no have or not to have

Philippines
January 11, 2009 8:39pm CST
married for almost 8 years now but still planing to have a baby is a tough one... thinking of responsibilities is very hard,i may not able to comply the needs and being a perfect parents...i would love to have one but it's not the right time for i think... to my readers is it really need to a couple to have a baby or not????
2 responses
• United States
12 Jan 09
Having children is not for everyone. There are plenty of people who honestly shouldn't have them for one reason or another. And if a couple simply feels complete the way they are without them, then I don't see why they should feel pressured to have children. Just remember, it will never seem like the "right time" to have them and you should only have them if you really want them. There are too many unwanted children in the world. No parents are perfect and don't let that be a reason to not have a baby. Yes it is a lot of responsibility and will change your life drastically. But don't feel pressured to have or not have them. It is your life and you are the only one who can say if you really want a child. There are plenty of couples that lead fulfilling lives without having children.
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
yes, i guess so..maybe it's not for us...yet still we are happily married and we enjoy our lives together.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Oh, don't do that to yourself. There are no perfect parents, don't expect yourself to be perfect. If you feel the need to wait a little longer there is probably a reason you feel that way and you probably should wait. To answer your question, I don't believe a couple needs a baby to be complete but the couple needs to talk about it and be on the same page.
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
thank you for encouraging me...God Bless