Have you ever thought about adopting?

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@rodveiga (335)
Portugal
January 20, 2009 8:08am CST
Last night I was talking with a friend. She has 42yo and one child of 12yo. She is thinking about trying to adopt a child, now that her daughter is grown up. Here, in Portugal, is a very difficult task, since one can have to wait 6 years for a child. If my financial situation was better, I guess I don't mind to try to. I'd love to have another child at home, boy or girl, it doesn't matter, really. But, we have to be quite wealthy to have a chance with our adoption system, here. Have you ever thought about adopting a child? To give your unconditional love to someone that is not your real flesh and blood? At your country, is easy or difficult to adopt?
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Adopting a child/children is something I have always wanted to do. However being a mother of 3 and then marrying a man with 4 kids of his own, was more than enough. Although the thought of it has never left my mind.
@rodveiga (335)
• Portugal
21 Jan 09
God, so many kids!!! and are they all with you? I'd love to have so many children... everyone is different from the others, and are so many wonderful little things... Thanks for replying. A good myLot day for you.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
21 Jan 09
No, only one is left at home, and that is my 15 year old son. I was keeping my granddaughter on a regular basis for a while, until we moved. All the kids are unique in their own special way!
@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
20 Jan 09
I am going for adopting! I am pregnant right now with my first baby, my dream is to have at least 3 kids. But you never know how your destiny is set for you, so I am opened for adoption. In my country (Latvia) adopting a kid isn't an easy process but not too difficult so you wouldn't be able to finish the process in couple of years. I think adopting a kid is something amazing! It gives both sides a very beautiful thing - love! But you have to accept bureaucracy because there are many bad people trying to seduce kids. Good luck with adoption, rodveiga!
@rodveiga (335)
• Portugal
21 Jan 09
I don't really care about bureaucracy, lindery. But I'm sad that, with my income, no one in Portugal will give me a child to adopt. It's sad, because I know that if I got pregnant and have another child, no one would care if I have money to raise him/her, anyway. The other issue is waiting for 6 years to have a child. You know how your life is now, but you don't know how it will be in the future... Congratulations for your pregnancy. God bless you.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I don't know where i live if its easy or difficult because i have never tried. I want to adopt. I have my own child who is two. We want to have at least three. But for some reason why stop with your own. I can see my self having my own kids and adopting. I have spoke of my feelings to my fiance. He is not against it but has not said rather he wants to as well. Its something that will reveal later in time. I do know one thing i rather adopt a child around the age five who needs a family more than anything.
@rodveiga (335)
• Portugal
21 Jan 09
You are right. Babies need love but they're the most required for families that adopt. From the age of 5 till teen ages, is more difficult to find new parents. And they are the ones who need it most. They already know what is not to have a mother's lap, or a strong arm from a father to leap them up... Thanks for replying. God bless you.
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I have actually been thinking about adoption a lot here lately. I'm have three children, two boys and a girl, but I would really love to have another little girl for my daughter to grow up with. There is a big age difference between my boys and my daughter. I can't have any more children, due to having to have a hystrectomy due to cancer, so that option of having another child is out. I think that it is easy to love any child. It wouldn't matter to me whether the child was the same race or culture. That baby is a child and deserves to be loved unconditionally. Of course, money would be an issue. it is expensive to adopt, not as expensive if I adopted from my country, but still expensive. I would love to be able to adopt one day though and Lord willing I will eventually be able to. God bless
@rodveiga (335)
• Portugal
21 Jan 09
I don't think that race or color matters, when the subject is a person, a child. As you do, I have two boys, but no girl (not any more, anyway) and love to give love to another child, maybe a girl. God bless you and the ones you love. Thanks for replying.
• Canada
20 Jan 09
i've thought about it for years. it's something i've always wanted to do. i lived in a foster home before so i know what some of these kids are going through. when i have a house with an extra bedroom and i have more money i will definatley look into it. i just need to get my life in order first and get a permanent full time job. i also want to adopt an older child. maybe even a teen cause they get less chances for adoption.
@rodveiga (335)
• Portugal
21 Jan 09
You're right. Most people look for babies to adopt, not grown children or even teens. But those are who needs most caring and loving. I hope you can achieve that goal... Have an wonderful day.
@luvandpower (2049)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I have never adopted, and only know one family who has. I don't think here in the U.S.A. it is anywhere as difficult as that, there are basically a lot of paperwork I guess, but besides that it isn't hard. If I was in a good financial settlement, I would love to show a child a life that I myself never had.
@rodveiga (335)
• Portugal
21 Jan 09
You have a great heart, my friend. A lot of paperwork is not much to have a lifetime of loving a child, it's true. I hope here in POrtugal things get easier. There are so many lonely children, needing a family... Thanks for replying, have a wonderful day.
• United States
27 Jan 09
We have wanted to adopt a newborn girl for over 12 years but we just do not have the money to do so. We are hoping this year we will be able to get ourselves financially stable (out of debt) & can start the adoption process. We have 2 sons & want a girl & adoption is our only way. Hubby will be 49 in a couple weeks & I'm 38 & he feels he's getting too old to have another baby (he's been saying that for 12 yrs lol) but he's all for having a girl anyway.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Yes, I do. Due to my disability, it would hard for me to carry a child in my belly without injuring my back. I actually want to adopt a kid with a disability because I will know how to get them services they need to become independent people. That's my dream.
@chris20 (109)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
Here in the Philippines, it's quite costly to arrange papers for adoption. I'm not sure if the adopting parent needs to attend some proceedings in the court. Aside from that, it must be proven that the child is considered as an abandoned child before the adoption finally be awarded to the adopting parent. In short, at a given span of time, prescribed by law, no one must claim that he or she is the parent of the child. For example, a notice to the public will be published in newspapers. Stated there is the willingness of a person or a family to adopt a child (not sure about the exact content of that). If no one claims the child, every papers will be settled to finally legalize the adoption. Of course, the most important part in adoption is the financial capability of the adopting parents. It is the 1st requirement for adoption. Adopting parent need not to be really that well off, as long as they can provide the basic needs of the child, that would be enough. These needs are food, clothing, shelter and education.
@cocozhi (80)
• China
21 Jan 09
You are a good person,very kind.
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
21 Jan 09
In Indian typical families adoption is not appreciated at all if a couple has the potential to bear the child medically.It happens only in those cases where parents are medically unfit to bear the child.I have never thought about adoption seriously because i know the consequences of adopting a child.Its very difficult to adopt a child legally.Then whole lot of criticism is expected from the family members and the false notion that only own blood is own.
• India
21 Jan 09
hai friend i think this is good culture to all the persons to adopt a girl if she belong to any country we accept all the girls. we dont carry about our bank balance its our true mind to help the girls in whatever position this is my view thankyou
• India
21 Jan 09
I never think of adopting because for adopting one must have a very big heart i don't that i can adopt a child and give him a new life to do that on must have a good financial situation and they should have big heart.
@baileycows (3669)
• United States
21 Jan 09
No not really I have a daughter and a step son. I mean it has crossed my mind, but only because I hate to see kids out there without a home. But I can't afford to take everyone of them.
@taface412 (3176)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I have and may one day, but the sad thing is that it will be much easier to adopt from abroad then it would be to adopt here. It will cost more I know, but they are not as strict. I think it is ridiculous that even though someone is not married and may not have a nice sized investments and money cannot provide love and care for children who are being thrown around in foster care, etc. I think if someone (single or not) has a decent job and obviously has a solid honest record should be able to adopt these children so they could have a loving home while they are still children and can be able to appreciate that when they grow up instead of feeling lost and unwanted. I think if you chose to adopt than that child has now become your flesh and blood.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
I am thinking about it for so long already. But for now, i could not do it yet because I am not yet financially stable. If ever I will adopt, I wanna make sure I can provide everything to the child. I want the best of everything for him or her.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
Hi There. To be honest, yes. I am still single but committed in a relationship. i have a boyfriend. We thought of our future like getting married and having kids, however I am concern about my ability to bear a child because of my hormonal problems though the doctor told me that I will h ave a child, it is just that it will not that be easy because of irregular periods. Anyways, I love kids... so I thought of getting or having an adopted son or daughter someday in case we will not be blessed to have our own kids... (but I hope we will someday). Just incase it happens, I will adopt... there are lots of kids and babies who long for family. In our country, if you go to a legal adoption, it is really hard to adopt because they need to make surethat the kid will be properly taken care of in terms of emotionally, spiritually and ofcourse financially. But there are lots of mothers who would sell their child because they don't have money to support them... i hear that in the news few days ago... but I would still go to legal adoption. It is a good heart to adopt a child... hope you will be able to share your blessings and love to your adopted child once you can. Take care. Goodluck. Thank you for the discussion and Happy Mylotting! Have a great day! Cheers!
• Canada
20 Jan 09
I plan to adopt since I can not have a baby of my own physically. and I very much wish to be a mother.