To be happy in life depends on you or on others??

@GAGAN187 (287)
India
January 7, 2009 2:56am CST
NO one can make you feel a different way ...you make your self happy ...you decide to feel happy . no one can make you mad,you choose to be mad do u agree with me or not ??? and if no , plz tell ur views on it???
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8 responses
@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
13 Jan 09
I think it is true that no one makes you happy or sad. You don't get happy or sad because of the things that happens or because of the things that others do. You get happy or sad because of the way you choose to perceive the things that happen. I believe the words I just wrote, but in my daily life I forget them all the time. When I get angry or sad there is no room in my mind for those thoughts. I tend think that the situation is bad, but it isn't bad, I am the one who choose to perceive it as bad. My favourite quote by Victor Frankl express my opinion much better than I can do it myself: "We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way"
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
It is wishful thinking to believe that others don't affect you. We constantly have to deal with others and they do affect us whether we claim that they don't.
@diansinta (7551)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 09
you make your self happy ...If you decide to feel happy I totally agree with that Gaga187, most of people even me sometimes forget about that.Thank you for remind me of this, very powerful and useful post Happy posting always, oxox'dian from bali island.
@cambiste (1245)
• India
9 Jan 09
I remember some famous psycologist said those words. I cannot agree with it however, its animal nature to follow instinct, and a situation doesnt not let you choose in many cases. There are situations you can remain calm. But there are other situations where you cannot remain calm. Happiness is def not that easy. You cannot be happy just because you chose to. If it was as easy as that, no one would buy tickets to theaters or watch mr.bean or have reuniuons with old friends. People would stop buying TVs and music albums or reading books and probably stop mylotting. Im sure very few can sit in the prison and say they were happy (and they're not freedom fighters) because they chose that. Anyway, happy mylotting.
@shav9292 (928)
• India
7 Jan 09
ok ,im not sure if my views are correct but i will express them anyway. a selfish man wants to be happy wishing others to be sad but a good man wants himself to be happy along with others but a great man wants others to be happy not caring much for himself. have a nice day.
• India
7 Jan 09
Hi gagan, I recently have joined a meditation class. Here it is taught what you have told. But sometimes when someone near and dear behaves in a wrong way( my opinion, may not be his) or speaks some rude things, I cannot keep my feelings unchanged. But wish if I could control my feelings, I would have been really happy. I would have not to depend on external matters for happiness. I am trying hard. Good luck
@melvill (392)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Yes you're right. A person's happiness depends on him. You can control your feelings.
• Brisbane, Australia
7 Jan 09
Being happy is completely depend on us. Individually it is a decision what to feel and how to feel. There can be many reasons around you and with you to make you sad or cry but it is kind of examination of yours how you deal with such situation.