Abortion would you support it if you knew baby is deformed.

@agrim94 (3812)
India
January 7, 2009 3:24am CST
Today with the advancement of the medical science and especially the advancement of radiological diagnosis like ultrasound it is very easy to know if there is any abnormality to the baby in the womb. If the baby has serious abnormalities which would make babies life hell or very short lived or if u know that your baby would need blood transfusions every now and then and you will not be able to afford his or her treatment. Would you go for abortion or would you still bring the deformed baby in this cruel world where he wont know the difference between hospital room and his own room in your house?
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@ktosea (2027)
• China
7 Jan 09
life is short and you want your baby to live in a cruel world, the advancement of the medical science is really quick but still how do you know if the baby can wait for the coming day.I don't want the baby lives in uncertainties.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
7 Jan 09
Every one has right to live good life but same time everyone has right to love too.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
7 Jan 09
i meant right to live too.
@abcnadz (461)
• India
1 Apr 09
i would go for an abortion in such a situatuion. i usually dont appreciate abortion. it is better to do the abortion than let the child suffer when it comes into the world. once it comes into the world, we will protect it and take care of it in all the possible ways and we won't let the child feel that he/she is deformed. i would love it with all my heart. but a child cannot live only in front of our eyes. other people may look down at the kid. a simple disgusting look passed by a tresspasser is more than enough to hurt its feelings. and a lot of them will do that. they will whisper things into their friend's ears in front of the kid. i wouldn't want my kid to go through all that. i would go for an abortion have a nice day :)
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
1 Apr 09
Thanks abcnadz for the response and i know how difficult and costly it is to take care of a baby who is deformed and when you know the baby is dying day by day minute by minute.
@asweetie (1188)
• India
1 Apr 09
If in future when ihave my baby and i find on ultrasound that baby is quite severely deformed like you mentioned in ur responses to some response then definitely i would abort my baby. It is no use to bring a baby in this world who cant live enough and is always in pain.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
1 Apr 09
Thanks sweetie for the response and i would pray that all your babies when ever you decide to have them are perfectly normal and healthy.
@roysville (496)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Such an intriguing question. But in spite of the advancement of technology, is it really ours to say who lives or not? If indeed the baby has some abnormalities, we really can't tell how the baby's life would be. But accepting him/her and showering him/her with our love can make life worthwhile for the baby. The baby was entrusted to us for a reason...
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
1 Apr 09
Thanks for the response roysville and it is up to individuals to think about it. if they would be able to care for the child. Will they be able to afford the costly treatments of the child and if they have to over work for the money needed for treatments which might be life long and if they have to work for very long hours who is going to take care of the child and if all the resources of the household are used for the treatment of this special kid then what about other kids, would you take away their share of money too which was needed for their good upbringing and education.
• Canada
24 Jan 09
Life is cruel all because of the Sin of our first parents we are imperfect and thus have abnormal kids. I didn't have mine killed because it had a spinal befida. Most of them die at 25 and are wheel chair bounded. My son got epilepsie because of the operation but is now 43 and is living a full life. If I had not allowed the operation and let him die then I wouldn't have had the joy of my son and I have grand children from him. If you are born without arms or legs, you live with it. With science so advance they now can change that by operating a foetus right in the womb..even take it out..operate on it and put it back.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
1 Apr 09
Thanks dancing rad feather for the response and i do value your sentiments and may be the medical science is far too advanced in Canada than in India and not everyone can afford such costly operations. I dont say that they shouldn't be allowed to be born but i was just trying to understand what most people would think about it.
• United States
22 Jan 09
No, not even if there was a risk to my life...that baby is mine and my husbands and it is precious and loved and wanted. I would have the baby and i know god can do miracles and he can heal my baby or provide a way for my baby to have a safe life.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
1 Apr 09
Thanks for your response ratcliffe 07 but you must know the rule .. every religion would support the right to life of mother than that of unborn baby and even medical ethics would also support mothers life over a fetus.
• India
8 Jan 09
i think we should frist check whether the baby can be cured. if not we should think adout abortion ,our society is really cruel that they won't allow them to live even if they have extra talent.if we cannot afford their treatment it is really a sad situation .that will make both the parents and child sad.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
i wasnt asking about small defects like cleft lip or cleft palate or some minor heart problem.. but something like what i said in answer no 7 in this question . thx
• India
8 Jan 09
That baby is not born yet. He will suffer if he born with abnormally. So if it is possible then its better to avoid the baby's birth. Instead of seeing his suffering after his birth , I think its better to avoid it . Yea its a pin eventhough
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
well manoj i know what you are talking about and it would be wise decision too but it needs lots of courage to abort your baby ..lots of emotional and religious issues.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
I think the baby still has the right to be given the chance to try to live even if he is deformed. It is not for the parents or the doctors to decide whether he should live or not, the fact that he is still alive despite his defects means that he deserves that chance. If the baby should have a short life here on earth then at least the parents can say that they gave their best for their baby and did not give up on him immediately because of his defects. Maybe the parents are the one to be blamed for the defect, maybe nobody is to be blamed, but definitely, its not the baby's fault so why should he/she be the one to die
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
thankyou for your response and i know what you meant by this but pls read my response to reply no 7 and 8 for this question so you know what i was talking about.
• United States
8 Jan 09
I don't know I'ts a very hard decision but I'ts a realy bad thing that happen every day in the world so I don't realy know what will I do if that happen to me. thanks
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
Thx for your response and beleive me you are not the only one who right now at this time of life doesnt know which decision would he/she take
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
That's a very hard question to answer. I've ever been pregnant and am not even married. So I can't answer that right now. I'll cross the bridge when I get there. This is not something that I have a constant opinion on because my decision can be affected by the baby's condition and by the people in my life in the future. Anyway, I hope none of us ever have to make this kind of decision. It will be a very painful one.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
well me too..i dont like young baby sick leave alone he or she has such a major problem and yes i prey you dont have to make this decision.noone should and every preganancy should result in healthy baby physically as well as mentally but not every one doesnt get it ..
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I think we have very little right to intervene in someone's right to life - whethere they be a baby or an old man. I, personally, leave that to a higher power. No one knows what a person's future is, all we know is what we think it might be. And, I wouldn't take someone's life because of a worst case scenario. This world is not 100% cruel. What is cruel is killing someone because that appear, to some people, to be unacceptable human beings (and not because of anything that they did wrong). Would you put your dog to sleep if he couldn't see, would you drop your car at the nearest dump if the rearview mirror fell off and the bumper was dragging on the ground, would you take the life of your child if they werer in an accident and could no longer walk or talk?
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
I was talking about condition like i said in my response to answer no 7 and not some defect like baby dont have an eye or a limb.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
7 Jan 09
If medical science can tell that a baby will be born deformed, surely it will come up with advances that will help it get better. Besides what would you think of the cruelty of denying medical help for such a helpless infant? I am sure that there would be doctors and nurses and others who would be willing to donate their time to help. And if it is destined to just live a short life would it not be best spent in the arms of his or her mother, rather than not being allowed to be born and torn apart by the aborter's tools. Besides, what if there was a cure for that disability, like the face being straightened out in the womb, if the baby is aborted there is no incentive for the cure.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
but there are still many defects which have no cure like there is a defect where there the baby dont have skull from forehead onwrds and brain is out in open and baby would 100% die in few hours of birth..and u can know it by ultrasound and that too in 4th month of preganancy..would you go through rest of months of preganancy just to see a baby in a condition which u normally wont be able to see an adult in case of accident with brain out.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
7 Jan 09
I would not want to bring a baby into this world to live a life of pain, I believe that is the cruelest of the two actions.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
Yes it can be very difficult for both parents and baby.
@maximax8 (27048)
7 Jan 09
In 2007 I had a baby and I didn't know that he has spina bifida until 36 weeks pregnancy. It came as a shock and I knew that I would love my baby however badly affected he was. There is often not clear a clear picture of what the baby will be like if a pregnant lady finds out her yet to be born child will be disabled. The consultant said that he didn't know how badly affected my baby would be and the last three weeks of my pregnancy were miserable. I had a home birth and my son spent just over three weeks in the special care baby unit. He an operation to close his back at 1 day old and at 2 weeks old he had a shunt put in his head during a second operation. He is now a happy little toddler and everyone likes or loves him. A fetus is innocent and if not perfect doesn't deserve abortion. It is simply meant to be and I would never have an abortion. Wait and see, hope for the best, are the things I would do.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
9 Jan 09
I hope and prey ur baby lives a very good life and doctors do advise abortion in case of spina bifida .. ur very brave lady.
@srijshm (1165)
• India
7 Jan 09
Yes! And anyone who replies with a no is surely not aware of the trauma that a handicapped person faces in this society. I am a supporter of abortion anyway, if we are not in a position to give our best to the child, we have no right to bring the child in this world. Its only my personal opinion & i do not wish this comment to evoke responses with religious overtones please.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
7 Jan 09
as i said b4 i believe it is up to parents to bring or not to bring a kid in world.. just wanting to know opinions of persons here.
• India
7 Jan 09
that is a very good question... i would say better to go for an abortion rather than punishing him/her all his life and even getting ourselves punished looking at him/her... thank you
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
7 Jan 09
Thankyou for you opinion. I wanted to know what people think about it.