My boyfriend looks at other girls when we date?

Philippines
January 9, 2009 2:07am CST
is that normal for guys to actually peeks at other girl while you are trying to have a good time together.I don't know...but for me it's an insult for me to know that my guy peeking at other girl because somehow it makes me feel i'm not attractive or good enough for him.
9 responses
@marisriel (1157)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I don't know but I think it's their habit already. My husband does that every time and it really makes me mad. Sometimes I have insecurities because he does that sometimes when I'm just in the mood to talk to him. Then when I am talking to him, I'll just see his eyes on other girls, as in turning his head to the girls' direction. I just want to punch him right that moment.
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
hehehe! yaeh wanna punch him too!
@ShanLhey (165)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I really disagree with those guys looking at other girls where in fact he's with you. It's really not a good act. He can stare at other girls provided that he makes sure you're not aware. :)) Anyway, please guys dont do it. It's really an insult to us girls. Please do respect women. Women seeing their partner looking at other girls would just adding up their insecurities. If you guys arent contented with your girl yet, dont commit yet into a serious relationship. It would only hurt women or girlfriends feeling when the comes that you're just hanging up with her. Be true. Welcome to myLot!
30 Jan 09
It's not a matter of being content or not. Next time you are out with your partner, try not to look anyone attractive in the eye. See how ridiculous what you have just said is? And you say that it's ok to give people the eye when you are not together, so what you are saying is, it's ok to flirt behind your boyfriends back! Visual recognition makes up a huge percentage of how we communicate with eachother as a species. To deny it is to be reclusive and unresponsive. Sorry girls, but you need to get over this.
• China
14 Jan 09
I hate guys like that.if that happens to me I will take some cruel action on him.I guess you are really hurt.sorry.but dont worry,believe that you will find someone better one day.the best thing is leave him regreting there.remember that you should never forgive him.if you give him one chance he will get a second one
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
thank you girl for the advice.:)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
That's really a big insult to you. I think the guy is not serious with your relationship. My advice, try to confront him and tell that you are not comfortable especially when he peek at other girls. Try to tell him what you feel about the situation.
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
actually i've discussed this matter to him and he said this is normal even arrousal is normal to guys when they look at others. humphhh!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hello vddclan! It's really an insult for us if our partners will look at other girls while we are beside them. I don't want to have a partner like that. I am glad that my husband is not like that. Everytime we go out, his whole attention was with me and I never saw him looking at other girls.
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
well good for you girl.:)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
according to a seminar i attended, men are more visual than women. that's why they can't help but look at other girls. i guess, they should just do it discreetly so that their dates won't notice. if it's just looking, there's no harm in that. you will notice it if the look is only appreciating beauty or the look is lustful. when my husband looks at other women, i do the reverse psychology. i also look at the girl and say in a nice way, "wow, that girl is so pretty." =) i guess we should be thankful that they're looking at girls, not guys! lol
• United States
17 Jan 09
I do not think it is proper to stare at another woman while he is on a date with you. I do not think there is anything wrong with looking at another woman as long as there are no impure thoughts. I would talk to him about it and see what he says and then go from there..
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
I don't think that's an insult. If that's the case then should we just close our eyes everytime a lady passes by? Can't it be help not to admire other girls? It just so happen that we're together that you're feeling a bit insecure. Put yourself in the position of the lady who will pass by. Do you thin other guys will not take a look at you as a form of admiration? Should they close their eyes when you pass by?
@twinklee (895)
• India
14 Jan 09
[b][i]Hi, Don't worry my friend, It happens in all the love cases. ACtually it doesn't mean that you are not attractive, wait i will explain the thing. Hope you like it. Yes, most of the guys, will play with their pair as such, looking at other girls, talking about other girls[especially those whom we hate], and many more,,It is their way of making the situations very cute. They actually don't want to sigh a girl, they wanted us to notice that he is making such activities. If you ask why they are doing? It is just because they have more affection on us, It is a sort of method to trigger POSSESIVENESS within us.They wanted us to scold them for doing that. These are all small-small fun that comes in that pretty relation. Hope this helps. Take care:)[/i][/b]