Is it right that married too early?A friends of mine needs help.

I am not a married woman, but I would like to give my opinion on marriage. I would suggest one not marry too early at 21. It would highly limit one's career deveopment. When one has a family to tend, much of her time will be devoted to her family. She has less time to purchase her dreams and career. But if your friend is family-oriented, and she enjoys family life than her career. Then, things are different!

Marriage doesn't cause your life to get "humdrum". Alot of people love the person that they are with but don't want to put in the extra effort that it takes after you get married to keep things alive and moving in the right direction. I was in a relationship for over five years with the same man and we lived together and where I am from thats considered common law marriage. But the point is it's up to you to go out with friends or to make a special date with your significant other. You can't just say okay I'm married now life sucks. It doesn't work that way. If you friend is already married however she needs to start looking at ways to turn this around. Like do a special dinner for her husband have it on the table when he gets home make it very romantic, or pick one night a week that she hangs out with her firneds and he hangs out with his. I'm sure if you looked on the net she could find hundreds of ways to spice it back up!

I think she needs to stick it out and make it work. My husband and I were both 20 when we got married. We had been together for 2 years before that. Now we are both 27 and we have 3 kids together. It was tough at times but we worked through it. Marriage isn't a big party. It can be fun and great but there are hard times. It takes work and commitment. If her marriage is humdrum they need to fix that. If they don't have kids then it would be even easier. They need to have date nights and find things they like to do together. Like bowling or going to see movies or anything like that. I've been making more of an effort to like football so now my husband and I can get into the games together. If they have kids it sometimes makes it a little harder to get out for date nights but it can be done. I also enjoy doing things as a family. There are some small amusement parks around here and it is nice to just take a day and go as a family. We also do family movie nights. Her husband and her need to sit down and talk about how she is feeling and work on it together. That is one of the best things about a marriage, you have someone to always help you work out your problems.

it is hard to answer this question.i just should say it depends. it is said marriage is a fate.there are so many people in the workd,why just you two get married? so we should value every moment of being together and treat the other part with genuine heart.if your friend choose the right person and get married,i think marry early is good,because they have more time of being together and taking care of each other. after all, real life is not like movies or TV series,full of exciting moments and romantic roses or sweet words.but it is eternal!

If she believes she has found her soulmate then she should go ahead and do it because you never know if this type of person will come around again....she shouldn't take this opportunity for granted

I think so.First,I am still learning English.The friend of you married at the age of 21,it's really early. The age of 21 is to taste different life,to practise any skill what he needs,and to know different people what he wants,etc.Above all,he should improves himself in next years. When his career is stable,and feel must find the half part of his life.falling in love with a woman what he love deeply that is very naturly. My English level is too bad to express my opioion.Maybe still have many syntax matters. I am so sorry about this.

hello yunzhige, Getting married is really a tough decision. For once you're into it, you can never turn back. So, before entering into a much deeper relationship we must think a hundred and one times to be sure. Now, if you think you're ready - financially, physically and spiritually then go ahead. But if you're not sure, then you need to think again or better yet not yet. It's really nice to have a family of our own. But we must make sure that we're both not only financially stable but also our mind is really set for this. In my own opinion, getting married at the age of 21 is really too early. For me, 25 years and up is the right age for a lady to get married. By this time, she is already much mature, enjoyed his single life and probably financially stable too.

Well I will teel you my experience but if she feels SHE is not ready then she should not get married. I got married when I was 22, actually we had been together for awhile and had a child when I was 20. I am glad that I got married young and had my children young. I like that I can enjoy my life when I am older and get to travel and share all these experiences with my husband. Married life does not have to be humdrum if ou don't want it to be. We go out, not like he use to but I was never a big party person anyways! I think it will be great when the kids are older and we can start travelling to different place we oth want to see. She should talk to here husband to be before going through with it though he might be able to make her feel better about her situation, PLUS if they have no kids then there is no limit as to what they can do together!!!

Life is not easy and not always exciting. Anybody who says or thinks marriage is going to a party is a fool and or a liar. Marriage takes work. There are 2 people involved with 2 different opinions and ideas. What makes one person happy doesn't always make the other. She ought to be talking to her husband about her feelings and see if they figure out something together. Maybe he feels the same way too.

Marriage doesn't necessarily make a person's life "humdrum". Marriage is what you make of it. If you really love being around the person that you marry, then I think it's less likely to be humdrum, but if you marry someone you don't truly love and look at marriage as a prison or something that you drags you down, then you'd be more likely to view it as humdrum. Simply living a domestic lifestyle and raising children may be viewed as humdrum by many people, but that doesn't mean that everyone hates it or that it's boring for everyone. I got married when I was 19. I was ready and I knew what I wanted. It wasn't something I entered into lightly. I also knew that I married the right person. I am now 26 and have been married for 7 years. We are happy and have a 5-year-old child together. We live a pretty quiet life and are homebodies, which humdrum to many people, but we love it and we are happy. I think it really depends on the person, their expectations of marriage, their willingness to make it work, and their view of the optimal lifestyle.

It was her decision anyway. A lot of us are always unhappy with the decisions we like. Like I should have studied Biology instead of Law. Or I shouldn't have eaten that donut last night. But you know what, life has to go on and so instead of dwelling on the past we should just accept how things are and move on. Anyway, with regards to marrying young, there are some benefits to it as well. Like when you're forty and your kids are all grown up, you'll be able to enjoy life in your forties and fifties.

As long as a person is prepared for it marriage at the age of 21 is not wrong. There are things which need to be taken into account before marrying someone and during the lifetime of a marriage. Among the things are the acceptance of a different lifestyle and the responsibilities as a partner of a marriage. What were the reasons for her stepping into a different life? Was it out of pure 'love'? By the sound of it the spark has gone out of their love life. In this situation maybe she should have a talk with her husband about her feelings. They can arrange something to make their marriage back on track. They should try to rekindle the feelings so that she would enjoy married life. An example is doing things occasionally together. all the best, rosdimy

Marriage is not an easy decision and if she feels not to marry right now she shouldn't marry, she is still young. There isn't the exact age to be married you have just to be ready for marriage, marriage is a commitment but is is fantastic if you choose your right lovable partner.

first of all her decision of getting married early was absolutely wrong and she has to regret about that....... i have also experienced the same thing with my friend, he too got married early,and made his life complicated with lack of understanding between the couple and their families, well he has three children now but then also!!!!!!!! the only thing i used to suggest him is to sit and talk, talking has the power to sort out the bigger problems than this..... the same thing i would like to suggest your friend also. both of them should sit and talk about the problems either are facing in life and try to sort it out that's the only way to save marriage.......