when do you think is the best time to marry ,and when to have baby?

China
January 19, 2009 1:27am CST
the problem is approaching me and puzzles me a lot.I admit I am not prepared to marry some one, sometimes feeling scared when considering about it. what is waiting for after marriage, sweet family or boring housework, peaceful discussion or endless quarrel, I wonder... Is there anyone can tell me your opinion about marriage or do you regret for early marriage or...? thanks ~
4 responses
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
..for me, the best time to get marry is when you and your partner is already mature enough enough to handle responsibilities and you are ready to settle down and build a family.. age doesn't matter actually.. even if you are young if you think you are ready to settle down, then so be it.. when we say ready, it means your mind and heart is ready for the major adjustment in your life like accepting your partner's weaknesses and loving him or her despite of whatever mistakes they would be committing.. entering into married life isn't easy.. you have to consider many things like, do you enough income to support a family? are you ready to have a child? are you ready to adjust? and are you ready to limit your routines with your friends? most importantly, are you ready to devote yourself to someone for a lifetime?.. readiness has something to do with your mindset and all aspects as a human being.. no relationship is perfect.. there will always be misunderstanding which needs to be handled carefully so as not to result in big fights or even divorce..
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• China
19 Jan 09
really appreciate your response, I learn a lot from it, and realize it's still a long way for me to organzie a family, I am not mature enough actually to build a family with another guy, and if my marriage results in big fights or divorce ,I will feel so sad and regret for my hasty decision for whole life. 3x a lot~
• China
19 Jan 09
yes ,this is a difficult question.i am fimilar with you .the marriage problem is approaching me and puzzles me a lot too.though this problem is approaching me but i am not feel anxious.i think the marriage is destiny as conditioned by our's past.this is a not worry thing.for me ,i am not seriousily for this thing.i am wait my future husband.
• China
19 Jan 09
I hope I can have the same attitude as you , maybe you are quite right "marriage is destiny", I do hope some day I can meet my Mr. right and have a wonderful family with him . Thank you for your response :)
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Hello pingpingpangpang! I think the right time to get married is that when both you and your partner are stable enough and that you are ready to build your own family together. In my case, I got married at the age 21 but I already finish my bachelors degree and my husband has a job already. We planned to have a child five years from now because we want to treasure our time that we are still alone together where we only think about the two of us and that we are already establish financially too.
• India
19 Jan 09
The best time to do marriage is when ever you get the secure job and constant income to run a family .You must have some maturity and responsibility to run a family . And baby is the interesting part of our life .Every person will automatically get responsibility once he have baby .Then,what is waiting for after marriage ,sweet family or boring house work.It totally depends upon the relationship between you and your spouse .So don't postponed your marriage if your able to run a family .Advance congratulation to your marriage life.