When you were a child, was the person of your dreams the same you married?

@Pleiades (847)
United States
January 19, 2009 11:12pm CST
Heh..."Practical Magic"...the main character did a spell when she was young to create the "perfect man". As most stories went she found that man of her dreams...right down to the cactus pancakes. Me...when I was little, I did somewhat the samething. I wanted a man who was tall, dark hair and eyes, great smile, looks good, nice dresser, loves his mother, money and Jewish. Well, I got that man, but he turned out to so not be the man I deserved. The man I'm with now is average height...5'10", redhead, blue eyes, Army military and the rest, I really don't know. So, you can see that what I dreamt of as a girl and what I have now are two different things. What about you? Is your childhood Prince Charming more like something else? *Pleiades
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@goldeneagle (6776)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Actually I married a lady that lived in another state. I didn't meet her until I was about 22, so I guess I would have to answer no to your question.
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• Malaysia
20 Jan 09
my answer is no. she's in the middle age now. because she was my kindergarten teacher. :))
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• United States
21 Jan 09
you married your kindergarten teacher?
• Malaysia
22 Jan 09
haha! sorry for my bad english and i'm trying to improve that. what i meant was i didn't marry the person of my dreams. my dream person was my kindergarten teacher. i can't marry her. :)
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I don't think any woman can honestly say that she married her prince charming and he stayed her prince charming. When I married my husband he was everything I had ever dreamed of and more, but eventually that prince does fall off the horse. He's military and after his first tour in Iraq, he had a lot of emotional problems and problems with dealing with family. He definitely fell off that horse, or tank LOL, and we had to sort through a lot of problems. Fortunate for me, the Lord knew what He was doing and my husband got back up on that horse and has stayed on it for quite some time now. This is is third deployment and each one gets harder, but we grow stronger in the Lord and in each other and love each other more through each one. He is my prince charming, whether on or off. They always fall off, but you have to give them a chance to get back up. Same for us women, we aren't always the princess that he wants to save, but we have to try the best we can to make him happy. God bless
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Hello again, Sgt's wife. Thanks so much for you response. I cringe at the idea of why a military man comes home different than when they left, but it's whom is at home waiting to help him heal is what's important. Three deployments? Wow...I'm dealing with my boyfriend's first deployment. I can't say how he's changed since we got together when he first arrived in Iraq. *Pleiades
• United States
21 Jan 09
Thanks for BR. I think it really depends on the type of job they have to do over there. If it involves a lot of drama and dealing with having to actually go and find people and always stressed out from being shot at, they are more likely to come home a little bit on the tense side, some worse than others. Just be careful and be supportive when he does come home.
@faraza (159)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 09
When I was a child, i want tommy page as my husband because I thought he was cute and romantic. But now, mu husband is nothing like tommy page. Handsome, maybe. but not romantic at all..So no, the person I am married to is not the same like what I use to dream of when I was a child!
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
21 Jan 09
HAHAHA! That's too cute...as is your response. How old is your baby? *Pleiades
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
When I was still young I am so idealistic. Even to the man I am supposed to get married. But as we grow older everything changes. Even in our wants and dreams in life. I amy say, my husband is not the same person I always wanted to get married. But he is the perfect man for me.
@Pleiades (847)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Aawww...that's so wonderful you think that way. You're right, ideals change. For me, it was not so much how the person is on the outside that counts, it's the inside. Talk about judging a book my it's cover. *Pleiades
@madhu_yl (116)
• India
20 Jan 09
Hi pleiades, In my opinion its not possible to get our dreams.dreams are come and go,nobody can not deserved their dreams in real life,its only fulfill in cinemas and stories.
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• United States
20 Jan 09
I love that movie, Practical Magic. :) The person I am with now is not someone I would have thought I'd end up with. However, I am with the person that is best for me. I really love this person. This person loves me. They're good with my kids. I am the happiest I've been in a long time.
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• Singapore
20 Jan 09
Well im current in a relationship and honestly speaking i had never dreamt or imagined how my better half would look like cos i believe this will cause me to become "blinded" by my own expectations. I would rather leave everything to fate and when I meet the one I love, She will be who I dream of. Its kinda like accepting your better half for who they are instead of trying to change them or imagine them as who you want them to be. My 1 cent worth of thought :)
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 09
the prince charming I dreamed of when I was a young girl never turned out right. It not only turned out wrong but also the very opposite of my dream man. Every woman has to undergo a long winding road, experience many heartaches before meeting their prince charming and not to mention having kissed many toads along the way.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
Well I married somebody that is different from what I envisioned a long time ago. I guess by age it differs as my taste would normally change at each age level I am in. But I guess I am happy where I ended and I think all of those ideal woman I have in mid is somehow refined to something I deserved to have.
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Hello Pleiades! I do married the man whom I always dreamed of since I was young. All my life, I want to marry a man who is tall, white skinned and handsome. It all came true. My husband is tall (6ft), he has white skin (he is american and I am filipino), and very handsome with brown eyes and long nose, with a cute lips..hehe..I am blessed because he turn out to be a very good husband to me and very responsible.
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