What do you do when you enter a room full of argumentative people?

India
January 6, 2009 2:59pm CST
Do you try to defuse the situation? Do you turn around and run? Do you take on one side or the other? What? This is just a theoretical question. I’m curious as to the kinds of responses people have to tense situations like this. Extra points ;-) for those who describe how they accomplish their chosen response, or how they minimize the chance of negative repercussions.
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@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
7 Jan 09
i will walk backwards and dont join them
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@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
7 Jan 09
If is was not about me, myself and I? I'd walk right out of there. No point adding fuel to the fire. Which, when it comes to my temper can usually the case. I don't know when to back down. So better to leave well alone.
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@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
7 Jan 09
Sometimes I would try to defuse the situation, by trying to get people to see each others' point of view. This would only work if it's people that i work for, because most of them (kids and parents) listen to me. If it was my family - parents/aunts/uncles - I'd pretend to receive a phone call from a client and leave the building.
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@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
7 Jan 09
This is a nice topic. Actually, this is the scene I get to see a lot of days in my office particularly in the afternoon. Lots of debates go on there during this time almost daily. I do not like noise. But I have no option to go anywhere else. So, I try to adjust to the situation. I usually do not participate in such group debates as most of the time I have found them to be absolutely useless.
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@tm0ney3 (28)
6 Jan 09
I live IMMEDIATELY. I cannot stand bickering people.
6 Jan 09
I meant 'leave' in my last post. Oops.
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@suzzy3 (8400)
10 Jan 09
I think keep quite and make my excuses and leave.I try to find out what happened if I can be bothered and try to stop the argument otherwise I just stay away.It is in my house I would ask them to stop if they did not please leave and comeback another day when it is all sorted out,It hardly ever happens in my home they all know I like it peaceful and happy so they normally leave any dispute the other side of the door and get along while they are with me.There are to many terrible things going on in the world to squabble about with friends and family.In actual fact my hubby and I have done rather well at keeping out of family arguments and we find life much happier.I may not always agree with someone but I have learn't to keep my thoughts to my self.Other wise you end up in the middle of something and that is a horrible place to be.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I wouldn't pick sides. I would say something if I had something to say, if I don't have something to say I will just keep my mouth shout. Depending on the situation. I will speak what I believe is to be the truth. Not taking sides just what I believe in would be my own side. If others agree so be it, but it doesn't say you are taking sides. To me taking sides is if you are saying something that you don't believe or don't think is true just to agree with someone. If that makes any sense.
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I would probably choose to listen to hear what the issue is. I am not sure that I would try to intervene because it might not be my place to interfere with the people. In a tense situation I will try to defuse it however I might need to turn around and come back when the pandemonium is over with.
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@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
7 Jan 09
I try not to get involved unless someone asks me a direct question. I am a very opiniated person and will speak to you honestly and truthfully. So if there is arguement going on I try not to get involved. I have been know to try to diffuse a argument when its gotton to heated.
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@dropofrain (1168)
• India
7 Jan 09
I prefer to stay quiet only when I get in a room full of argumentative people. It leads to a calm situation there after. It lets them decrease the chances of heated arguments.
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@jakes9 (215)
• India
7 Jan 09
When I enter a room full of argumentative people, I won't dare to step in and argue with them. Because, as they say, arguing is not my cup of tea! I don't like to argue, unless and until, its an issue worth talking about. I would never argue on baseless topics, nor entertain people who do so. So, the moral of the story is that i would leave that room immediately, without wasting another second!
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
7 Jan 09
I do turn around and leave the room. I hate to come in to a room full of people who already arguing about something, I did not hear from the beginning. It is not running, it is leaving a rom full of people that is behaving bad in my opinion.
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• Philippines
7 Jan 09
When I enter a room that is full of argumentative people,I'll make it a point that I understand what topic they're argueing. By then, I will know which side to take. I''d love to be in a room like this because I will learn how to defend myself like of the Debate Society I'm into when Im still in highschool.
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@cynthia23 (163)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
no ill never argue if somebody was so hot,yes if want to argue with me talk to them nice way,be calm,suggest just be calm down everything while be alright,if they can't listen to me live them alone mostly if do everything to make them calm down but never effective promise live them alone,okies that your rights do what ever you like
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• Indonesia
7 Jan 09
i will try to be calm there n still think clear..coz a room full of argumentative ppl can affect us, n make us pick a side eventho we not really sure if their arguments were right or wrong..so i'd better stay calm, think smart n just follow my intuition n speak the truth and wats right for me..but, wats right for me not always right for others. at least, i speak up my mind n if there are still arguments, i will learn about it first, if there is a possible problem solving i will fight for it till we found a conclusion lol..but if not, n its a never ending arguments lol i will leave it just like that lmao.. n how bout u coolmailraj ?
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• United States
7 Jan 09
turn around and go out the door I just walked through. *bonus points* I don't like fighting... in fact I hate it! I would sneak out. no one would even know I was there! :)
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@annjilena (5621)
• United States
7 Jan 09
i would leave i don,t want to be amongst all those wolves as a matter of fact i would run don,t want no part of whats going on.my saying is is it not broken don,t fix iy.and since it not my problem iam gone.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
7 Jan 09
I cannot answer that without knowing why I have to be in that room, if I don't need to be there like it is not for an important meeting or something I would just leave. If I had to be there I probably would just sit in the corner and be quiet. Sometimes too much arguing makes me nervous.
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@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
7 Jan 09
i tell them to shut the hell up, and then tell them do a shot and call it a day. i often don't side, unless they ask and everyone know me know i will be honest who i think is wrong.
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@MizzLadyB08 (1175)
• United States
7 Jan 09
If I walked into the room and people was arguing i probably will turn around and walk right back out because I do not like to argue with anybody about anything. Plus, I do not like getting in the middle of people disagreements if is not concerning me.
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