What do you do when you are MAD?

@wheel416 (1019)
Canada
January 15, 2009 4:40pm CST
OK, I'm slightly annoyed today but I don't get angry very often. But, if I do watch out because it isn't going to be a pleasant sight. Most of the time when I get mad I will cry instead of yell, scream or holler. I don't curse or swear at anyone when I'm mad at them. In fact, I had a friend recently remark, "when you get mad, you start using really big words." The sad thing is, she's absolutely right I will not yell at you or call you an idiot or stupid, I will simply use five syllable words to illustrate that I am smarter than you... Well.... That's not really the conscious intent, it is the end result. I'm definitely not a violent person nor could I see punching a wall or even a pillow for that matter. My anger does not take a physical manifestation. What about you how you deal with your anger? Do you get angry often? Or not? Can you control your anger do you have a rage problem? Tell me what you do when you get mad and feel free to rant if you need to. As always your comments are always appreciated. Happy posting! Or ugly posting! if it seems more appropriate.
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@cndn420 (2062)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
i've been told i can be very intimidating when i get mad so like you said about yourself..watch out LOL it isn't gonna be pretty i like to take a short drive when i get angry it really calms me down (but i do tend to wait a little bit so im not overly mad when i drive) and i sing as well. i find it to be a very good release for me. hope you have a better day tomorrow!
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
While I was reading your response it reminded me of a suggestion a friend once gave me. She once told me there when she gets very frustrated she will get in her car and drive out of the city and then scream at the top of her lungs, while she's in the car. She said she does this so that nobody else can hear her, and therefore they will not threaten to put her in a padded cell. Thanks for commenting and happy Mylotting!
@cndn420 (2062)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
haha well screaming at the top of your lungs is a nice release of frustration always a good idea
• United States
15 Jan 09
Thank goodness for my membership to the gym... hahaha. Whenever I get upset or angry, I will head over to the gym. I go there every morning before I head off to my student teaching job, but I will make a point to go for an extra session during lunch or after work if I am bent or stressing a bit. Itry not to let the anger go to someone directly, even if they are the source of my anger. I don't feel that it's fair for me to blow up and be irrational. I'll go there, run it off on a treadmill, or give the punching bag a good 15 minutes of a beating. I am a pretty mellow person anyways, but it does happen. Not too regularly though. I am usually very good at controlling it; I am definitely not a raging person.
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@oadgmd (102)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
that's exactly how i deal with anger. I dont like violence as well so i justworkout to blow steam off then come back when im cooled down
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
Yes, physical activity can be a great release of pent up anger.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Jan 09
I get sarcastic. Or I internalize it and stew and brew over it. Then I go back to the person and quietly and logically tell them why they were wrong. It takes really a lot to get me mad enough to yell.
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
Do you know that the word sarcasm literally means " tearing of the flesh"? I for get where exactly I heard or read that, but if you look at the origins of the word, that is indeed what it means. I consider myself to have a pretty good sense of humor, but ever since I heard that I'd tried to limit my sarcasm, don't like the thought of me literally tearing at someone. Yet another example, of some of the useless knowledge that is in my brain that of acquired throughout the years.
@annierose (18955)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Everytime that I go mad, I try to control myself. It is because usually when I got mad, most of the time, I leave words that hurt other person's feelings. And because of that, I feel regrets in the end. I really feel sorry not just for him or for her but also for myself because I did not do anything good. Because of that, I learned my lesson. As of now, I control my madness by writing down the causes of it on a paper or typing it on computer. I spend so much writing those words and I really cry while writing those. Well, after that, I send all those stuffs with my boyfriend although he is not the reason why I got mad After the message has been sent to him, I feel somewhat relief. It is because I already told to the one dear to my heart all the anger inside of me. My boyfriend is a mature man and he understands my attitude.Sometimes, I just stay quiet and keep myself busy so not to think what makes me upset. I do so many cleaning in the house and watch movies. Usually, I choose movies which makes me laugh. Sometimes I just surf the net just to forget.I can say that it will just took me one or two days and then my madness will be gone and I will soon be ok again. To sum it up, I just see to it, that instead of telling to the person who made me mad all the hurting words, I try to deviate my emotion into something I know that I will not regret in the end. I always believe that once words were spoken to someone, specially if it hurts, you cannot just tell them to forget it. For sure,it will stay in their memories that once in their life, they experienced to be hurt by you because of them.
• United States
15 Jan 09
When I was a kid I had a really bad temper and had a tendency to get rather violent too. People tried all sorts of things to snap me out of that sort of thing and I can't really remember anything actually working. I guess I eventually just grew out of that sort of thing. I really don't get that mad anymore. I may get frustrated, a bit angry, but things don't bother me as much as they used to. Also, when I get mad, I tend to just not talk to anyone. I try not to name call or place the blame on anyone. I try to solve problems or issues other ways but sometimes I do get frustrated and just need to be left alone to get over the issue or make myself and the other person think about what caused the problem in the first place and see what can fix it, if anything.
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
15 Jan 09
i count to ten and then ten more.if you don,t think when you are angry you can really do some stupid stuff it,s not always good to vent when you are angry.i also when iam mad is play a game to help take my mind off the situation.
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@Valenas (1510)
• United States
16 Jan 09
It depends on how mad I am. Sometimes I grit my teeth and fume about it when I am alone. Sometimes I get mad enough to leave the house and go walk it off. There are even times where I get so mad that I am crying. If it goes from there, I might shake with anger. Generally, I just fume about stuff.
• United States
16 Jan 09
I just cry. And i yell and get really upset. its not fun.
@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I don't get angry very often but when I do I tend to be somewhat sarcastic. Sarcasm is one of those traits that I wish I didn't have to be honest. Some label it as being a smart @@@ and maybe I am at times but the intent is not to be sarcastic just to vent my anger I guess! LOL
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
16 Jan 09
When I get angry at someone, or something, I normaly start do things. I might start clean and organize things at home, or at work. I stay away from the person or the things that make me angry just to make shore, I can stay calm and not open my mouth and say things I really do not mean. I am a person who try not start a conflict with people if I do not have to....I like discuss things in order to come to an understanding. Hppy mylotting
@shamsta19 (3225)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I will clean the dishes or something sometimes too. Got to stay busy~
@dhaksha80 (143)
• Singapore
16 Jan 09
When i become mad i used to scream to my hubby. At that time i will get annoyed whatever ho does. He is the outlet of my anger.He knows that i will calm down once i evolve my anger.If i keep it in my heart i will be more and more angry.So i used to drain my anger soon.
• China
16 Jan 09
when i get mad, i'll be more silent,or go to sleep. 'cause when i am asleep,i'll forget all the stuff.
@djemba (767)
• India
16 Jan 09
ok, I dont think i can do anything about it, but maybe my friends and parents might take me to the mental hospital!
• United States
16 Jan 09
I do get angry easily and I tend to fix the cause by breaking somethig that has value, so the owner can feel pain, or ill just beat someone up.
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Hi! I believe it's great that you can vent out your anger (sans the violence ;p), it's a healthy habit actually. If you feel angry, you SHOULD somehow get it out of your system, because if you make a habit of putting a lid on your anger, this can hurt your heart eventually. ^_^ I'm not a very patient person, so when I get mad, I usually tell the person involved what upsets me. Unfortunately sometimes, I use "big words" like you do. If there's something I don't like, I say it right away so things would get resolved as soon as possible. Some people say that when you start getting angry and you feel like you might utter some unkind words, what you can do is count slowly backwards from 10 to 1. Have you guys tried this before? I haven't, but maybe I will if I get the chance ^_^
• Brazil
16 Jan 09
I hardly ever get angry but when that happens I simply try to breathe, I know bad words just attract bad things and i also know that this mad feeling doesn´t do any good for me.
• India
16 Jan 09
oh.. atleast you do have some outlet to vent out your anger right? i dont even have one.. When i am angry, the anger would be visible on my face. my expression changes. My friends have said that becomes kinda scary.. i dont know how i look like when i am angry... just have heard what other people tell me. Anyways, i just keep quiet and wait till my anger passes away bcause my dad has always taught me that : "Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech that you will ever regret!!"
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
16 Jan 09
ya know i used to hold everything in but for some reason when i hit 50 or so i started letting it out and i fell better for it. another thing i do is get up and get out, hit one of the parks and take a good long walk on a hiking trail just a soakin up the surroundings and peacefullness of it all. &^^&%$&*&^%$^ there that's better, "). good morning
@chriswolf (360)
• China
16 Jan 09
I wanna do crazy things when I am mad. Somehow, I have to relief my pressure when facing somethings bad. Such as going out and running with no reasons. Or sometimes, I will talk to my best friends.
@sara007 (134)
• China
16 Jan 09
just eating