How would you help a friend who just lost his job?

Singapore
January 9, 2009 1:01am CST
Ever since this economic downturn begun, I've heard of people losing their jobs left and right. You feel bad about this people losing their jobs, but when someone close to you loses his/her's then it's an even greater grief. A couple of my friends already lost their jobs, and it's difficult trying to console them, and telling them that everything's gonna be alright. All I can really do is give them moral support and try to cheer them up as much as possible from time to time. When days drags on and they still can't find a job, it makes things extra difficult, specially since I'm running out things to say to encourage that person. How about you, how would you help a friend who just lost his/her job?
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@twinklee (895)
• India
11 Jan 09
hi, YA well said. Nowadays, job-holding is that precious for every one. without reasons we find people getting chucked out of the company, inspite of their bright contributions to the company. It doesn't mean that they aren't potentially well built, it all depends upon the market of the company across the globe. First of all, im glad that you really feel this much for your pals, it is rare, really..! And your very post in mylot shows how much you think about their welfare. This itsel will be a great luch for them. Well, if iam in your situation, i will probably, try googling the job-positions for them. Also, if any of your friends are interested to pursue their higher studies, just put them a word and encourage them down the line. And you try to cheer them up, as you are doing right now. Lucky friends. Gud luck for their jobs. Take care...:)
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@twinklee (895)
• India
11 Jan 09
Sorry a typo.. it is LUCK..and not luch
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@cybersoft01 (1287)
• India
9 Jan 09
I will give him support and help him find a new job. but your discussion has made me think a lot. Do you think consoling and giving emotional support can solve their problems? Money problem can be solved with money only.
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• Singapore
16 Jan 09
Yes it's true, but I'm in no position to hand money over that easily. I mean I can spare a few, but it's not gonna be enough. So the best I can really do is give him moral support.
@achinthya (1219)
• India
9 Jan 09
Give support an encouragement to your friend so that he won't lose hope in getting another job,also recommend him or her some good company or suggest him to join some organization where he can join for sometime until he gets the better one.
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• Singapore
12 Jan 09
Hi achinthya. I actually asked him to become a part timer in a small business me and my friends started. Although we can't really pay him that much, but I guess he will like the deal.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
9 Jan 09
It is really hard now, ever where I work. well, I dont really know what to say either but everywhere and everyone are facing with it now and we have to get ready for more... I heard they said their will be worst and I hope I can hang on to this. My husband hasn't work for over 6 months now and everything on me. I have to work hard and hard... he is also help out but only one income now. it takes a time to fix everything and I hope we will be ok soon. Why dont you try to ask them doing something that they can do, such as working online? or do this (mylot) I know I know... it wouldn't be that much of money but at least we make something... this money is good for my Gas money ... or sell stuff on ebay? well, there will be something that they can do while they are out off job. Wishing your friends all the best.
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• Singapore
9 Jan 09
I guess I'll try to do that, thanks smileonstar. I hope your husband gets a job too.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hi, I heard a few days ago one of my friends just had lost her job. She is a nurse and she did home health care and the lady she was caring for is not doing too well . The patient is old and I would have a difficult time doing what my friend does. Right now my friend is looking for other patiends. I don't think she will be out of work for long. I hope my friend saved money for cases like this. she is pretty resilient.
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• Singapore
9 Jan 09
I thing resiliency is one trait each and every one looking for a job must posses. Good luck to your friend, I hope she gets a new job right away.
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@fec139 (803)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Why not invite one unemployed friend about 3 days each week? You have no idea how much difference it will make to have a decent dinner when you have no job. You can either pick your closest friend, or rotate one day a week per friend. It won't cost you much, but it will really make a difference in a life!
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@uditpanda (1023)
• India
10 Jan 09
hey there I am someone who maintains a chain of pharmacies . so i guess i can find my friend a temporary job with me ,only if he wishes to. Moral support is always useful in such situation & i will try my best to get some for my friend. I believe in financial independence ,so i would suggest him to get in to some business for self employment. Unless i will try with my contacts to find him a job that suits his capabilities & qualifications as soon as possible. You have a nice day.
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• United States
10 Jan 09
This is a hard question, beyond support there is little you can do and the bad part is it is only expected to get worse.
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@dsrtrose (166)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I would be one of those currently out of work, in previous years, I had no trouble finding jobs, but it has been 6 months!!!! So, telling them t will be okay will NOT help!Keeping an ear out for ANY work or possibilities of work or making suggestions for alternative work IS helpful, and not patronizing. It also shows genuine interest in their situation. And sometimes you may think of something that never crossed their minds/ Hence 2 headsly are better than one!
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@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
10 Jan 09
If I was able I would help. When a neighbor couldn't work because of back injuries and heart problems, I shared meals, and brought groceries to them when I could. I have been known to give "gift bags/boxes" to relatives and friends who are in school and living on very low income, or need help as my neighbor did. Times are hard economically for us now too, so I can only do what I can. But I always try to help when I can, because I know what it is like to need it.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
10 Jan 09
My own husband lost his job two weeks before Christmas! What a Christmas bonus, huh? My youngest son has been looking for a job for months now but has been unable to find anything, not even a part-time position in a fast-food restaurant! It's very hard on the friends and relatives of those who have lost their jobs because we tend to feel like we should be able to help them but end up feeling inadequate when we can't think of anything. If it were a friend, I think I'd ask them to come over once a week for dinner together, just because you're friends and would like to see them more often. It shouldn't make them feel bad but it can at least help them having to buy one meal! I do that with my son. He comes over once a week and usually spends lunchtime and dinnertime here at our house. I not only feed him, but I make sure he takes 'leftovers' home with him. I always fix too much food when he's here and tell him that it will only go bad if we keep it all since it's just my husband and myself here. I want to help him a little with food without making him feel even worse about not having a job. I also pay him a little for helping me with odd jobs around our house or property. It's something, I tell him, that I would have to hire someone else to do if he won't help me and I'd be paying someone else much more to do it so I'd rather pay him instead of a stranger. We don't have a lot of money, but I'll pay my son $20 or $30 for whatever he does each time. It's not a lot, I know, but it does help his self-esteem to have a little money in his pocket instead of none at all. With my husband, all I can do is encourage him to work harder on his own business. He's a PCB (printed circuit board) design engineer, plus he does some programming and other computer-related things and has worked on side-jobs while he was employed. He was actually working towards starting his own business when he was laid off his regular job, sooner than he expected to leave it. We were not prepared! But, with a lot of encouragement and as much help as I could give him, he's now up and moving forward with his new business. Jobs are coming in left and right! His first objective was to get a website online. I helped him with that because I've designed many websites in the past, so I got it started. Once he saw it taking shape, he took over the design. We worked together to find the best site hosting service and to legalize his business (it's incorporated now). I think the main thing to do when a friend loses a job is to be as supportive as possible... verbally and physically. Let them know that you'll help them whenever and wherever you can. Do some actual looking around for jobs for your friend. I've personally looked at dozens of employment sites and local newspapers for both my husband and son. I drove my son around to different places around town so he could put in job applications. Anything you can do for them, do it. We're in such hard economic times that I'm afraid more and more people will be losing their jobs in the near future before things start turning around. My husband is actually taking advantage of this. Because companies are laying people off, including engineers such as himself, he's offering his services to these companies as a freelancer, saving them all the overhead associated with actually employing someone... paid vacations, holidays, health benefits, retirement benefits, even cutting down on the company's electric bill by working from home. Maybe your friend could do the same thing?
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jan 09
Moral support and a little internet searching for jobs for them.
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• China
9 Jan 09
i think you really should take him a tour ,such as thiland spa or sthing .
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• China
9 Jan 09
Ha, I am in course of unemployeding at present.To me, greetting is enough.The friend can not help me sometimes after all, need to depend myself.But if the friend does not comfort me, I will be very sad.Aha!
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• India
9 Jan 09
i would better help him for getting new jos by contact, becouse if i sopport him by financial it won t be right solution, and i also hurt his immotion,i would also encourge him for losing tantion and nagative thoughst,people mostly get nagative thought in this condition
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hi brady2moss..I would just continue to be positive and if you have suggestions give it to them. You could keep an eye open too and let them know if you see any help wanted signs. Things are steadily getting worse and for those that have already been hit..it's going to be an extra long road but hopefully things will look up soon.
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@Tinna_He (300)
• China
16 Jan 09
i have unemplyment for a long time and was denied for many times .But i trust tomorrow is a new day and it will be better.
@infogood (44)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Yeah you can encourage your friend that things will be alright but more importantly if you can help him find another jobs. If the situation is really bad for him you can invite him over for dinner as much as you can. So dont just talk to him, do something for him. Contact other friends of yours and see if they know of any job available.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I think it is a shame the state of the economy today. A lot of people are losing their jobs. I am a stay at home mother right now and my husband is lucky enough to have a half decent job. Sometimes I do worry about what the economy will do next since it seems to fluctuate sometimes. I would also give a friend encouragement and support during the trying times. It is good of you to think this way.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
9 Jan 09
yeah, it's hard right now, it makes it even harder when they start suffering financially, that's a bad situation to be in. i think moral support is all u can do, ur a good friend for even doing that, some might run thinking they'll ask for money lol!