How to find your perfect match?

@loca56 (32)
Philippines
January 9, 2009 7:21pm CST
I'm 21 year old now and turning 22 this year, yet i had only 1 relationship from the past. I dont know if I am left behind or i'm just a stne-hearted person. I have lot of crushes and infatuations yet I don't get the opppurtunity to have the special one. I even get stuck with my deepest emotion to a person whom do not love me back. I dont know whats the problem. I need some advice. I even think that I am a lesbian coz sometimes I appear to have a guy-personality. Geeee.. Need you advice badly. I don't even know how to flirt with huys. hehehe..
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10 responses
@Frederick42 (2020)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
I do not think it is possible to find a perfect match. All of us are imperfect. Nowadays, it seems everybody wants a perfect matcha nd that is the reason why many love affairs break within a few days or months. When you seek for perfection in a match, you are asking for the impossible.
@loca56 (32)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
I know that there's no perfect match. But I have gotten it wrong.What I mean is how to find someone who will be compatible with me.. I think there's a perfect match but there's no perfect relationship. Am I right? What do you think? Should I rephrase my question? Hehehehe. Kidding!
@CherishC (249)
• United States
10 Jan 09
You shouldn't feel behind because you had one relationship. Don't stress about it, let things just happen. If you like someone, be straight forward with them, even if it feels odd, it works for me. Ok you can answer this question for yourself, do you find girls hot, did you ever have a crush on a girl, if the answer is no, then your probably not. If you like guys and girls you are probably bi. But first you need to find yourself, know who you are and what you want.
@loca56 (32)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
Well my answer would probably no. Of course i love guys much. The problem is that, I don't want to do the first move. Of course I am the girl, guys should make the first move. I'm afraid to tell someone that I like him coz I don't wanna get rejected or what. I have the greatest pride ever for myself (haha). That's why my feelings were all hidden. I am contented by just look at the person and that's it. Im satisfied. I'm afraid that he might refuse or make bad impression of me. In short, a conservative one. whoosshh, don't know what to do. I want to get married someday. Hmmm.. I remember, one factor that makes me afraid of guys was my past and first relationship. It just end up unhappily. He found someone new and got his first child from her. Gosh, wants happening with me.
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
its not bad if your 21 and still single. im a mom and have a 21 year old kid too. she'll be turning 22 this march and i dont see her worrying about it. infact, she got a bf overseas. the guy is a korean and they dont see each other that often. im always asking her if she still a bf. she says, yes. their condition is unless they saw someone that they will like to be with then they will just remain friends. i find it weird, but maybe i just cant cope up with things that younger people do. you see, there's nothing to worry. just enjoy your life while young. do what you want to do and have fun. life is still young dont waste and stop because you dont have a bf. there's a lot of things to do to enjoy life.
• India
10 Jan 09
hey its ok loca it happens it most of us so dont get so disappointed either u shell try to find out the reason that why it is so or else u can follow some tips if u like 1.just try to be more immpressive. 2.dont b so shy. 3.show ur attention to the person u like. 4.dont use ur attitude against the person u like if u have it. 5.pay ur attention towards a person at a time. n many more i hope u get some one soon.. goodluck....
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
Don't think you're left behind.. you're young and you've got lots of time to prepare for a serious relationship.. and of course, clear up your mind.. you need to know yourself first.. know what's your real identity.. good luck =)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
Don't waste your time, get a life now. Move on to better ground. Just begin and you wont be able to keep the guys from pounding down your door. Plus, if you genuinely busy and enjoying your self, there will be windows of opportunity for you to meet other people. We can always start doing the things we want to do while waiting for Mr. Right, and that will ultimately make you more attractive without making flirts with a guy.:) It says that singleness is a vital stage to learn about responsibility and self-sufficiency, to identify who we are and figure out our true desires. It would be sorely needed in relationship training. Here is how to create a more exciting life: 1. Fill up with pleasure. Make each experience in your life as pleasurable and enjoyable as possible. Try to remember the last few times you felt truly luxuriated. Give yourself an extra 15 minutes at home to read a magazine, leisurely slather on lotion, or listen to a fave CD. These little treats can make you feel good about yourself and add enjoyable moments to your day. 2. Find out what you love to do and pursue it-whether its your work, a hobby or a cause. You will be happiest following your life purpose. Coach says, have a purpose for waking up in the morning.
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
there is always a perfect timing for everything.if you get in to a relationship just because of feeling left behind, the more likely you'll end up frustrated. enter the relationship for the right reason. to make sure the guy will love you in return is not to fall in love easily. most people don't understand the difference between physical attraction and love. "Love take it's root slowly, and grows steadily in time...." Physical attraction is more like a time bomb that suddenly hit you. "Love at first sight" they say.... take time to analyze your feelings and to investigate the sincerity of the guy... also, to be attractive and to get into relationship.... SOCIALIZE at the RIGHT PLACE.... if you want a guy who doesn't drink then don't go bar hopping or in smoke houses (disco houses).... you'll find the kind of guy you want in places he's more likely to be found...
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 09
we must have a lot of friend. then we can choose the best one for us. we must choose good guy which one has a same criteria with our wants. dont believe with guy 100%
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
First, you should be able to know what you really want to clear any confusions you have in mind. Second, do not dwell on the past. As Napoleon Hill says in his famous book Think and Grow Rich - "Every failure brings with it the seed of equivalent advantage." So instead of thinking what you should have done, think about what you should do, now. You can be an intelligent and loveable person. You are what you think you are. I would recommend that you read "The Magic of Thinking Big"
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
First, you should be able to know what you really want to clear any confusions you have in mind. Second, do not dwell on the past. As Napoleon Hill says in his famous book Think and Grow Rich - "Every failure brings with it the seed of equivalent advantage." So instead of thinking what you should have done, think about what you should do, now. You can be an intelligent and loveable person. You are what you think you are. I would recommend that you read "The Magic of Thinking Big"