Are you selective when answering posts?

@ronaldinu (12440)
Malta
January 10, 2009 6:13am CST
Do you answer all discussions that your friends have started? Or are you selective? Lately I have been answering discussions that have been longer than a day or two to make sure that they don't get deleted. I just try to avoid discussions which are clearly against the mylot guidelines (unless I don't start them myself by mistake). Are you selective when answering posts? (c) ronaldinu 2009 - the more people I meet-the more I love my dog
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
10 Jan 09
My main selective pattern is whether or not I have anything worthy to contribute to the discussion, sometimes even if my friends have started a discussion I may know absolutely nothing about it, so why respond if you don't know anything about the subject just for the sake of a few cents? I also steer clear of controversial subjects too but fortunately it seems most of my friends don't start them. I am usually up to date on my notifications as I log in every day. I am usually wise about which ones are suspect and may be deleted, however I was caught unawares as you know by your discussion about your nephew that really confused me for sure!
• United States
11 Jan 09
I do agree with you on the point referring to post and discussion. I have just recently started writing discussions and interacting with other My Lot writers. I feel it is important to discuss and write about issues and things that are of importance to the readers and the My Lot community. Also, as far as leaving a one line comment just shows how much interest and sincerity that particular person has on the overall subject.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
Yes, Ronald I am selective as to which discussions I answer. I don't answer to survey type of discussions such as: what is your favourite colour, do you like pizza or spaghetti, tea or coffee? what flavour ice cream? milestone questions such as: hurrah I have reached my xyz post on Mylot., happy birthday and happy aniversary posts, posts dealing with specific health problems and advice, low quality posts asking a mindless question and questions that are clearly against the Mylot guidelines. Sometimes those questions stay around and are only deleted at the end of the month, sometimes they are deleted in a couple of days. So I really don't want to waste my time giving an answer when the whole discussion dissapears anyway. When I first sign on I always check the discussions my friends have posted. I answer to those where I feel I can contribute something. I don't answer if I think they will be deleted. I think we all have our own system here on Mylot.
@littleowl (7157)
14 Jan 09
I try to answer as many discussions my friends make, sometimes needing a little more effort on my part but my day is notmally taken up so am on here in the evening til early morn..even so I do try to answer as many as possible..even if they are a few days or more old...littleowl
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@mazdakid (347)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
hi there ronaldinu! in my case, i choose to answer posts that are within my range of interests, so that i will be able to provide good and possibly insightful responses. i don't like having to post anything just to have a little incentive credited but without any sense at all i also choose to answer posts that do not violate mylot guidelines or posts that do not trigger discomfort or do not offend others. thanks and more power to you!
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@reichiru (748)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
I answer anything that grabs my interest and that I can answer. I don't like to ramble off by myself about something extremely random and off-topic. I guess I just try and stick to the rules and not spam.
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@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
I do answer discussions posted by my good friends as much as I can! But my capacity is limited. If the topic does not hit my interest and I believe I can't give substantial answer then I do not reply. I am really selective. I avoid replying when I have nothing good and useful to share. I also avoid topics which I know violate the mylot guidelines as they'd get deleted anyway.
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I guess I am. I tend to pick discussions to respond to because my friend started it or because I am interested in the topic of the discussion. It is hard to respond to a discussion when I am not interested or have no knowledge about the topic. If you are wondering............I responded to this discussion because the topic caught my eye AND it was started by someone on my friends list.
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@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
Yes. I only share my ideas to topics I am confident to answer and I don't want to be involved in a discussion I have no knowledge of. There are some discussions here that I believe is not within my capacity to answer so I don't indulge with them but there are some discussions which is within my forte and I share them my ideas the best way I can explain it. As for friends discussion, I don't answer them all because they are too many but whenever I do mylotting, I always check out first the discussion my friends started.
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• India
10 Jan 09
Yes I am a little selective. I avoid answering posts that are controversial, religious, or related to violence. Also I avoid posts with sad topics because that leaves a deep impact on me for the whole day.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Yes. I don't answer alot of my friens if I don't know what they are about....or some that are just passing on the news. I also steer clear of those I think might be deleted. So I guess I am a little selective about posting.
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• Malaysia
10 Jan 09
I am rather selective when it comes to discussions because I don't have so much time to reply to all the discussions available. I only those I know something about so that my replies will at least be helpful to the people reading them. No point commenting on something you don't know about since you might actually give people the wrong information.
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@regal_aeros (2606)
• Singapore
10 Jan 09
UNlike you, i don't really take note of the length of day the discussion has been on. Instead, i look at whether or not i have anything good to contribute. I have it no reason to just post in a response just for the sake of posting. I try as best as i can to give good constructive responses. SO yes, i do somehow become selective when choosing discussions. I too tend to deter from religious discussions or whenever i disagree with some of them. Because there is no right or wrong and i would make myself upset or i would just cause unnecessary conflict.
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• United States
10 Jan 09
I am selective but it is limited to what interests me or what I might have an opinion on or have something worthwhile to say. I do not respond just for the sake of responding, I like for it to come from my heart and be true to who I am. I know a lot of people like to respond to discussions with one line answers that really do not have anything to do with the discussion - I'm not sure if they think they are helping or if they think it will gain them more money because the responded but I prefer to respond with more than a single line answer (unless it's a simple question) and I like for it to be on topic. My responses are often longer than most but that's just who I am. I will check my "friends" discussions first to see if they catch my eye and then I will move on to the other areas of this site until I find something interesting. If my friends are not posting anything that I can relate to, then I do not respond because I do not want to be 'fake' with my response. Up until last night, I had 7 pages of friends and it made it hard for me to focus on them because there were so many and a lot of them were not active so I just cleaned them out and I hope to have a more personal relationship on MyLot with the friends I have kept who are active. I'm going to be a little more selective with my friends on here though :)
@derek_a (10902)
10 Jan 09
I mostly answer posts and now and again on rare occasions, will create a post. I select the posts that I feel I can add something value or advice to. I don't see any point of giving just one or two-word answers.. :-) Derek
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• United States
10 Jan 09
i am now just because i have a lot of friends and all of them are posting right now!! lol.. i havent been getting on much because i keep getting headaches so i have to try to catch up and i havent been doing well at all at it!! but since im so behind i have been really picky on what i answer and that is when i can think of something to say!! seems like my brain cant produce a reply to anyone!! but with a ton of peoples discussions getting deleted i dont even answer anything i think has a chance at getting deleted.. its not worth the time
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@derek_a (10902)
11 Jan 09
I answer posts that I feel I can make a contribution to. Because I am a therapist by profession, the posts may prove to be helpful. I enjoy getting involved in many different subjects.. :-) Derek
@savak03 (6676)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I could use a good therapist.
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@derek_a (10902)
13 Jan 09
Yes.. I think I could too! Therapists often have therapists of their own. One thing it does is help us understand others who are stressed. :-) Derek
@SViswan (12071)
• India
21 Feb 10
I'm selective in the sense, it depends on the discussion topic. If it's interesting to me, then I respond (friend or otherwise). I don't answer all the discussions my friends have started. Anyways, I've been away too long to keep track of all my friends' discussions. I'm hoping to get back on track soon:)
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
21 Feb 10
thanks for your feedback sviswan
@tepitenio (119)
• Israel
11 Jan 09
I know that many people answer this thread, but i want to leave you my opinion. I am not selective, since I want to answer almost every discussion here. So, if I would have to select it would take me hours here.
@patgalca (14650)
• Orangeville, Ontario
11 Jan 09
Doesn't it take you hours to respond to every discussion?
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
11 Jan 09
I am selective in the sense that I choose to answer those discussions which I feel I can add something to. If a discussion has no interest whatsoever for me and I know nothing about the topic, then I simply read and flick over it because there is no point in responding. Also it does depend on how many discussion my friends start and how much time I have available and able to be online on any given day. As you have said sometimes we have to be careful with the discussions that we do respond to and try to ensure as far as possible that they are not in violation of myLot guidelines. If they are then there is a high chance that they will be deleted and there goes what might have been some interesting responses. Generally I will steer clear of any discussion which is controversial in nature or where earlier responses and perhaps not as kind to the discussion starter as they could be. The thing I find is that I have sometimes responded to a discussion and can see nothing wrong with it but it still ends up deleted, never to see the light of day again. It is not the points deducted or the money I will not receive that irritates me but more than I have probably spent a decent amount of time in responding only to see it disappear. As you will have noticed I do not make one line or sentence answer but generally respond in depth to most of the discussions that interest me. In many was I believe that we do need to be selective in what discussions we respond to. That is not the opinion of a lot of members I know but it seems to work well for me and “touch wood” I have been lucky so far and only responded to a few discussions in recent weeks that have ended up being deleted. That might partly be attributed to the fact that some, but not all, of the discussions are a couple of days old before I get the chance to post my response.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
14 Jan 09
Thanks for giving me best response for this discussion as well as starting the discussion in the first place. I am always looking for some good discussions that I can "get my teeth into" and make a response.
@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
ronaldinu...my friend, I guess I am not...I am answering this post, aren't I? (Just poking some fun at you, dear friend!) Yes, I am selective...but, gee whiz, I am sure that I am so discombobulated (how do like that for a word) when it comes to the myLot guidelines,(read them thoroughly many times) that I get nervous! And I never know when I am going to be blindsided by a troll! I try to stay out of discussions that I have really strong feelings about, as I am afraid that I will stir up a hornet's nest and create unrest! Have a great weekend!
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
10 Jan 09
happy weekend to you as well