Online Friends

Australia
January 20, 2009 7:13pm CST
So what is your opinion on online friends? In the friend section of mylot, I see a lot of discussions about people excited about meeting people online. Personally, I think that when you turn to the internet for friends then you're a sad loner. On the internet you can be anyone you want to be, so when you're talking to someone you don't know if they're acting how they normally act either. You can't trust anyone on the internet no matter how nice they seem. They could be pedophiles, or they could actually be nice people... But if you trust them too much those nice people might not be able to resist stealing your password or something. And unless you want people to steal your identity, using completely real details on the internet is also silly. I'm really only here on mylot for the money, not the community, but many people here seem to be collecting online friends and they're excited about it.... Really, go out and make real friends, meet real people. I'm only a student so that's obviously easier for me to say since I make friends at school, but you can easily go out to an arcade or a pub and approach people and try to start a conversation. Be social rather than being happy because you met someone on the internet who seems nice.. Anywho, what is your opinion on online friends?
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@artaucan (97)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I think you´re exagerating this issue a bit, online friends, like regular friends can be either honest or deceiving, and the fact that some people turn to the internet to get additional friends doesn´t make them loners, you can find nice and intersting people here or in other chat rooms, now, as far as your concern about them trying to steal your identity, I mean, that´s really up to you, personal information is very strictly mentioned here on myLot and it´s common sense how you use it, and if you decide to give it to someone, there will be no one to blame but you, whether is an online friend or regular friend.
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@Reesers (1387)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Well said! You hit the other points I thought of when making my own response but I couldn't remember all of them as I was typing it out.
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
21 Jan 09
I like making friends be it on line or real but the only problem is that I can't carry on a relationship. I tend to be very nice with then when they are nice. Once they say anything against me or things which I don't like, I tend to loose temper, we fight and break our friendship. I have had as many as 100 friends and I lost all of them.
• Australia
21 Jan 09
then they wernt realy good friends to begin with
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• Australia
21 Jan 09
What causes them to say things against you, though? People don't just start being nice and then all of a sudden tell you that you this and that... I've only ever been in one internet fight which was when I was promoted to an admin of a forum and one of the members got jealous and flamed me, I didn't even retaliate though.. He left the forum and never returned anywho. Still, I'm not a nanny who will get involved with your fights unless you request help. They're obviously just not good friends..
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
26 Jan 09
May be I am over possessive on my friends and want to know everything about them May be I want to say anything about them. Many reasons could be there. I just don't know
@chemcdow (149)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I see nothing wrong with meeting people from the internet in real life. One of my boyfriends good friends was actually originally an internet friend! I generally meet people in real life who become internet friends (because I meet people at conventions). Being able to meet people online is a way to meet people from all over the world, and is very nice!
• Australia
21 Jan 09
Well what would you do when you have an online friend who you think is a girl about your age and you've been online friends with her for months, then you decide to meet her in real life and you end up meeting some 46 year old man who tries to kidnap you and make you do things that you don't want to do... If you get away from the situation, would you ever try meeting someone online again?
@chemcdow (149)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Whenever I meet someone from the internet for the first time, its always in a public decently crowded place, and both me and the other party have friends with them. If I were by myself, this would be very possible, but if there are tons of witnesses, the other party would be stupid to try something like that.
• Singapore
22 Jan 09
hmmmmmm i prefer refering them as an online acquaintance as I believe that a friend is really someone whom you really know, not some guy/gal on the net which you had never met before. My 1 cent worth of thought
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
22 Jan 09
there is nothing wrong with meeting friends on the internet my daughter met her husband online and they are happyly married and have one child been married 7 years.all people on the internet is not bad people.it depends on who you met.
@ulalume (714)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I dont believe in "online" friendships. I have enough trouble trusting people in the "real world", much less people online. On here the "friends" section should be renamed "people who have discussions I am interested in commenting within" (or something like that, at least for me). Friendships for me need some physical substance. The internet can only do so much.
@Reesers (1387)
• United States
21 Jan 09
That would make me a sad loner then, as well as my friends. Guess where I met some of my closest friends? And you know what? They're real people. It may not be the way to meet new people according to you but I wouldn't trade those friends for anything. They've been there for me for the highs and most importantly the lows over the years, wether it's in person, on the phone, or just through emails. They have been there for me and vice versa. I never set out to make friends when I first started using the internet. It just happened. We found a common thread and it grew from there. Some of them I have met and others I haven't yet but would like to. There are people I've met from other countries that I never would have if it wasn't for the internet. It's true. There are people out there you can't trust. If I get that feeling, I won't have anything to do with them at all. And like most smart people, I NEVER give out information so that someone can steal my identity. Also, as someone already stated, if you do meet someone in person, you do it in a public place and take someone with you. It's common sense but unfortunately not everyone was not born with it. What would you say to those who are just painfully shy or the people who suffer from agoraphobia and the internet is their only interaction with people?
@KrauseHome (35277)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Personally I have a lot of real friends that I can talk to on the Phone, etc. and then I also have my Online friends who I know I can count on, and then those I have as Friends on here that are just being supportive of me in my discussions who I might not even know their first name even. Just because someone is your friend online does not mean you would like them in person. But I have met some of my Online friends and a lot of them are just as cool in person as online. It is up to each person where they draw their line with someone, but if you deem everyone Bad online you never give anyone a chance either.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
21 Jan 09
[i]Hi Splatter, I have online friends here in mylot but beyond post, I don't talk to them over the phone or via email, so, I would say there are limitations still because I am here to earn and learn also from other people! But, I know there are a lot of people who meet their online friends also in personal,that is what i want to do but when I don't know them personally, I will not also trust a lot and I know that is also their feelings towards their online frie[/i]nds!
• Romania
21 Jan 09
Well in my opinion is something....strange! `Cause you dont woth who you talk to..anly if he/she has webcam :D and microphone! But it1s ok..you have 2 groups of friend, in the real life, and virtualy! :)
@pmspratik (202)
• Nepal
21 Jan 09
Well, technology has made it easy for us to meet people online. But the people who we meet online arent really the type of people which they seem. Like an old 56 year old guy can be pretending to be a 13 year old girl on the internet. So meeting online friends isn't really the thing you want to do. If you really want to meet the people who who you meet online then you much be sure that he or she is real. Fiest call him or her, share photos or webcam be sure to talk test if the webcam isn't fake.
• Belgium
21 Jan 09
you take the words out of my mouth, its totally the same with me. Altough sometimes you can learn from this stuff. but after all, you still need real friends
@jsgomes (78)
• India
21 Jan 09
Well I think Internet/Online friendz are for fun & fun ONLY. Most of the time it's not for real life. (Of course there are exceptions). Of course there are friendz who help you with different information(s) and/or solutions which may help you a lot in personal/professional world. However personally serious matters in life should not be decided online.
@YamiKiba (938)
• United States
21 Jan 09
My opinion of online friends are generally good since I've been lucky enough to talk to people that are around my own age or younger. If they are older though, they are female. Pedophiles generally tend to be males, statistics wise. I have met my best friends through the web, and they luckily happen to live in the same state as I am, and city, though they still live quite far. I have met one of them at an anime convention, and hoping to meet my other online friend in the upcoming anime convention in July. They are younger than me by one or two years, but one of them looks to be around my age lol. I've been in contact via online with them for over 5 years now, and I tell them everything without stretching the truth.
@Pleiades (847)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Splatter...then I'm one of the "sad loners" you mentioned. I don't have any friends in real life because I've learned that the people that I tend to hang around with were so invovled with themselves and just wanted to be left alone. That's fine. But, I've found people like that on the internet as well. Yes, you can be anyone you want to be. There's a song out there regaurding MySpace and a man who isn't what he says he is...but the song is hilarious. I'm as honest as can be. For one, I don't give out all my information because you're right, you'll never know whom you're talking to. But, one of my online friends is coming to visit me in a few weeks. How can I be sure he is who he says he is? Easy, I have his family and friends on my list as well and they have vouched for him. I think that's the way to go. If the person you've "met" is secret hush hush about their family and personal life, then they are hiding something. Why do I like online friends? Because, you can leave them a message and they can get back to you at their disposale. You're not calling them and waking up the sleeping little ones. Plus, (my favourite part) I can meet people from my homestate all the way to Sweden and Iraq, all from my fingertips. Isn't that great? *Pleiades