When can you say that a person is rude? Can you cite specific examples.

@Jenaisle (3803)
Philippines
January 11, 2009 12:20am CST
It seems that we have different definitions of rudeness. As mylotters, can we all come up with a common perception of what constitutes the actions of rude persons? When can we say that this person is rude or just teasing, or straighforward, or sarcastic , or just debating? For me rudeness is when he/she uses cuss words, that's rude to me. But as long as he/she doesn't, then the person is only frank or canid and is just expressing his/her thoughts.
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@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
11 Jan 09
It is difficult to define rudeness. I believe a person, who is short-tempered, is rude in my judgment. I have rarely met strangers, i.e., the way most of the people get to meet rude persons - like standing in a railway ticket booking counter, or in the billing section of a departmental store. No! Fortunately, I need not visit those places regularly. So, I really do not face rude people that much. My office colleagues are very generous. So also, my family members, and friends. I do not consider hot discussions that take place while we are to deliver fast at office, or in my online work. Everybody may get excited in one or two occasions. And that's an exception to his/her normal behavior but that's not rudeness. Situation may provoke them to react likewise. Anyway, I may be running shortage of memory - but I have not heard the proverbial rude words like 'Get out'... or something silly for a long time. And finally, the local support engineer from my Internet Service Provider (Nationalized) was rude, while responding to my queries last year. He has lots of work pressure, and we live in a locality, which is infamous for presence of nagging people!!! So, I can't really put blame on him. Still I was shocked and I advised him to behave properly. Nowadays, either I register a complaint online, or contact the Head Office direct. And I'm happy to do so!!!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
You know Nilz, I often wonder what part your locality is, you talk about nationalized internet provider , etc..I must assume you're from Chennai? lol..educated guess. But these from the internet should be respectful people as they are a service company. But you have found a rational way of dealing with them, good for you. Thanks for that vital input and happy mylotting.
• India
11 Jan 09
Lol! Sorry for the confusion that has taken place regarding my identity. I have posted a link to my myLot profile for those, who care to know the person behind this profile. Hopefully, it will clear every doubt. And I prefer not to enter into any debate in trivial issues. OK! That person has reacted the way he thinks better, and when I have an alternative, I should use that at the first instance. I think it is fair enough. Happy!!!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Thanks and happy mylotting too.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
I have been treated rudely by some here before. Like, telling me intentionally that my question is silly, that my thoughts are weird, those people who always insist on what they believe even though you have respected his/ her opinion already, never realized that they are disrespectful of the poster already, of course those who type offensive words and those that are sarcastic. Those are the people that I consider arrogant and rude. They believe in themselves too much. I will know if a person is just frank, candid, teasing, or just want to have a good debate.
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• United States
13 Jan 09
yeah, i agree, i can't stand it when people assume that there questions are always more important, and that other's only have silly questions. Those people usually don't account for the different backgrounds that the people of mylot have, so a simple question for them could be a strange question for us. Good point
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
Yes, that is true, and a condescending attitude is like rudeness. thanks for that vital input. Cheers.
@dpk262006 (56108)
• Delhi, India
12 Jan 09
When someone uses the kind of laungauge, which is considered as rude or unacceptable, then you can say he/she is rude. Some of the words, which are used or the expressions, which are put into sentences immeidately tell us, it is rude. We generally use soft language and polite words, when the words become harsher and derogatory, then it comes into the defination of rude.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
I agree, rude language is one definite sign, thanks for that vital input. Cheers.
@dpk262006 (56108)
• Delhi, India
13 Jan 09
You are welcome!
@Frederick42 (2020)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
Whenever a person uses such words that is degrading your character or accuses you falsely, then the other person is rude. Debates are okay, but the very manner in which some people debate shows that they are just looking for a hot argument. Expressing opinions is peerfectly all right, but when a person exprsses his opinion in a way which degrades the opinion of other people, then it is being rude.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
I absolutely agree. A condescending manner should be avoided, but what about if you know for a fact that you're rigtt and he is wrong, then you have to tell them that they're wrong? Isn't that a good rule to follow? Thanks and cheers.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Or they name call....once I did a discussion based on a wasp that was in my upstairs....one person was very rude....asked why I wasted my time with such a stupid discussion....that was rude. I do think sometimes it's the way they put it too...
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Their behavior, I understand what you mean Jill, the manner in which they put their ideas across. No matter how they disagree as long as they say it nicely. Thanks for the significant info. Happy mylotting.
@lakers247 (139)
• United States
11 Jan 09
People that talk way too much and are ignorant and unwilling to accept other people's views are rude to me. It is really obnoxious to see someone talk continuously about something they don't quite understand. Another rude gesture would be cussing out loud and acting as if you are better than everyone else. I simply can't stand those type of people.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
there another one, cussing out loud. and yes ignorance and condescending, thanks a lot lakers. Those are vital inputs. happy mylotting.
• Hong Kong
11 Jan 09
I have a friend whom I consider her to be rude. In terms of appearance, she is an ordinary girl that you would think polite at first sight. However, whenever she opens her mouth and talks, it is terrible. Exaggerated gesture, foul languages and loud voice. All mixed together, and I would think she is so rude. However, she treats me quite good. So, we are still friends.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
There , I got one just like mine - foul language. Thanks for that vital input.