Fathers rights before birth

Canada
January 15, 2009 3:29pm CST
Ok I am a girl yes, but this has still always bothered me i have a brother, nephews, and a son so even though I am a female it still matter to me. Its such a hard topic to get an opinion on too. Ok bottom line is do you think men that impregnante a women should have any say as to weather the baby is aborted or adopted. Right now as it stands i believe that in canada the father has no say over abortion, but can stop the mother from adopting out the baby as long as he knows that shes pregnant before the adoption takes place. Now ok not bad but what bugs me is that if a man knows a women is pregnant and he wants that baby, it dosnt matter she can abort the baby no questions asked. I see why it's her body right, so its her choice, but from a mans perspective its not fair, she has complete control and theres nothing you can do. What do you all think?
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@kezabelle (2985)
15 Jan 09
No it isnt fair BUT being pregnant giving birth having that child is a mammoth thing to do and whats to stop the father changing his mind when its too late for her to get an abortion who will support the woman then? It isnt fair no but it is right in my opinion its the womans body and therefore it is her choice what happens with it
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Nature has deemed that pregnancy & birth belong to women, only the pregnant woman should have the authority to make decisions about her pregnancy. From the other side, if a man had a right to say a woman should continue an unwanted pregnancy then it's not a far stretch of the imagination to say he should be able to decide a woman should abort a pregnancy she wishes to continue. Do you see why this is a slippery slope?
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• Canada
17 Jan 09
I can see what your saying, but i do not believe that if he had to right to have the women carry on with an unwanted pregnancy he would then have the right to make her abort the pregnancy, because i think it would end up going something along the lines of if both parents chose they didnt want the baby then an abortion is an option, however if one parent dosnt want the child then the one who does would be the one who would carry on the bills, medical expensis and raise the child once it was born. They could then decided wheather the other parent would be involved in the child's life in any way or else there parental rights would be terminated and sole custody would then reside with the parent who wanted the child. I do however know that it's the womens body so there for it should be her choice whether to continue with the pregancy. I just dont think it's fair that a women can keep a baby the man dosnt want, and she call also abort a baby that a man does want, yes it's her body but it is his child, his dna also and just because the baby is not able to grow inside of him he should not be punished for it.
• United States
21 Jan 09
What a good subject to have a discussion on. Its very hard to say what the right thing in this situation you have mentioned would be. I mean on one hand yes the father should have some say in the matter as to weather or not HE would like to keep the child even if she does not. But i think you have to remember that when a woman becomes pregnant there are a lot of other things that the MAN just doesn't understand. There are hormones and doctors appointments and insurance that would need to be paid so would he be willing to do all that as well? On the other hand what right does one person have to tell another person what they can or can not do with their own body? Technically until the baby comes out of a woman its not a baby its considered a fetus and ridiculously isn't considered alive until it takes its first breath of air. even though i find this ludicris (sp?) this is how the system is at this time.
• Canada
21 Jan 09
I agree it is a very hard question, becuase as a women i feel it's my body, and my choice. They do not have to go through any of the physical or emotional changes. But I am also a mother to a boy, I have 3 nephews, a great nephew and a brother. If i were to find out that my son when he is older got his girlfreind/wife pregnant and he was ready and willing to take on this responsibility he wanted his child, and hi girlfriend or wife decided she didnt I think it would be very hard to understand and deal with because even though it is technically not a child or a baby, it is still a "fetus" I would still feel like it was his child, and my grandchild i would still feel that loss. I know the laws will never likely be changed, I was just wanting to know how other people view this topic! And thank you for you input
@snowy22315 (47047)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I dont think a man should be able to control what a woman does with her body but they should be able to have legal righs over whether the baby is adopted into anothe family or not. It hink that is a reasonable thing. I think the laws are the same in the US.
• Canada
24 Jan 09
BABIES ARE NOT MADE BY WOMAN ALONE..IT TAKES A MAN TO MAKE ONE! The man is just as responsible and HE HAS A RIGHT AFTER ALL IT IS HIS CHILD! It isn't only the woman's otherwise women wouldn't be needing to sleep with a man..right?
• United States
15 Jan 09
I can see how this is a very contraversal subject and it may be hard to get people to discuss it... but in my opinion, he was there to make the baby he should have a say in the life of it as well. I know it is the womans body, but if she chooses to give birth and give it up, then the father should have a right to say whether or not he will take it and care for it, it is his afterall. it is a tough call either way, if she doesnt want it she may not take care of herself there fore he would have to be around to make sure she does, and discuss and convince her to keep it. that is just my opinion.