During courting ,do you like "hard to get "or "easy" ?

@ronnyb (6120)
Jamaica
January 18, 2009 6:02pm CST
Do you like when you are giving the challenge during courting ,when the other person makes you pull out the stops to make them happy. Do you like when they make you wait for a protracted length of time before you even get a good night kiss or after one night ?.If your answer is yes please state why ? On the other hand you may not be a person who likes to work for anything .Many argue that after all this is a world when you can get a meal in a couple of second so why should you have to wait ? The issue is though that would you be wary if you got someone quite easily .Wouldn’t you be wondering if this person wasn’t similarly easy with someone else ?.Couldn’t it just be that this person really likes you and feels a connection. What are you views on dating and when do you think there should be real remuneration in terms of a good night kiss or more ..lol ?Do you believe in playing hard to get and is that how you conduct your dates (sorry for being so inquisitive ...you can ignore this one lol)
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Hi ronnyb! I guess, during my time almost every girl I knew (including me of course) plays hard to get and sometimes, it is not because you are hard to get but it is for the reason that you just want to be sure of the guy's intentions towards you. personally, I waited and let my husband waited until I was so sure of his intentions and until I can't control my feelings towards him no longer. haha..It took us a year of courtship before we had the kiss. haha..I guess, I belong to the conservative group and I think it is not like this anymore in this present generation. But I do hope that the youth should wait awhile and be sure of their feelings and the guy's feelings and intentions towards them before they give in. Just my thoughts! Take care and have a nice day! lovelots..faith210
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Jan 09
Thank for the insight into how women think,I will bear that in mind when I am courtin a woman.What you have told me about you dating actvities with your husband is sweet and like you said more young people should try this.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Hi dear! You're most welcome and thank you too for the kind words. lovelots..faith210
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
19 Jan 09
good grief, w/all those questions u have a old woman;s head spinning. lol well, whatever i liked & tried don't guess it was the right thing to do.i am just not a very good "picker-outer". is that a word??
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@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Jan 09
Sorry about the questions lol.Well I dont suppose many persons are good picker outer ,but I guess its all about playing the game.lol
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
19 Jan 09
questions didn't bother me.it's a game alright. too bad there has to beloser.
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
hi wwjd_2dons07 here. I've reed your question and opinion about "dating and what if the person you like is hard to get or easy?ok I can tell some pointers regarding your question. Now a days teenagers are so much adventorous. They tend to find or even get into a relationship whether they really like the person or not.They sometimes dont realize if the relation is for keeps or not just going with the flow of relationship of teenagers.Sometimes even a simple gesture they make it a big thing and after tha finding there own self hook by they say LOVE. For me, after staying in a 4 years relationship and at the end broken hearrted sometimes when the TIME is right...and your heart Is READY to fallon love again you can never tell if it will takes a long time to open your arms to someone. Have you reed the I KIss Dating Goodbye. Im not saying that you follow the rules ots just sometimes when we are looking for live you can't find the right one...you have relationships and you thought that it is the best one...but it's not. those relationship makes you realize that they are just part of your searching...
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
it is true that nowadays, teenagers so easily get into relationships so lightly. they just sort of play with their feelings. the big problem with this is, it seems that everything is just a game for them. that includes indulging in making love. this is the reason why there are so many teen pregnancies happening. i hope that parents will always keep on looking after their girls and boys, giving them advises at all times. guidance is most important for them since, as you say, they are so adventurous. maybe, if i had not been so adept at talking to my kids day after day relentlessly, i might have had some teenage pregnancies at my hands, too, many years ago.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I like it when it is easier. Why should you have to fight to get someone? Imagine what the rest of your life would be like then? I think if two people easily fall for each other then it was ment to be. Shows you have lots in common, you enjoy each others company. I don't think it makes it easier for that person to fall for someone else. If someone falls for you easily it is harder to get out of because they like you a lot!
@snowcat46 (2323)
• United States
19 Jan 09
When I dated, I didn't play games. I don't know which I was, but the guy didn't get anywhere until we knew each other better! I didn't date just to ummm--you know. I wanted to get to know someone. If they wanted the rest, they had to show me they were a real person. Not the chocolates, and wining and dining. But the "I'm here, you can cry if you need to" friendship. What good is a passionate affair if you can't even tell the person what you like to do on a Saturday night? What good is being taken to a fashionable restaurant, if they can't be bothered to sit beside you while you watch your favorite tear-jerker movie? So, which am I?
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Hello ronnyb! I never really tried that usual dating thing because my husband and I did not start with those relationship who dated for too long before getting married. I mean we are long distance and we've been talking for 2 years online. To make the story short, the moment he came here, we immediately got married. Going back to the discussion, actually, I would still prefer a little "hard to get" thing. I just want to know how really sincere is the guy with and that if he is really serious no matter how long the time frame, he is willing to risk.
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
when a woman does not take in a man who is courting her fast enough, she is not really playing 'hard to get'. she is only being wise to observe first as to whether they will be compatible in many ways or not. it is not good to be getting into a relationship just because the woman likes the guy. most women get into a relationship these days just simply because the guy is good looking. the danger here is, they may not strike it on common grounds as the relationship goes along. what happens is there will be quarrel after another because they just couldn't agree on most things. if the couple involved in a relationship are not compatible enough, they will just end up in a breakup. and, no one desires this to be taking place, a breakup is always causing one so much pain and agitation. so, for the men out there, you should be thankful if a lady studies first your compatibility levels before jumping into a relationship with you. it means that she cares enough for you to be doing this.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
19 Jan 09
while dating back when i was dating being to easy to get a date is not good beening hard to date was always better.a man are woman don,t want a person thats too easy.if they easy with you they will be easy with other. things isbetter and worth waiting on.