do you value yourself?

@savypat (20246)
United States
January 20, 2009 4:05pm CST
How do you feel about you? If you believe that you are a child of God or a part of God do you see that when you look in the mirror each day? Now at the start of this new year is the time to do this. So many outside forces will control your life if you let it, but as long as you remember who you are and the value of that person, you will remain in control. What do you have as goals for the coming year, do you see only bad luck or do you view it as opportunity. You choose.
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@ulalume (714)
• United States
21 Jan 09
My personal belief is that no life has any value. I think it is vain for people to "value" their own life, as life in itself is insignificant. We are but a "gleam in the sand" to quote a band I enjoy, Kamelot. It is kind of difficult for me to build up any real sense of "worth" considering this belief. I do, however, feel that a life can acquire value through it's "assets." No, not material assets as they are even more worthless that living beings. But, by creating bonds between each other (relationships) as well as with nature and other creatures that inhabit the universe. The best way to explain this thought is to take something out of the attic that you hold dear, and no one else does. You have inadvertantly given value to something that, honestly, has no value. Some months ago (maybe even a year, I think) I told my girlfriend that it is difficult for me to say "I love you" all of the time because those words now a days just lack so much meaning. While I do still say it (because I mean it), I did inform her that describing "love" with other words is something I preference doing as it turns away from the bland. At the moment when we discussed this, I let her know about my feelings of "value" and how I "valued her" and that by her "valuing me" my life was given some meaning (...or value). It may sound somewhat complex, but this is what I believe (in a box).
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I think I understand that you are saying because love has entered your life you now value yourself? Can you agree that humans are self aware? Does this give you more than other life forms? You are the first person I've encountered that felt no more value than a grain of sand, I find this very interesting and that is why I am asking questions. I don't think you mean that you feel badly about yourself, it's just that you fell humans have no value. Is that correct? PM me if you want and we'll continue this.
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@ulalume (714)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Really? The first person you've ever encountered? That is pretty crazy. I am not really saying that I value myself, but that my life has inadvertantly increased in value due to love (this is pretty much it in a box). A good way of picturing the value of any being or any aspect of this world is to look at collectable items. For example, back in the days of old (haha) baseball cards were frequently collected by kids (and adults). At the time, they had no value (they were essentially pieces of paper sold to baseball lovers). As time progressed and baseball cards were not printed as much, certain cards substantially increased in value. I think the bottom line for me is that there are some variables in life that allow for beings to acquire value, but it is not something we are birthed with and it is definitly nothing of monetary value. It would take a long time for me to really be able to fully explain myself, but this is the general concept. I can agree that humans are self aware (though to what extent is questionable). This does not give me any more value than any other life form. I do not like when people see humanity as a superior form of life. When one really examines humanity, we all act like animals. Animals with science, and animals with religion. You see, wild animals do not need a reason to kill. Humans have created reasons, and have inadvertantly complicated the killing grounds. But, the bottom line at the end of the day is that, both human beings and wild animals are killing. I am just using killing as an extreme example of animalistic behavior, but it is the best way for me to explain myself. To answer your last question, no this does not make me feel bad about myself. This is not the same as despising myself or depression (which some people may confuse as "not valuing myself"). This is just my (and many, many other people's belief. This train of thought usually falls under people of more "folk" belief systems such as paganism, satanism, atheism, and shamanism to name a few). I just happen to extend the "life's value is a point below zero" (to quote the band Dimmu Borgir) concept to embrace the simple fact that I have created in my mind that some things are capable of creating value (at least in this world). This does not necessarily mean that value lasts forever, or that I am sure of any sort of eternity; but for the moment, things like love give me a reason for existence.
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
21 Jan 09
i do value myself. i know i make a difference in this world each day. i am here for my family and friends whenever they need me and most importantly for my son. i try to teach him things each day about life to make his life easier along the way and part of that is teaching him independence. i value myself because i do not just take up space. i feel good that i am productive and accomplish important things each day.
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@ellie333 (21029)
21 Jan 09
Hi Savypat, Yes when I look in the mirror I see God's created beauty. I believe in Him and in myself also. I am human so sometimes I value myself less than I should but in general I like and love who I am as a person which I believe to be important. We all have a choice to feel happy or sad, positive or negative so I am optimistic for myself this year. I have made a few changes and have set some small goals which at present I am managing to achieve, one being to get fitter and I now have a fitness age of someone 17 years younger so doing pretty well so far. Huggles. Ellie :D
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• India
21 Jan 09
I feel much better about myself than I used to some years back. I strongly feel that what we feel about ourselves depends a lot on what our parents felt about us. If they felt we were special and treated us accordingly, we grow up with that 'special' feeling. Otherwise, we go along with life feeling we lack somewhere and that we are no good. Of course, we can come out of it, but it takes quite a bit of effort. Cheers and happy Mylotting
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• Canada
21 Jan 09
i used to see myself as a horrible creature. because to me i felt ugly but now i do not let other people's opinion of me dictate how i feel about myself. I have a loving husband who thinks i'm beautiful and to me that is the best feeling and knowing that I'am god's child and he made me just the way I'am and God doesn't make junk
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• United States
21 Jan 09
This is somethingI'm learning - better late than never. Life really stunk until I learned about this concept, and it means so very much!
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I always see the glass as half full and yes, I value myself and am definitely a child of God. I have work to do while I'm here and that has lead me to many different places throughout my life. I also strongly believe that, as one door closes, another opens. I was laid off in November...my husband and I are almost ready to open our own store which we have high hopes for as there is a real need in this area for what we will provide. This wouldn't have been possible had I not lost my job because my husband wouldn't have done this by himself.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
Be a believer and you will be an achiever. I am pessimistic that this year will change for the better in world economic which has indirectly affected all of us last year and hopefully it will not spillover this year. We have to think big since the world will identify you the same price tag that you set on yourself. If you think you are worth a hundred dollars, the world will give you only that much. So just think big,think big about everything. Rise above little things. Be a big thinker. You are what you think. So just think big, believe big and dream big. Carry that list and you will start feeling big.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Good thoughts, thanks
@riyasam (16578)
• India
23 Jan 09
there are times when i get depressed but i soon bounce back to normal.i see others suffering,compared to that mine is nothing.i try to maintain a positive attitude towards life.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
23 Jan 09
This is a good attitude, depression is such a waste of time and unless it's cause beyond your control you need tools to get rid of it, yours is a good one. Thanks
@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I feel very much good about myself and everything else to be into in my life right now. One of my goals this year is to send my kid to school and start being a supportive parent while she is studying! It would be a big challenge for me since I sometimes work during the night shift. I never think of bad luck, I just see it as an opportunity for us to learn new things that may help us further in the future.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
23 Jan 09
your response is a delight, thank you.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I am not a religious person, but I am definitely a spiritual person and feel that I am a child of a loving greater being/thing and feel that my purpose in life is very meaningful. I think this year will be great for me and I am really excited of what it may lead me too. This was an important lesson I learned last year and I appreciate it very much.