a leap of faith to believe in it.
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• China
6 Jan 09
I believe in marrige, though I am single now. Maybe there are a lot of difficulties in marriage, but I believe that everything can be resolved if we try our best. To the marriaged man and woman, maybe the most important thing is to communicate with each other and try to think for others.
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• India
6 Jan 09
yes.. communication is very very important in a marriage.. without it , it just fails
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@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Yes, I do believe in marriage. It is really important for me to get married. Two people who truly love each other should commit themselves to one another. I just got married January 2008 and I am happy that my husband and I will be celebrating our first anniversary soon. I want us to be like my parents. They celebrated their golden wedding anniversary last June 2008.
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@aakay4u (799)
• India
6 Jan 09
yes i do beleive in marriages its a proven and accepted norm of our way of living since thousands of years.its a scary thought in the sense that the way we used to live till we get married gets changed drastically after marriage.people are scared as they might be seeing no more personal freedom,lots of responsibilities etc after marriage.
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• India
6 Jan 09
yes.. the constitution of marriage is falling slowly.. even i think so
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• India
7 Jan 09
Yes,I do believe in marriage,but not for everyone and it depends lot on marrying a right or wrong person.Marriage should be considered as a part of life.I think life is not complete with out a marriage.
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• India
7 Jan 09
why not for everyone?
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
I must be honest the thought of marriage scares me, as I have been very hurt by people in the past that i trusted so muc and put that together with all the other things i hear I am just not willing to take the chance, i am a very independent person and to be honest have done well for myself, I just don't need someone to come in to my life and upset things but if i fell in love tomorrow i might think differently, who knows the heart makes us do strange things..
@the_ruler (1442)
• Turkey
6 Jan 09
I also believe in marriage. The current world is changing in a bad way and people are losing their values. One of these values are, surely the ones we gain from the families. As being married is being more and more unpopular, the children who are not brought up by a happy family also don't consider these things. I don't think it will lead a good situation as older times were always better and people were more peaceful and sincere to each other.
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@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 09
It can still work if we try. Why not set any example rather than looking at the negative side of things. There are a lot of families you are trying to set good moral standards for not only their children but for other to follows. I believe that sometimes that society sometimes dictates to family the standard that we should set for our kids. I am talking about the quality movies and musics that our children have free access to which sometimes divert the very good moral standard that we tried so hard to preserved away from our children.
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@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
7 Jan 09
Hey,Yes I believe in marriage because it is a thing when it is a man an a woman unite and become one flesh. God invented marriage for the sole purpose of being with one another, and reproducing and multiplying. If you do see lots of marriages fail around you that is a GOOD thing to get married. Why, you may ask? Because it is way easier for you to NOT do what they have done. For example, if one of them went and slept with another person of the opposite gender, that is one thing for you NOT to do. Ok, here is a bad example: if you see someone jump of a cliff, would you also do it? Of course NOT! So if you see marriages fail, does that mean that yours will aswell? Of course NOT! I hope that I have expressed myself and my thoughts clearly. Thx!:D
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• India
9 Jan 09
thanks for replying
• United States
6 Jan 09
yes i do. i think marriage is very important and i can be scary. i think most people are scared of the commitment or of "forever" some worry if they are making the right decision. its a big decision but very important as well
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• India
12 Jan 09
Hey i guess most of us do believe in marriages but i really feel that its a compromise that we are doing with ourselves and for what?? We have to supress our needs n think of others. I know they ur family but still. I am happy livin my life as a single n just dating ladies. So why can't life be so simple no??
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• India
12 Jan 09
well life would be fine like that till your 30 or 40 maximum.. after that you think women would be available to date you?? NOt many young women would be willing to date tht old a person..
• Switzerland
6 Jan 09
i'm quite young and i dont believe in marriage. it's a nice party and it's sure a lot of fun, but it is kinda expensive. why dont just live together for the rest of your lifes. thats enough i think. maybe when im getting older my opinion will change. we'll see that. people who are married for a long time impress me though!
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@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 09
Why do you say that it is expensive, it should not be when the cost sharing is between two people, it will be if you are the man and shoulder all the expenses when your other half choose not to work and stay home and take care of the kids. Living in an unmarried relationship for the rest of your life will just not cut it. There are a lot of benefits to be derived from a marriage union which you do not get from a shacked up union. For example, children born into marriages will share both parents names and not just the daddy's name along, it will demonstrate unity to the child and he/she will feel that he belong to both parents literally and not just to the man.
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• Switzerland
8 Jan 09
to me, it's more a symbol of love, than anything else. i believe you don't have to be married to be happy with a person. okay it makes a lot of things easier. there are people that only sell apartements to married couples, but thats just an example. yeah but you're right with the names. it looks weird, if the father and the kids share the same name and the mother has another one. thats defenatly strange for the mother.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
6 Jan 09
I believe very strongly in marriage. My husband and I have been together for over 12 years and we have been married for 3 of those years. We knew that we loved eachother and that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and because of that we decided to get married. We now have two beautiful children and still love eachother very deeply. I think that you are right, there are a lot of people out there that tell us they don't like the idea of marriage because of a failed marraige that they have withnessed. I think(like you) that this is their biggest mistake. You can not go through life doing or not doing something because someone you know, did or didn't do it. Life is about living and making the most of the time we have here in this world. If you are not willing to take chances, life will pass you by.
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@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 09
I agreed with you life is about taking chances and we will not know until we have tried. You take a chance when you move to a new city or take on a new job, when you choose a new friend, its all about living and cannot view other failed marriages and think that is is not a good thing.
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@mjsintos (17)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
yes i do believe in marriage. im 31 and went thru that very simple but wonderful ceremony a few months ago. after all the failed marriages around we finally realize our love for each other is more than our fear for the I DO's. well comes with the six years enjoying good and bad times together
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@pam1201 (23)
• United States
6 Jan 09
I was married to my husband for 30 years and i do believe in marriage but i dont believe it is a must for some people.let me explain, we were divorced last year, but not because we no longer want to be together, we live in Arkansas and in 1995 i was declared disabled and put on ssi, then in 2001 my husband had an accident and became disabled.as soon as he got his first check they took my check and medicaid which i use to see doctors, buy medicines.it was as if i no longer mattered because he was disabled to our government and state.by arkansas law a married couple can only make $875 combined so mine had to go. we wrestled with divorce for a long time because 30 years is a lifetime, but eventually we succumbed and divorced, we still live together but they cant touch my healthcare or income now. but i cant imagine spending my life without him married or not. but yes, i do believe it brings comfort to some people to have the liscense to say they are committed to each other but if you truly are soulmates it wont change things either way.
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• Philippines
7 Jan 09
People are scared. they fear that things won't workout that's why they just get contented being single. when deep inside, on a cold lonely night, when no one is there to put an arm around them, they cry for affection.
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@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
6 Jan 09
I am not sure whether I believe marriage or not. The person whom I will marry to is the key factor. If he is kind ,responsible ,diligent and love me, also I love him, I may feel optimistic to the marriage. Otherwise,it is on the contrary. As I am single now, what I can do now is to improve myself and enjoy the single life.
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• India
9 Jan 09
yeah thanks for replying
@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 09
People need not be scared of marriage because they see other marriages failed. Marriage is a committal decision between a man and woman who love each other, feel comfortable with each other, want to have children together and share a long and lasting happy life together. When a man and a woman decides to get married you are telling the world that yes I love this man/woman and he/she belongs to me. This means that they are for each other totally not for anyone else. Remember that when a man and a woman get together for a relationship that leads to marriage they are two different people with different interest, from different background who wants to share that difference with each other. Marriages are not perfect, they face problems too but its how they both deal with them that counts. If you are married for the wrong reason, example for financial reasons then when the problems starts you will want to take your things and run because that relationship is not based on love. Marriage is a wonderful thing, it is a union blessed and honoured by God. I have been married for 8 years and I am loving every moment of it. There are problems yes and sometimes my husband makes me want to scream his head off, but we love each other and we try as best to make things work for us. I am important to him which is a great feeling and he is important to me. I will marry him over again if I am given the chance.
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• United States
6 Jan 09
I personally do not believe in marriage. Unfortunately i have been down that road one too many times. I have personally experience that as soon as the "I dos" are said, everything changes. I have not known one married couple that have stayed together. Maybe it is that people don't believe in marriage because they have seen so many fail. In my case, I have experienced the failing of a marriage more than once. My last husband and I have been married 10 years this last december (2008) and we are about a month away from our final divorce hearing. We have been separated for almost 4 years now. We tried to make it work but the hurt he has caused me throughout the years, i just can't get over. I look at it that I must be one of those people that just don't get that happily ever after and get to share my life with my prince charming. I am sure that marriage works for some people and I believe that marriage isn't for others. But I do believe that you have to try something before you can say you don't like it or believe in it.
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@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 09
I feel for you I am really sorry to hear that you have been down that road so often which have left you with bad memories and hurt. Those men never deserve you, you are such a wonderful person to be taken for granted by other. God will heal your hurt in time and trust me someday you might believe in marriage again. Never say never.
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