If you died at home, how long would it be before anyone knew?

@dragon54u (31349)
United States
January 9, 2009 7:57am CST
I was wondering that this morning. I live alone with my two dogs and my children are 1800 miles away. I know my neighbors casually but since they have jobs, no one sees me regularly. My sister emails me sometimes but she's busy with her own life, again many hundreds of miles away. I go to church sometimes but not regularly enough so that anyone knows me. I think it would be many days, if not weeks, before someone discovered I died. What about you? Would someone discover your body right away or would it lie there for a long time, like mine?
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@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Don't be so dark,don't you have anyone who'd call you on a regular basis? I know for sure I'd get a call from my work the same day,they'd call back the next day but I have no idea how long it would take someone to go and check on me. I have good friends but they are out of town often and we don't see each other every week. My mom would very worried if I didn't call her for a long time but she's in another country...All and all,I'd be probably decomposing by then
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I don't mind the dying, I just worry about my dogs. I lost my job the first of the year, I'm okay with that but it eliminates people that would wonder where I am. So I, like you, would probably lay there for a long while!
• United States
9 Jan 09
I might be exaggerating but it's best to be a realist
@syeryn (574)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I've never thought about this. My husband works away from home a month at a time so it would probably be my daughter that would discover me should I pass away at home while he is gone. She and I speak daily and work together at the same place so as soon as she didn't hear from me or I failed to show up for work she would know something is wrong.
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
9 Jan 09
That's comforting, I'll bet. It must be hard to have your husband away for that long. When I was married and the children were very small, my ex worked that way and it was difficult for me, I missed him so much. You have your daughter to keep you company, though. I hope he keeps his job and prospers!
@gemini_rose (16194)
9 Jan 09
If I was to die in the immediate future I would be discovered straight away as all my family are around me. I really do not know what would happen when they are older, I often joke and say I would be one of those that would be left undiscovered for some time!!
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I don't mind not being discovered, it would just be sad for my family to know that my body lay there for so long before being discovered. I worry about my dogs, too. I'm glad you'd not be left to rot!
• United States
9 Jan 09
A month...... I don't move around much from the computer.. so my family wouldn't recognize the signs until the stinkin' commenced. when I die, I want to be stuffed by the taxidermist so I can remain life like forever.
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@Rosekitty (19487)
• San Marcos, Texas
9 Jan 09
A month huh?..you stink now..
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• United States
10 Jan 09
I wanna be stuffed and put in the chair in front of puter.....they wouldn't even know I was gone!!!! just thinkin' of the family!
@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
I, too, live alone with my two dogs & a cat! My son (28) insists upon calling me every morning between 6:45 & 7:00 a.m. and every evening by 8 p.m.! He is NOT a Mommy's boy, but is chagrined by the barriers of us being apart! He just needs to complete his morning by knowing that his Mother is happy & healthy! We are the very best of friends (hard to believe, I know) and have the best discussions in the world, on all topics! Thanks for asking, as it reassured me of how lucky I am!
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• Canada
9 Jan 09
I am so pleased to hear that you, like me, have this wonderful bond, with your son!(I just finished talking to him.) Sadly, he is the product of a broken marraige, but the rule that I kept, throughout the disparity, was to NEVER disrespect his father, or in any manner demean him! This seemed to have closed the ranks, and allowed my son to really respect me! I must admit, tho, that I do tend to spoil him, and I think that's my right....as I was never able to spoil him for a long time! 1800 miles away is far, far away...do you get to see your son often? Just an aside, my son bought me this computer for Xmas 2 years ago! I am 61 and this was my first introduction to the cyber world, so still am a neophyte! But he insisted on Live Messenger, video camera & mic...so that he can see, as well as hear that I am fine! Thank you, thank you....I am recounting my blessings!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
11 Jan 09
I reckon I'd be missed as soon as the first meal didn't get prepared, or the first cup of coffee didn't appear as expected!
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
11 Jan 09
LOL! Isn't that just the way of it when you're a wife and mother? Since the wife portion of my life is over and my kids are 1800 miles away, the only ones who would miss a meal is the dogs and I doubt they'd say much.
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
11 Jan 09
I think my body will be discovered right away, since I live near my mun, I have a husband a child and have lots of neighbours and a dog too.
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
11 Jan 09
You are blessed to have family close to you!
@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Not long, as my kids and husband live with me. Not more than a few hours. I would hope that someone would be concerned about you before that!!
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I'm very isolated. My neighbors and I wave to each other and exchange a few words occasionally but they are all employed and very busy, on the go all the time it seems. My children lived clear across the country and my family is scattered. I see my dad every two weeks but he wouldn't call as he can barely hear. I just hope I stink badly enough and quickly enough so that my dogs get taken care of!
• United States
10 Jan 09
right away as there are 4 other people that live in my house too lol.
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Wow, you wouldn't even have time to cool off!
• India
10 Jan 09
my body will be easily discovered because my partner is always with me(24hrs)and if he goes out for long tours or buisness trips he lives me at my father's house. there my mother and father is always .but we cannot surely say that our body can be discover easily or after a long time .because it can happen reverse ,like someone might have discovered your boby easilyand mine lately.
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Doesn't that drive you nuts to never be alone? I'm alone too much, I realize, but I would rather have it that way than not be able to be by myself. Your husband sounds as if he loves you very much and wants you taken care of, you are blessed!
@itsmepinky (1302)
• India
10 Jan 09
Hello dragon , My body would be discovered withing hours since my house is always full with people. Someone or the other is always there at home. ~Pinks~
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
You certainly have a busy household! That's wonderful that you have so many people around that love you.
@rabinos (13)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I, too, live alone with a geriatric cat and a kitten. I know my neighbors to pass the time of day with, but we're not close. My sister and my daughter live far away, and people rarely call me because all my friends use the internet. I suppose if my daughter didn't see me online for a day or two, that would alert her that something might be wrong...I hope. I'd hate to wait until the cats had to eat me to survive and neighbors would wonder what that foul smell was from across the street. I know, I'm an optimist. I just can't help myself.
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@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jan 09
They would find out right away. Crowded house...
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
There are advantages to busy households! You are blessed to have so many near you.
@sins1984 (32)
• Sweden
9 Jan 09
thats not the case case with me.. i wish because, i have been visited by my friends at many times of the day... so if (god forbid) it happens to me, i think it would be notified within a hours... i guesss
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
You are blessed to have people near that love you and visit you.
@roberten (3134)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I would be found the same day since my daughter lives with me and checks on me as soon as she gets out of bed or returns home from an outing. I would love to die comfortably in my own bed but I would not want to have my kids find me.
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I think it's cruel that children must sometimes find their parents' bodies. But it's part of life. I'm glad my children probably won't go through that. And you never know, your daughter might move out and be spared that. I hope you live a long, long life!
@Rosekitty (19487)
• San Marcos, Texas
9 Jan 09
I have children close by always coming by so i would be found very soon..I'm very fortunate that way and love to see them so I wouldn't have to lay there long before they would find me..
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
9 Jan 09
That's good, but I hope your children never have to go through that.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
9 Jan 09
the morning, my hubby kisses me every morning before going to work, if not him, then my kids, i have to take them to school every morning.
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@dragon54u (31349)
• United States
9 Jan 09
That is so sweet! I miss taking my kids to school, they're all grown up now.
@dodo19 (28612)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
9 Jan 09
Don't get to discouraged. I'm sure someone would notice fairly soon. As for me, I live with my fiance. So, if, let's say, I die while he's out of the apartment, he'd find out as soon as he'd come back.