Do you have a close relationship with your sister?

United States
January 14, 2009 7:04am CST
My sister and I have always had a strained relationship because our family has always put us in competition with one another. I'm not really sure why they did that, but it caused us to resent each other for years. I long for the kind of relationships I see with others, but that feeling is not reciprocated. It bothers me a lot, but I know it's something that can only change if she feels the same way I do. Do you have a close relationship with your sister?
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@aquiah (79)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
I can say that me and my sister are n0w cl0se. But we experienced so many things before we became this close. I think we both became mature to handle our insecurities and competition with each other. It feels good to have a sister to talk to. A sister who will be there no matter what happens.
@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
20 Jan 09
Yeah I love her most but she don't give me much importance.She loves my friends why not me.
@millardos (408)
• France
15 Jan 09
well before when i was young i use to have a close relationship with my sister but later when i came to france we stopped contacting each other a lot, but we still of course giving our news to each other from time to time
• Malaysia
15 Jan 09
no ... we seldom talk to each other ..
• United States
16 Jan 09
I have six sisters, and just due to where I fell in the age range (10 children in family) was never really close to any of them growing up. One sister is a jealous type who is always stirring things up, she has a good heart and will help anyone but I think she must be kind of lonely and bored to do that. I finally did in later years become much closer to one older sister, once I was able to live closer to her and she discovered that the jealous sister hadn't been telling the truth in all the things she was saying (jealous sister hates when others get close, I don't know why). Now I'm becoming friends again with a younger sister who I only saw at Christmas for years. She's kind of neat, but she never really wanted to get to know me (again due to jealous sister, and that's not just to me, she does that to everyone). As for other sisters, I love them but the don't really know me, they don't call me or see me unless I show up at my late mom's home sometime. They never ask about me, etc. When they thought I was dying last year in hospital, many didn't even call. So, no, all sisters are not close. I wish them well, but they haven't really known me since I was 18 and moved away and that's how they still think of me, that scared little kid, although I've had to live everywhere since then, including other countires. They're not bad people, I love them, but I'm not particularly close with any of my sisters other than one. So I think it really depends on the people. And the one I'm close to now I wasn't close to for many years, due to her misunerstanding situations and believing things she should have checked out herself beforhand instead of just jumping to the wrong conclusions. Oh well, I'm not perfect, probably guilty of that myself at one time or another. Sometimes I think the only exercise any of us get these days is jumping to the wrong conclusions :). Just kidding.
@kja533 (4)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I wish my sister and I were closer. She is my half sister and I am the older of us, by 7 years. Growing up she was always her fathers princess and I guess I resented it so much more than I ever realized. We live in the same metro area, but it seems like it is worlds apart. She is such an outgoing personality in a funky-hippy-fearless way. I admire her so much more than she will ever know! I cannot dream of trying some of the stunts she pulls! She has always pretty much done what she wants and she has such a wide variety of friends. I on the other hand live in a rut, have few, if any friends and talk a big bravery game, but am chicken little at heart. ne day we will re-connect, I just know it!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
15 Jan 09
No, I don't. I never really did. It was okay before I started grade school, but once I started the 1st grade it all went downhill from there. As we're only 2 1/2 years apart we went to the same school until my sister went into junior high. Then we had to go to the same school again in high school. Some days were better than others, but it was rare. And it only got worse the older we got. No one believed that my sister was so snooty, until one day a couple of my high school friends said hi to her while we were in school. After that they knew I wasn't making it up. My sister and our mom had a falling out when my sister was 17 and my sister moved out. I didn't see my sister again for 10 years, after I invited her to my kids birthday party. I was shocked that she showed up with our dad as I had invited her before this and she never came. I was even happy that she showed up. She's my sister, after all. That is, until I said hi to her. She snubbed me just like she used to, like nothing changed. So I didn't try to talk to her anymore that day. I haven't spoken or seen her since. That was almost 8 years ago.
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
15 Jan 09
I have a close relationship with my sister. We have been in competition since quite long. But still we have tried to make the competition very healthy. We share a good relationship all the time with on and off's going on in the life.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
15 Jan 09
Alas ! I don't have any sister. But I have close relation with my cousins.I share my every thoughts with them.they also share their feelings with me.In my early age I had an agony that I don't have any sister, but now I am happy.
• India
15 Jan 09
i hav a strong relation ship with my sister.. we tend to njoy a lot.. and i think everyone should hav a strong relationship witjhh thier sister.... and also share everything with them.. so that they can be helpful...
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
we are 6 girls in the family and we are all very close to each other even though we do have our own family separately. We always make it a point to visit one another as often as possible. Even our children are so close to each other. we want to keep our family intact even if we do not have all the material things in this world. We go to one church altogether and even used one big car as often as possible...
• India
15 Jan 09
yes, i have close relation with my sister. weshare everythings with each other,fights and soon gets friends. i am elder than her.we discuss every matters and find a solution.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
15 Jan 09
hello.I do not have a sister but i have a brother who is four years younger to me.We are very close to each other.Though we fight on trivial issues but at the end of the day we are one.I was married 2 years back and still remember the moment when he cried lot on my departure. I really love him .May God bless him.
• United States
15 Jan 09
Unfortunately, no I am not close to any of my sisters. I LOVE family and I wish we could get along, but they've all taken paths that I just can't and don't agree with. I hope you and your sister can get it figured out before you both get too much older.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
hello explorations, I have two sisters, our eldest and youngest. I can say that I have a better relationship with our youngest than our eldest. Though we're not that close that much for she is in Texas and I'm here in the Philippines. At least she is not in favor of what our parents are doing that they have favoritism. Unlike our eldest sister that she is the one monopolizing our parents in making decision. Since she is the eldest our parents are following everything that she is saying. And for that it's really unfair not only for me but also to our younger brother and sister as well.
• United States
15 Jan 09
LOL I am on the phone with my sister right now. We are definately not as close as we were when she was little. She use to just adore me. But we are definately close.
• Singapore
15 Jan 09
I only have one sister, and yes I'm very close to her.
• China
15 Jan 09
Hi,my younger sister's and i are getting well along with each other.We will share the concerns frequently.
@reichiru (748)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
Well, sometimes I don't really like to admit it, but I do have a really close relationship with my sister. She's my best friend, and apart from my boyfriend, the person that I would go to first to ask for advice and talk things over with. I mean, she is younger than me, but we share a close bond and have similar interests, even if our personalities are extremely different. We don't fight a lot either, strangely. And it also seems that she bullies me more than I bully her. Actually, I don't bully her at all, everyone keeps telling me I'm too nice for my own good sometimes. But my sister really is helpful, and she's one of the coolest people I know.
• United States
14 Jan 09
i have two younger sisters. I am four and five years apart from them, so they have always been closer. The older of the two and I are very close now. It took me moving away to school and then moving away to start my family for this to happen. The longer we go without seeing each other it seems the closer that we get. We open up to each other much more now than we ever did before. She comes to me with all of her problems and visa versa. It's sad though that we couldn't have had this relationship growing up.