Is 20 the right age to begin with a boyfriend?

China
January 12, 2009 6:25am CST
I am a conservative girl and I haven't been with a boyfriend until now.Some of my friends around me are being with their boyfriends/girlfriends almost everyday.Several of them keep the relationship with their lovers in distance---I mean,the distance love.When I was in my tens,I always thought that being with a boyfriend was not a good thing.But,several days ago was my 20th birthday and I suddenly found that I am so old among my friends and classmates.I think I need a change.I once got a crush on a boy when I was in my senior high.But he didn't accept me.So my heart was broken.From then on,I am not willing to give my heart to other guys.One of my friends say,your life wouldn't be complete if you haven't experienced this in your school time.Well I think maybe what he said is right. What do you think about this problem?What is your opinion?Share it with me !Thank you.
4 responses
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
16 is the ideal age. This is the time when romantic ideas are at the peak within us. 20 is okay, but older than 20 would not be so good. Some say, it is difficult to fall in love with classmates, because you study in the smae class and the classroom is an atmosphere of study and not of romance. So, one has to search for love outside the classroom.
• China
12 Jan 09
But the closest people are classmates and friends when we are in school,right?What's more,you will know more about your classmates than other people outside school. Thank you for sharing!
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
I agree with you frederick. It's really hard to court a girl if the girl is in the age of 20's up.. Competation takes place, for me the perfect age to have a girlfriend/boyfriend is at the age of 15 and 16 its perfect its like making a bridge one step at a time until you reach the next town when the bridge is finish.. Usually quickie relationship also ends instantly and thats a fact. So, try doing this at an early age so that you'll enjoy life.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
Entering into a relationship is not measured by age, but emotional preparedness. Ask yourself if you already know how to handle complexities in life and in a relationship. The most important thing to consider when you enter into a relationship is how mature you are to carry on with the consequences that follows and how responsible you are not to submit yourself into fatal temptations. Do not enter into a relationship just because everybody in your surroundings do it, do not make it an experiment or a testing ground, relationship should be measured in preparedness and securities. At your age, I think you are still in college, you must concentrate first in your studies and don't mind others if they changed boyfriends as fast as they changed underwears, just be a good girl and everything will fall into the right place, when you graduate in college and find a job I am pretty sure you find a perfect man for you. At this point in time, no serious involvement can be guaranteed especially if your concept of having a boyfriend is because all your friends have it, do not follow what they are doing just do what do you think is the right thing to be done at your age.
• China
13 Jan 09
Thank you very much for giving me the advice and your opinion.I think what you said really makes sense.I totally agree with you. Have a nice day!
@echomonster (2227)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
12 Jan 09
I think it's totally up to you what age you will be when you have a boyfriend. You might even decide to never have one! Different people choose different paths for themselves. In the case of falling in love, though, it's also important that you meet someone that you have genuine feelings for, like that guy you met in senior high even though things didn't turn out well there. I don't think you'll be very happy if you think to yourself, "Well, now I'm 20 so I need a boyfriend...let's pick some random guy!" So not only do you need to make the decision about whether or not you want to have a boyfriend but you also need to meet someone who you can accept as a boyfriend. Maybe the real reason you don't have a boyfriend now isn't because you're conservative or even because of your past bad experience but rather because you haven't met someone you can love yet.
• China
13 Jan 09
Thank you very much for giving me your idea.Maybe I won't meet someone that I have that wonderful feeling for in the future.hehe~He is a charming guy.And I don't understand why he turned down me.I think I am suitable for him.Haha.
@nancygibson (3737)
• France
12 Jan 09
I think every person is different, and if you haven't met the right person yet then don't worry about it too much. These things tend to happen when the time is right.
• China
12 Jan 09
Yes,I agree with what you say. Thank you for sharing!