I cannot believe he did this

@ersmommy1 (12605)
United States
January 20, 2009 12:58pm CST
My kids pediatrician told us one of the things he did to make his daughter stay awake as an infant. So his daughter wouldn't get her nights and days mixed up he kept her awake longer. If she fell asleep during feeding one of the things he did as a last resort, he put a frozen dinner on her back! Wow that would wake me up. I think I'll skip that one. What did you do?
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@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I would occassionally put a cold rag on my son's feet to wake him up. He didn't cry or anything. There were times when I felt bad, but I had to keep him awake as much as possible during the day until he had his days and nights straight. SOunds cruel, doesn't it?
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5 Mar 10
You didn't HAVE TO,you choose to.
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I wouldn't do the frozen dinner thing, mostly because I don't keep them in the house. I just let them sleep. I never had a problem with either of my kids getting their days and nights mixed up.
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5 Mar 10
Not got kids yet but I'd let them sleep & my sister lets her youngest sleep during the day. I don't get why these people wake them.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Wow. I would never think about doing that to a child. I never did get my daughter to stay awake. She slept when she wanted to and stayed awake when she wanted to. I never could get her days and nights straight.
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
It is unbelievable! How can such a medical professional do it to his own baby? I think it is ot right. We can make baby awake all day but not on that way. There are still a lot of good ways. Not just putting cold thing on their back. That is torture!
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
20 Jan 09
Hmmmm, that is a new one to me. I know that I would not have done that at all. When my kids would try to fall asleep I would simply sit them up or stand them up and talk or play with them. I can not imagine putting a frozen dinner on their back as I would not like this I would not do it to them.
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• United States
20 Jan 09
Oh, I think I would give parents a great deal of leniency when it comes to keeping the kid away and resetting their sleep/wake cycle to coincide with that of normal life. I don't want any poor kid being tortured, but you do really have to be kind of insistent and persistent or the kid will just doze off again instantly.
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@yunzhige (311)
• China
20 Jan 09
hi,ersmommy1!!~ It's a difficult thing to make the kid awake at day time.When,it's difficult to keep the baby awake,my sister's method is let her baby sleep for five or ten minutes and then wake the baby up.I don't know whether this is right or not, but it is useful to my little niece. Happy mylotting!~
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• United States
20 Jan 09
I will admit that is a bit extreme, though I doubt it caused the child harm. I used to just rock them gently, or softly tough their arm or face. That usually worked.
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@rusty2rusty (6747)
• Defiance, Ohio
20 Jan 09
I have never done that. I think that putting something cold on someone is a little harsh. I do hwoever think gently shaking a child should be enough to wake them.
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• United States
20 Jan 09
Oh, it should be enough to wake them. However, as a matter of cold hard fact, it is not. I mean, really, if it were enough to wake a kid why would the pediatrician have tried the cold against the back trick? That wouldn't make any sense at all. A pediatrician is, after all, a doctor trained in how to take care of children and .. even if he is confused.. he would be able to talk to hundreds of parents on how they took care of their children. In short order, I would expect any half-way decent pediatrician to have picked up a real-world knowledge of parenting in addition to any book learning he has done at med school.
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• Defiance, Ohio
20 Jan 09
DaddyOfTheRose I can say as a mother of three kids. I know pediatrician are trained doctors But I have also met my share of pediatricians that are nothing but quacks. They are as useless as the paper that says they are trained doctor. I never placed anything cold on any of my children to keep them awake...I mean never. So, I know there are better ways to do this. A highly trained doctor should know this. But than a doctor is trained to treat or cure children. Not to keep them awake. They are not a trained nanny, caregiver or baby sitter. Nor or they certified to give and kind of advice that way. The doctor was wrong for suggested to place something cold on a childs back to keep them awake. Many of them have never had children of their own.
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@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
20 Jan 09
That is weird. I wouldn't do that. I usually to keep my son up would gradually change positions. If he was in my left arm and was starting to fall asleep i would move him to my right arm. It helped to get his days and nights back on schedule.
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• United States
20 Jan 09
I remember a girlfriend of mine had her 3rd child a week after I had my first. Well my first was a daytime sleeper and would stay up all night, it lasted a good 3 or 4 months. Anyways, she once told me I had to flip him to get him to sleep at night, and she literally meant to pick him up by his feet and flip him over, that would get him to sleep at night. Needless to say I never tried it!
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• United States
20 Jan 09
Not every child will sleep so lightly and respond so well to a simple repositioning. My son would sleep so soundly that I had very real cause to worry about SIDS. One trick I was told to wake a child involved momentarily closing off his nose so he'd wake up. Well, this had no effect on my son at all. He could have his airway closed off for 10 seconds or so and only squirm around instead of waking up. A deep sleeper. I tend more towards the pick the kid up and dance around with him method. Essentially, I play with the kid and this keeps him interested, alert, and aware. It only works, however, for so long before the sandman comes calling and there is squat you can do nicely to keep him up.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
That is nuts! i would never do that to my baby! what a shock to her little body that must have been. . I like it when my baby sleeps no matter waht time it is, if she's sleeping then obviously she needs the rest. . i dont wake her up on purpose. That's just me though.
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5 Mar 10
Same I they fall asleep then there tired just leave them to it.
@pandaeyes (2068)
23 Feb 10
That sounds quite a strange thing to do to a baby. We had two little ones at the same time,one 14 months older than the other and I would just sleep in the day if they both slept because at night it was a bit of a relay from one child to the other. Luckily the smaller child did eventually sleep through the night which meant the other was not woken and also slept through.
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Lol! i never heard of that before. Frozen dinner. You wouldnt think that a doctor would be eating junk like that anyway. I know whenever somebody put someting cold or frozen against my skin i get a little pis-ed off. I wonder how that baby felt.
@jzybabes (287)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
What I know about raising kids is not to bother them when they're asleep or resting.Infants as young as them need a lot of sleep for their growth and development. What I did for my 2 kids is just tolerance. When they feel sleepy, then I let them rest, when they feel like playing so I let them play. In fact, for me it's quite enjoyable to witness how my little angels messin up my place...hehe. It's no big deal if their days and night mixed up, anyway these little angels will soon grow and learn things accordingly. As of this time, I will just enjoy every moment with them.
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• United States
21 Jan 09
Hmmm... if your kids (babies??) are falling asleep, maybe they need to sleep! Young babies need LOTS of sleep. All babies need lots of sleep. I have never tried to keep my child from sleeping (I have 3 boys). To me it sounds crazy. And when they do sleep, I get a little peace. What I do is keep them on a normal routine with the rest of the family. They eat when (or just before or after) we eat. They get a bath and story before bedtime. And when they do wake at night the lights stay off. I nursed my little ones and put them back in their crib (if I was already awake) or we fell asleep in my bed. Again, little to no talking and no lights. By 6 months, they are mostly sleeping through the night. During the day, my babies napped when they needed to (in the living areas where everyone is going about their day, if the sleep they sleep, if they woke, the woke.) I have found that listening to "experts" about common sense, routine things, will get you in trouble. Many "experts" have no practical experience (i.e. no kids) or their families are totally dysfunctional (i.e. in need of some SERIOUS therapy). If my babies don't have a rash or fever, I stay away from the doctors!!
@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Are you serious a frozen Dinner? Lord that is not something I would even think of doing. Usually I would just let them sleep when needed because If needed I would be able to nap also with my little sister,nieces and nephews. But If I was told to keep them awake by their parents then I would play peek a boo and talk to them and play other games and play with them with their toys..a frozen dinner I would never of thought of doing and wouldn't do.
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@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
21 Jan 09
But, I think this is cruel to an infant. I never do this to any of my two kids, no matter haw many time they wake me up.
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@ravend (661)
• Malta
21 Jan 09
This might come out across as ugly - but once one of the founding fathers of pscyhology (forgot who, I remember this being briefly mentioned in a lecture) had suggested that children should be left to sleep on a bed of hard wood to make them develop character. After the whole class looked shocked, the prof proceeded in explaining that children back than where REALLY grown up and brought up to be tough. Some people I guess, are still part of this school of thought. Though ming you, applying frozen dinner on her back might bring the child to be chronically afraid of stuff because she is afraid of something as horrid as a frozen dinner. Or she could toughen up to it and get stronger. :)
• India
21 Jan 09
Well I haven’t done anything so weird with my baby though he did give me long stretches of sleepless nights. I would just go on rocking him on my lap, even hubby would take over, but for the first six months I think, our baby never slept at night and wouldn’t wake up much during the day. However, there was this relative of ours who was so irritable with her baby daughter and her waking habits that she would often mix drops of brandy with her milk! Just imagine…we would all say that she was getting the baby drunk which might have health repercussions later but she would just shrug it off. But to be sure, there was no adverse effect that we heard of.
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@sacmom (14338)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Ouch! I couldn't imagine doing that to anyone, especially an infant. That seems like a drastic thing to do, not to mention cruel. If my kids pediatrician told me this, I'd be looking for another doctor, but that's just me. My husband and I got a different doctor after the one we had started talking about her personal life. It made us feel odd and uncomfortable, so we switched doctors.
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