I think I am losing my touch!

@Humbug25 (12551)
January 17, 2009 10:03am CST
Previously I used to get 30 odd responses to discussions I had started and regularly appeared in the myLot digest. Recently though I am struggling to get 20 responses if that. I don't know if it is because a lot of my friends aren't around to respond to my discussions or if I am starting discussions that just aren't appealing to a lot of people. How about you? How are doing for responses at the moment?
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41 responses
17 Jan 09
I have never really had the magic touch with making discussions that get lots of responses. I used to take it very personally but don't anymore. So many interesting discussions get lost in the huge income of "rubbish" discussions. I'm sure things will pick up again for you soon. Good luck
@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
Hi there mummyofthree I don't take it personally either, I was just wondering where I was going wrong or even if I am. I like to think that I start really good discussions and maybe like you say they get lost umongst the tat!! Thanks for your response, I am feeling better about it now
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17 Jan 09
I am glad!
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@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
17 Jan 09
I dont have the magic touch and think those who do are great lol im sure it is just a glitch and you will get the magic back lol
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Jan 09
Hi ya AbbeyB Yeah it's either that or everyone is still getting back to normal after the Christmas holidays. The only way I managed to get back to normal was by deleting nearly all my myLot emails in my inbox and start afresh. I felt bad because it did mean that I didn't respond to a lot of my friends discussions but I started a discussion to apologise to everyone about that! Thanks Abbey
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
17 Jan 09
Well my friend, you know that I have to hunt to find you as even though I have you button turned on as a friend I do not get your posts.I always think your discussions are good. I never eally notice how many posts people get although recently I saw that one post had received 115 posts or something. Incredible to me. Personally, I am rubbish at posting and havbe never had the knack of writing something that has a broad appeal to people. Totally rubbish. I have never received 30 responses to anything that I have posted. To my shame I even had one discussion that didn't receive even one post. Blessings and no, you haven't lost your touch.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Jan 09
Hi there cynthiann I must admit I do think about the discussions I am going to start quite a lot and they are normally about my own daily life and experiences that I think are amusing and would be just as amusing to others. I try not to start discussions that are like which do you prefer pepsi or coke cola but these sort of discussions get a lot of responses because nearly everybody can relate to this sort of question and it is easy to respond to. The discussion I got 115 responses to appealed to a wide audience and I genuinely wanted to know what others cooked in their microwave because I was thinking about getting rid of mine or was looking for ways to use mine more to justify keeping it!! It is strange that you don't get emails direct to you informing you that I have started a new discussion if you have put notification to 'ON' by my name in your friends list!! Thanks as always for your response my friend!!
@ellie333 (21029)
17 Jan 09
Wow Humbug you are lucky to be getting 20 plus on any discussion as some people struggle to get just two or three. It has been a lot quieter of late though. I usually get on average 20-30 responses still to most discussions but am finding a lot of the responses are from people not on my friends list and the first few tend to be from the ones that tend to answer the majority of my discussions and I theirs. You are not losing your touch at all just the ups and downs of myLot response life LOL. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
Hi ya ellie333 I think you are right ellie!! Alot of people that respond to mine are also not on my friends list and I can only think about how many responses I would get if most of my active friends responded too, apart from those that have done of course. I am not taking it personally as I understand that a lot of my friends are probably busy with other things and sometimes it takes time getting back into the flow of things again when the new year starts. I know it took me a bit of time to get back to some sort of normality!! I have started my college course again so I will have less time than before but shall still be fairly active!!
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@ellie333 (21029)
17 Jan 09
What college course are you doing? I am just too tired these days to sit in front of the computer for any length of time so a less less active than normal. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
ECDL. I did the first part last year and finished in June but then there weren't enough people to do the 2nd part of the course after the summer holidays so I am finishing it off now even though it was very short notice of my tutor to tell me and it might still be cancelled because only three of us turned up this week!! All the arranging of childminders and pre-school, parking etc might just go out the window but I really do hope not!!
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
17 Jan 09
hi Humbug25, What i feel is it is not the quality of discussion but if u reply to ur frnds discussion and they reply urs back and few others who aint ur frnd if they find ur discussion interesting they might reply but it is basically reciprocal here because few days back i started a discussion i got only 6 replies or so . The discussion was can you ever forget your first love and today i saw the same discussion by someone else getting over 50 replies:(
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@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
Hi agrim94 So then I should kinda apologise to you because I didn't respond to your discussion but let me explain why. It was in fact because I had replied to the other persons discussion and here on mylot they don't like you to repeat yourself and you can lose earnings for doing so. I am sure that if you had started your discussion a few days prior to the other mylotter it would have been you that got 50+ responses! Thanks agrim
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
17 Jan 09
I did start a few days b4 him... i started it about 1 week b4 him but then may be i m not very active here so i dont get back and it is not that i mind if u reply to mine or not as i know i m not very active but it is just my feeling that ppl get more responses who reply more to their friends.. may be i am wrong but i do have this feeling.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
Hmm I am sorry I really don't know what happened there then! I do sometimes put my emails into alphabetical order when I have a lot and sometimes when a new email comes in I answer that first if it easy enough for me to respond to. I really am not sure what happened there - sorry!!
@bieke81 (1069)
• Belgium
17 Jan 09
I don't think you're losing your touch. It just gets busier at mylot so new posts tend to disappear faster (that's my idea). But at least you have one more answer today at your discussion Have a nice day
@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
Hi ya bieke81 Yes this is true, now you are back I might have one extra response a day if you choose to make my discussions umongst one of your 5 a day!! Cheers bieke81
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@bieke81 (1069)
• Belgium
17 Jan 09
Hmm, can't promise anything, but most of the time you post good discussions, so I think you will be in my top list Have a nice day
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@Humbug25 (12551)
17 Jan 09
That's why I can't understand why responses to my discussions have been low as of late hahahahahahaha Nothing like blowing your own trumpet is there? Hahahaha
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jan 09
Anywhere from zero to 30 something, rarely more than that. Just depends on the discussion!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jan 09
PS this one seems to be a winner. lol
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@Humbug25 (12551)
20 Jan 09
Hi dawny Yes it does seem to be going quite well, just anther 65 or so responses to go before I beat my all time best!!! I think that was a fluke though!! LOL Cheers dawn
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jan 09
Go for it!
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@dmrone (751)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I am still trying to get the hang of the site. I haven't posted anything yet. I hope your responses go back up for you.
@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Jan 09
Hi there dmrone and welcome to mylot! It does take a bit of time to get comfortable with a site and I would advise you to just invite a lot of people to be your friend, put the email notifications to 'ON' and answer a fair few discussions before you start your own and get the feel of things. Once you can see what everybody else does you will have the confidence and know how to start your own discussions. Good luck and happy mylotting!
@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Jan 09
By the way if there is anything you want to know or need any help with then please don't hesitate as most myLotters are more than happy to help a newbie and that includes me!!
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
24 Jan 09
Wow, you are still getting too much. I can't garner even 20 responses to my topic. I think, many people have lost interest in Mylot or they are busy elsewhere.
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
25 Jan 09
Thanks for the useful advise. I hope, with this I'll be able to increase my response rate.
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Don't feel so bad, sweetie! LOL! The few times I've started a discussion I hardly get any responses. I usually get 2 or 3 if I'm lucky. The most responses I've ever had was 14. That's a landslide for me! LOL! Then, of course, I've started a few discussions where nobody has responded at all! :( At times it can seem a little disconcerting and gets me feeling all paranoid as if nobody likes me *sniff* *sniff*, but, I know better. Don't worry about it too much, sweetie... Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@Humbug25 (12551)
21 Jan 09
Hi ya kellyjeanne When I first started out in myLot I barely got any responses but I increased my friends list and that seemed to help no end! I think things will pick up again soon. Cheers kelly
• United States
21 Jan 09
Thanks, Humbug! I do need to increase my list of friends........... That's why I sent out a friend's request to you! :) Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Heck, I would be extremely happy to get 20! I can't ever get 10! Start adding some more friends. I could be possible that some of your friends are not active anymore.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
19 Jan 09
Hi messageme I think you are probably right some of friends might well be inactive. Do you want to be my friend? lol Thanks for your response
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
20 Jan 09
sure why not, you know you will get a response from me! Well most of the time.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I would love to know I could even get 20 responses on a few of my discussions! Some I've only gotten 1-5 and some none! And I thought the discussions were good ones! I wish more friends would come out and comment on my discussions. I try to respond to all friends if their discussion interests me.
@Humbug25 (12551)
19 Jan 09
Hi there Barb42 Well I was intrigued to see what discussions you start and to see what problems you have so I had a quick look via your profile and eventually found a discussion to respond to that didn't have any responses. You even had a discussion that got 80 responses so a bit like me you are probably not doing as badly as first thought when you look over the discussions you have actually started! Keep up the good work! Thanks for your response
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Humbug, I appreciate you responding to that particular discussion. When I wrote it, I thought sure there would be lots of people in the sports section that would respond. Man, was I ever so wrong! I had forgotten about that one discussion where I got so many responses, but most of them are 1-15 and it just doesn't seem to be getting any better. Maybe my thoughts are not good ones for discussions?
@funtasy (98)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 09
well, i joined mylot a few weeks ago, and i just peply people discussion and havent make my own . i think making friend group are important. well, if i don't have a nice thing to said i will not start the discuss,any suggestion for newbie like me?
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Jan 09
Hello there funtasy and welcome to myLot I think you have to start discussions that appeal to a wide audience and is relatively easy for them to reply to. I always start with a brief story and then ask a question or two after the discussion so people can see what experience I have had but can respond to my questions. I would advise you not to make the discussion too long or else people are put off by the amount of text before they even know what the discussion is all about. Oh yeah and it is good to come up with a good title to your discussion and get lots of active friends so they can respond to your discussions! Good luck, I hope this helps and you enjoy yourself on myLot
• Malaysia
19 Jan 09
well, thank's for this helpful reply, i'll be more good after this! happy mylotting!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Hello humbug25! I think maybe because some of your friends are not active anymore that's why your number of responses reduces. But 20 responses isn't bad at all. In my case, when I am starting here, I have many one page responses on my discussion but I guess now, I am doing good because I have 5 - 9 pages of response now. I am glad that all my friends like you are very supportive.
@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Jan 09
Hi ya aisaellis22 Oh believe me I have had discussions where I have only got 1 or 2 responses but I don't think that has happened for a while. I find it a bit frustrating when I want advice or something and genuinely need as many responses as possible to help me make a disicision about something!! Thanks for your response and your support too
• United States
18 Jan 09
well, I do admit that sometimes, you have some discussions where I am not able to respond to because I know nothing about it...plus I went to a vacation for 3 weeks so I was not able to come here..but really as much as possible I tried to answer to your discussions...
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
17 Jan 09
i'm not really paying a lot of attention to my responses.. i dont really care how many i get.. i guess the more the better, but then its more i have to answer lol. . Good luck humbug, i try to answer your discussions whenever i see your name.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Jan 09
Hi ya Sissygrl Do you not have me on notification 'ON' then? All my friends are all on! A lot of my friends are not active though or else I would never have time to start discussions!! Cheers Sissygrl
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
I dont actually, because.. when i was away i was getting like between 100-200 emails in my inbox everyday about discussions and i would let them pile up for a while and then i'd have 1000's of emails to delete lol. and its only 25per page you can delete at a time. whoa. But i always go to my friends discussions page.
@gtdonna (1740)
20 Jan 09
I honestly think that everyone is loosing their touch and between trying to make ends meet, working, paying bills, rent and other expenses, even with the hope of getting a pay out from Mylot few people are interested now...to me it is all about people putting more important priorities first. However, don't despair, things are going to get better and your friends will be back
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@Humbug25 (12551)
20 Jan 09
Hello gtdonna I don't think I could have put that better myself!! LOL Thanks for your response
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
Maybe your right,your friends may not be that active thus,you do not get as much responses as you usually do.or maybe your lacking in enthusiasm in responding to responses you get thus not creating a conversation.Well,that was just an opinion.Or maybe you just have to reinvent your writing,focus on an interest you may have ignored in the past,or ficus on an interest you like the most.You will definitely create a very interesting and attention grabbing discussion by doing that. Goodluck to you and have a nice day.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
20 Jan 09
Hi ya JOIEMARVIC Well things do seem to be picking up a bit and I have invited some more people to be my friends. It's just a bit of a shock when you go from getting loads of responses to barely getting any! Thanks for your response
• United States
20 Jan 09
Most discussions I start are lucky to get a couple of responses. I have not referred anyone here, all the friends that I have on here are people that requested to be, so I never really had anyone that felt obligated to even just look at any of my discussions. I am sure you will get your following back.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
20 Jan 09
Hello UtopianIdealist I think I probably will and I have made some new friends from this very discussion too. Thanks for your response
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
20 Jan 09
I do not start discussions very often now, and I can not get many posts in my discussion. But sometimes I stil find that in my topics some people make posts which I can not understand. I think maybe they can not know what I have said well, or the culture differences make us can not think in the same way. But they may bring me a new angle to view the things happen around me, and help me alot.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
20 Jan 09
Hi dandan07 I think if you read through this discussion it might help you a bit as there are some very good points made about starting discussions and getting response. Good luck and thanks for your response
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
Seems I am the 43rd person (unless someone pips me here) to respond and five pages worth, well my friend I think that answers your question. I always look forward to your discussions and you know I always answer them, but I have an excuse I have only just got back from my retreat, so I am back on the ball, so have no fear, wolfie is here!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
19 Jan 09
Hey there wolfie34 It is always comforting to know that you are there/here!! Cheers friend