Spare the Rod and Spoil the child!!!

India
January 14, 2009 5:07am CST
To spank or Not to spank?? Well, I am not going to comment much on this topic.. I just want to know what you people think about it.. Some one had once told me : "This is not the way to discipline a child, no matter what the reason. Violence only begets violence" But then may i ask, What is wrong with some spanking? When i was growing up, i was quite a handful. My mom was always of the opinion that children should never be spanked but with me she could not follow that principle as i was a very hard child to discipline. I need a few whacks occassionally to set straight.. And i turned out to be just fine.. But i do not know if i would do the same to my kid.. thats what made me start this discussion.. please let me know about your ideas..
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4 responses
14 Jan 09
I personally agree with the statement that violence only begets violence. This is because you are teaching a child that the last resort to deal with bad things is merely to hurt them. It may sound a bit drastic, but the point is, the way you discipline your child does affect them in the next few years.
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14 Jan 09
I am not saying that you should spoil them, but I mean, you should not resort to violence with a child. There are so many different methods, for example, blackmailing (lol). As bad as it may seem, blackmailing does work, as you can threaten them by taking away things they value the most etc
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• India
14 Jan 09
yeah.. blackmailing is effective..
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@Mamagee (392)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 09
When I and my 10 siblings was a child, my mom has no problems to dicipline us. My mom don't need to spank us just to dicipline us. She always treat us nicely. We are naturally well dicipline and we always obey my parent. We are always told by my parent to respect each other and other peoples too. When I grown big and have my own children, I did the same thing to my children. To dicipline our children in not by violence.
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@dodo19 (27164)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Jan 09
I have to agree with what someone told you. I don't think that spanking is the way to discipline a child. As you said violence begets violence. There are better ways to discipline a child than spanking. My parents never did that to either me or my sister. If we did something wrong, we'd be sent to our room to think and then 20 minutes later or something, our dad or our mom would come up and talk to us about it. They wouldn't yell or anything like that. They would just talk. By then we knew what we did was wrong, our parents knew that, but they come up to explain the reasons why what we did was wrong. And honestly, that's the type of thing that I could see myself doing with my kids.
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I believe that it is up to the family as to how they want to handle a situation such as spanking. I definitely don't agree with abuse. There is discipline and then there is taking it too far. I have a five year old and I don't hit him very much. I much rather believe in punishing my son and not beating.