How can I tell them I'm laid off?

China
January 7, 2009 9:43pm CST
I'm so sorry this week because my department leader told me a bad news. Our company will cut down half employee to deal with financial crisis. Of course I'm in this plan. I say nothing and do not cry as others. I just want to know how can I tell my family this bad news firstly. Lying or telling them the truth? I do not let them worry about me. It's really difficult for me. Help me and give me some advices. I'll began to find a new job.
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18 responses
• India
8 Jan 09
first of all let me say how sorry I am to hear this. We all have families and with global recession, nobody is safe anymore. I think its best not to tell your family anything right now. You have already started looking for a job and hopefully you will get one soon. See if you can keep it off till then. In the meantime, you can slowly start the topic like how people are getting laid off and there’s a possibility you might be laid off too and so on.
• China
9 Jan 09
Thank you for your advice. I have told my husband this bad news and he gives me much comfort. He has begun to contact with his friends for some chances. I have not told my parents who are aged and I would not like to affect them. These people in China are easy geting layoff. (1)women (2)women will be pregancy or have a little baby (3)those who have a higher salary Unfortunately, I have these 3 points. I do not know if these are the same as other countries.
• India
9 Jan 09
Its almost the same here in India.There is a huge unorganized sector which employ millions with very little benefits. The worst affected are again the women and they are mostly laid off during pregnancy. Only the big corporate houses and the govt sectors offer maternity leave and benefits...the rest are just laid off!
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Well I think you should keep this to yourself for a while (no longer than a month) and hopefully by the end of that time frame, you'll have found yourself a new job. That way when you break the bad news, you'll also have some good news. Now, it may be hard to find a new job. So if you feel like your luck is not turning after the second week, tell your family and get support. They might know some people who are hiring, which means you wont have to go through the whole thing alone.
• China
9 Jan 09
Yes, I hope to tell them at the time I find a new job when the bad news is not a bad news. So I hope I can find a new one ASAP. Thank you.
• United States
9 Jan 09
I think you should tell them the truth. I'll graduate from my college in this July. And now, I also found the job. Though it is financial crisis, and maybe it was difficult to find the good job. But if you tell you family members the truth, I think you can feel relax. And good luck to you and me.
• China
9 Jan 09
Yes, tell them the truth will let me feel relax. I hope so. Good luck for you and me and those people like us.
@mikkymyde (184)
• Nigeria
8 Jan 09
Don't lie..you will only get yourself into a more tight situation...tell them the truth and they will know where to help you...it might sound difficult but only the truth can set you free..trust me i've been there
• China
9 Jan 09
Yes, lying is really not an easy thing. I feel awkward when I face to my parents. I hope this will end soon.
@mikkymyde (184)
• Nigeria
8 Jan 09
Hey...you don't have to lie about that..you will only put yourself in a more difficult situation...I believe you should tell them the truth so that they know what to do to help you...I understand how you feel..it might be difficult but it is the only way...trust me i've been there
• China
9 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice. I'll do this sooner or later.
@earthsong (589)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I love my job a couple days before Christmas. It was hard and I did cry, not in front of the HR manager, but as soon as I got out the door. Don't lie to your family and make sure you have your resume together. Good luck on the job search! I found a new job pretty fast, it was a pay cut and only part-time, but at least I got on fast!
• China
9 Jan 09
Congratulate you for finding a new job so fast. I hope I'm luck as you even a part-time job is ok.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
8 Jan 09
first of all, sorry to hear about your lay off, but i would have to say, whats the point of lying to your family? i heard of a guy who lost his job but didnt tell his family and kept getting dressed in the morning and leaving at the same time...whats the point of that? best of luck on your job hunt!!
• China
9 Jan 09
Thank you for your blessing. I hope so. I feel much better here with mylot friends.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
I know how hard it is to share your problems with family and friends.. but if i were you, i'd tell my family about it.. i'm sure they would understand.. good luck.. i hope you would be able to find a new job soon..
• China
9 Jan 09
Thank you for your blessing. I feel much better after I'm here communicate with mylot friends. Mylot friends are my supporters. I need all of you. Thanks again.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
Don't worry time will come you can find another one. Don't lie it was hard to hide the truth soon your family knows about it. They will understand you for sure because they are your family who loves you. In this world there is no permanent even our life we cannot stand for long. Like your job or even your company. That is life be happy and no worry about you will find job again.
• China
9 Jan 09
Thank you for your encouragement. I'll be happy though life is difficult. I believe in myself, too. Good luck for all mylot friends.
• China
8 Jan 09
if they live with you and you‘d better tell them firstly, if they ask you you can tell them also? if both above are not you can choose not to tell them till you get a new job???but i think you also will be depressed by this laid off? just tell them if you need some encourges and understand???good luck?
• China
9 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice and your blessing. I think they'll find this sooner or later unless I find a new job soon.
@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
8 Jan 09
I remember a story heard long time ago about a husband keeping going out in the morning and coming back late afternoon to appear still on post. It is such a sad story that I still remember after years. Time has changed. Being laid off in your case should be understood by your family, though tough to accept. It is not in the least a shame on your part, but forced by the cursed economy. In order not to hurt your beloved, first you had better stand straight. Try to find something to start with, even with low pay, that is better than doing nothing. If possible, get replenished with something you are interested with for opportunities, which will for sure come sooner or later. History repeats by circles. After the dark will come the dawn.
• China
9 Jan 09
Yes, my leader also told me that it's not my reason, it just because of our company lack of money and they have to firstly fire those who have a higher salary. He can not confirm what will happen to him tomorrow. "After the dark will come the dawn" I hope the dawn will come soon. Thanks for your encouragement.
@viana20 (96)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 09
Believe me, you are not alone in this problem. The company i am working on will have the issue of laid off maybe sometimes this month. Maybe i am part of the "red" list. First i go numb, crying (because of afraid of the uncertainty) and then i came to the point that whatever the decision is, i will accept it. Deep down inside i know that i will have a better one waiting just outside within my reach.
• China
9 Jan 09
Hope you are lucky. Though I did not cry before my leader but I did cry after that. I feel helpless. But here I get mylot friends' support. I'll adjust myself and live with smile. I believe all bad things will go. Thank you and all mylot friend.
@kaka135 (14087)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 09
I think it is good to just tell them the truth, as they are your family, and they will soon find it out, it'll be better if you tell them early. You can start looking for new jobs, meanwhile maybe you can also do some part time jobs while waiting for responses from new job applications.
• China
8 Jan 09
Yes, part-time job maybe ok. But it's also difficult to find one. It's really sadly to wait for a job response. Thanks for your advice.
@youless (91532)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Jan 09
I am really sorry to hear that. I think it's better to tell the truth to your family. At least it's better for them to find out the truth by themselves later. It may be much more hurtful as you don't share this with them. Since they are your family, I think they will understand that this is not your fault. I hope you will find a good job soon.
• China
8 Jan 09
Thank you for your good wish. I'll do my best and I'll encourage myself. I'll tell them at fitting time.
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
8 Jan 09
Be honest with them right away, it's bad enough you're loosing your job, you don't need to loose your family trust as well. Look hard, pray hard and a job will be granted. Be honest, it pays big. Good Luck my friend.
• China
8 Jan 09
Thank you my friend. I do not know if the age at your profie is the actural age. If it is you are only younger 2 years than my parents whom I would not like to tell really. I hope they are happy. I'll do my best to find a new job and then tell them the story. But I think I'll tell my husband who maybe help me. Thank you again and for your health.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
8 Jan 09
sometimes not telling the bad news is a bad thing many years ago, hubby almost did that. he almost lost his job. he was a scape goat at the time and they threatened to fire him. I was planning to make a big purchase, good thing he decided to tell me about it before I went on with the purchase. or else we would have been deep in debts. well we're in debts right now but that's a different story. sorry it happens to you. but you shouldn't keep it from your family. they need to know so that they can help you cut back.
• China
8 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice. I think I should tell my husband firstly and he have some friends who may give me some help. After Chinese new year I'll tell others whom I would not like to affect. Thanks again.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
In times like what you are experiencing now, it is best that we tell our family. It is their right and privilege to worry about you. If you are my sibling I would want to know and worry about you rather than not know at all. I would also want to help. A lot of us want to protect our families that sometimes we fail to realize that they don't want to be protected and would rather go hurting for us. Ironically saying, it is their pleasure to worry about you because you are indeed family. What are families are for? Would we rather go about without anyone worrying about us. So somehow, be grateful that even if you lost your job you have your family to back you up.
• China
8 Jan 09
Yes, I'll tell my family about this early or late. But it will be Chinese new year which is a happy festival I'll not tell them before this. After the spring festival I'll tell them and I know I can not hide this for a long time.
@kykidd (6820)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Sometimes we have a hard time sharing information like this with others, but in the long run it will bring you closer. Keep in mind, when one door closes another one opens, as the old expression goes. I am sure your family will be there for you and they will not be too upset, or at least probably not as upset as you are. Good luck to you in the future!
• China
8 Jan 09
Thank you for your comfort. I'll not lose my heart. I'm a happy women and I believe I can find a better new job.