January 17, 2009 1:22pm CST
I have a friend and she does something a lot that just drives me crazy. Say it'll be her birthday and she'll say "Nobody came to see me" or "Nobody gave me a gift", when I did come to see her or gave her a gift. She does this often with various things and I always tell her I did the thing she said nobody did. Then, she goes "Well, I don't mean you." Does this happen to anyone else? Does, or would this, bother you?
18 Jan 09
I find it hard to relate to pessimists.. I don't really know what you can do. It is possible to change people, but I'm not very good with people anyway so I wouldn't be able to help. I can see how that would be annoying though. I'm fairly antisocial so I doubt I'd meet someone like that anyway. Most of my friends are laid back and don't care about anything.. Like rather than complaining that someone blocked the hall way at school and they couldn't get through, they'd laugh because someone was blocking the hall way. If there is no traits you like about your friend then you shouldn't be afraid to tell her that when she talks like that it annoys you. If there is traits you like about her though then you should just ignore the bad parts and like the good parts about her.
18 Jan 09
This is the type of person that looks for sympathy and is very needy. Personally I have a great deal of difficulty in dealing with this sort of person, They are very self centred and its all about them. And to top it off they stand there and wonder why no one likes them. You can not please them so do not even try. There are nicer and better people that deserve your friendship and will value you, Seek them out and forget poor little girl, who no one loves.
18 Jan 09
Well I tried not to be so harsh.. But I couldn't have put it better. :P That's basically what I was saying.. Just not getting to the point. It's not good to hurt peoples feelings, even if they are pessimistic cry babies who complain to get what they want. I do agree that spending time with that person if you hate their complaining and can't deal with it is stupid though. If you don't feel like you can change the way she is, give up on her and meet new people.
21 Jan 09
I might say if asked you were the only person that got me something and be pleased with that.But to say no one got me anything is wrong and hurtful say well next time you will feel what it is like to not get anything at all then you will now what getting nothing feels like.It sounds like she has issues and needs to figure out why no one appears to bother with her ,does she remember other peoples birthdays and make the effort.As her friend maybe you could help her persue this avenue.
17 Jan 09
Sure it would bother me... at the very least, I'd feel unappreciated. It seems to me that your friend DOES value you - but she could use some lessons about showing it! I guess you're such a good and reliable friend that she has come to expect you to remember her and she just doesn't make much of it. I still think it's rude of her to say "nobody" remembers her, though, when you always do. Some people just like to complain ;)