I'm a little irked...
January 18, 2009 11:22pm CST
My boyfriend went over to his parents to go get some things that he's had stored there. He called me right when he got there to ask if I wanted to come over for dinner, since it was almost ready and he was going to stay and eat. I already had stuff on the go for dinner here, so I declined. About 2 hours later he texted me and said he was going to start digging out his things now. "Now?", I asked, assuming he'd already done it since he had been there for a few hours. He responded by saying that he had supper, and then was watching TV with his folks for a bit. I asked when he was going to be back, and he said "in a few hours". Well.. 6 hours have now gone by since he called me to ask me if I wanted to come over for dinner. I'm not angry that he's off visiting with his family instead of spending time with me, but I am irked that he's been gone for 6 hours when I told him we had some really important things to talk about tonight. I feel like he's purposely leaving me waiting, hoping I'll be too tired or asleep, or that he can use the excuse he's too tired and has to work tomorrow to avoid having this discussion. I don't want to fight with him, but I feel like this is so disrespectful. He knew I was stressed and needed to get things out in the open. Ugh.. MEN!
20 Jan 09
If he has done that to avoid you speaking with him then I would advise that you keep your cool, wait for him and do not let him win- thus talk to him what you needed to talk to him. Don't let him get away that easy.
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20 Jan 09
I know how you feel...when you are being ignored and neglected it can really irk the ish out of you! i experienced it many times...but i must admit one does have to wonder what he was doing all that time...but...you also have to take into consideration what kind of man you have...is he loyal...is he honest...and that can sort of determine what that was really about...but...i don't know...he did invite you over to have dinner with him and and his family which if there was really something to be concerned about he wouldn't have done that...but with respect to your frustration...he might have been doing that to avoid the convo...but at the same time he really could have been visiting with his family and doing the things he said...not to avoid a convo but because he truly was enjoying himself with his family...again you have to ask yourself what kind of man you have...i would talk to him about it if i were you...don't be intimidating or anything...just let him know how you feel...afterall...they don't know unless we tell them...good luck with that...
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19 Jan 09
I can understand where you're coming from. Your boyfriend should have had more respect for your wishes than that. If it had been a random outing, with no plans otherwise, then I would have sided with him, saying family will always come first and foremost. But if you mentioned to him that you wanted to talk, and he agreed to it, then staying away for six hours is a bit rude on his part. I hope you finally got the chance to talk to him and make things right. ^^
19 Jan 09
hi breepeace, i understand you and your feelings, almost all women suffer things like this. Me, personally has this experience. Honestly it really hurts being neglected and worst rejected. But, come think of it, on a man standpoint, they really tend to be like that, sometimes they don't actually mean it or they are really forgetful sometimes. one reason also is they are not like us women who are very emotional, that's why as much as possible they want our emotions to subside first before they will talk to us.