sharing secrets..............

@riyasam (16578)
India
January 15, 2009 10:17am CST
i feel so much better when i share my family problems with my friend.i donot have any great secrets.just few silly ones.but it would be embrassing for me,if a third person came to know about it.first it was my close friend(now,we dont stay together,(as she got married and moved to another state)now,it is my hubby..................what about you???
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• United States
15 Jan 09
We all need someone to tell our secrets to even if it is our trusted pet.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
15 Jan 09
i do agree,my sorrow is reduced when i share it but my sorrow doubles when my friend double crosses me.
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• United States
15 Jan 09
That's why if you tell your secrets to a pet they do not double cross you. I also have learned to pick my friends more wisely. It took me years of heatach to get to this point. Good luck to you.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
hmmm.EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 09
They say problem shared is problem halved. To get any problems out of your chest it is right that you share your problems with someone closest to you and who is willing to lend her ears. Yes, I can't sleep well when I have personal problems and I would surely look for outlet to get it off my chest. I will always confide it to my childhood best friend who has been with me for a long time through thick and thin. I have always been an open book to her. So no problem of it been leaked out to others. She is quite secretive.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
right zandi,but there have been instances in my life,where i have been betrayed.now,i share with my hubby but there are some things which i cant tell my hubby also(things which i think might hurt him).
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 09
Riya, there are things we cannot be too open to our partners/husbands as they might use it as their weapons to pressed us down during misunderstandings. They cannot use their fists on women but they use words to hurt us. So beware about it. There should always be a veil of secrecy that we have to keep to ourselves.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
i do agree,there are things which can be shared only with friends,but they do have their own limitations,so some things are best kept to ourselves.
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
16 Jan 09
I am an open book...LOL! so no great secrets as such. However, whatever they are I have two-three real life close friends, whom I share my secrets. Some of the secrets are shared with better half, which cannot be shared with friends and those which cannot be shared with my better half, are shared with my close friends. Quite an interesting post!
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
quite a balancing act!!!
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
18 Jan 09
Thanks for your kind words.
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• India
15 Jan 09
Hello my friend riyasam Ji, Well in my case, after my marriage, I have always been sharing my secrets with my hubby and none else. He too has been very much maintaing transparency from his side. He always discusses even very small issues and awares me from probales fall out at later stage. it is always good practice in life. I always think that Almighty has done justice to provide very good relation with my hubby. may God bless you and have a great time.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
thanks for your response.
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• India
16 Jan 09
Hello riyasam Ji, So nice of you. may god bless you and have a great time.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
15 Jan 09
i selected friends who i can share my secrets.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
thats good!!all friends cannot be trusted.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
16 Jan 09
correct
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@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
1 Feb 09
If I want something to remain a secret i keep my mouth shut and I don't share it with anybody else. That way I know that the secret is going to die with me in the grave and that nobody can spread something that I did not intend the others to know.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
1 Feb 09
it is so difficult to trust anyone now.i am lucky to have a trusted friend.
• China
16 Jan 09
Well it does seem a bit odd that I seldom confide in my acquaintance.When I have some secrets to pour out,I prefer to tell my net friends it.I think I'm willing to share in all the secrets I know with my best friends,except mine.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
you seem to take life too seriously.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
I used to have a close friend before to whom I can share everything but since she worked in the US now, well, it seems that I'll just keep things to myself. My hubby is also a good listener.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
unburdening relieves us of so many stresses.
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
16 Jan 09
Being a private person, I never shared my secrets with anybody, not even with my close friend. When I had struggled financially for quite sometime(arounf 15 years), my parents even could not make out what the hell I was going through. Now I can share secrets with my hubby only, being a positive thinker, he guides me genuinely in constructive way.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
you are really lucky.good luck for your future
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
16 Jan 09
i have 2 or 3 friends i share my craziness with,
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
thanks for your response.
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@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Well, it is always comforting to have a real true friend who could be your confidante. It's hard when your heart is burdened with problems and secrets (no matter how silly) you can't even unload. Yes, I do have good friends I can share some of them. But my very best friend is my husband. He knows practically every little problems or secret I have. I don't think I could every trust anyone more than I do with my husband.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
good luck ,trust,faith should be the basis of any relationship
@Humbug25 (12551)
15 Jan 09
Hi ya riyasam Well as my mum is my best friend as well as my mum I usually talk to her mainly and tell her more or less everything. I think there are still things I would never discuss things with my mum because I respect her as my mother and is not appropriate no matter how well we get on. I have another friend that I can speak to with regards to matters of the heart etc
@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
i think there are things which cannot be disscussed with a family member,thats when the trusted friend comes in pic.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
yes doctors and therapists believe that a person does feel better when they can talk about their issues to someone they trust, some people really don't have anyone to talk to.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
when i cant speak to anyone,i talk to LORD.i am sure HE understands.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I think secrets, even little ones are some of the most damaging things in any relationship. They give power or take it away. I know they might be enjoyable for a time, giving you the feeling that you know something no one else knows. But believe me there is nothing new that will be any help to you from secrets. Just look at how worried you are about these little things now.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
it is always good to be like an open book
• India
15 Jan 09
U have a good friend. Try to regot him. He is such a good person. DOnt miss that typw of frnds in ur life. I dont know how to share my problems with others. So, I keep quiet and dont disturbs others and make them feel sad due to me. Moreover u have good frnd who understands ur heart. congrats
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
she is a good friend of mine.she has been with me through lifes joys and troubles.now also,we do have contact with eeah other through phone and chat.
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
It really feels better when you know you have someone whom you can share your secrets with. It will help lighten your heavy heart. But just be very careful on whom to share your secrets with. There are many backstabbers out there who pretends that their loyalty belongs to you.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
it is always better to get some family member.as our confidant........
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
15 Jan 09
My youngest daughter and I tend to share so many things, we are not just mother/daughter but friends. Before she moved away and got married we did so much together and talked late into the night if need be. Now when she comes to visit we stay up late just having fun. When she is sick or upset she calls me also.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
you have a wonderful relation with your daughter.hope,i can be to.my daughter is now 6yr old.
• Malaysia
15 Jan 09
i dun like to share my secret wif others ..
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
yup,nowdays it is very difficult to find friends ,who can be trusted.
@SHAMRACK (8528)
• India
15 Jan 09
Dear friend, Sharing problems to someone is really helpful if that person really gives us better suggestions and helps. Moreover I hope we share our secrets with whom we trust, hence I feel sharing is one of the most relief giving part if the person with whom we share really helps us.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
16 Jan 09
friends who can be trusted are rare,if you have such friends,it is a blessing