love your ENEMIES

@Theresaaiza (10484)
Australia
January 20, 2009 9:53pm CST
how would you feel if, after a heated argument over a certain topic in mylot, that person adds you as his friend later on....as if nothing just happened?
6 responses
• United States
21 Jan 09
I've had that happen before.. We tend to forget that even the most heated arguments here, are just ONE disagreement with what we think or believe.. you are more than just that one belief or conversation... they just finally realized it! Congrats on your new friend!
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@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
22 Jan 09
you don't seem scared to argue, right? I've visited some discussions you've responded. Sorry i just kind of meddled. :-D
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
I do that all the time though i never had any major exchange of heated words against a fellow myLotter. I just don't take things here on a personal level. Sure we argue but that's just it. Now if he/she keeps on attacking on other discussions then that's the time where i might need to report to the admin. In fact i'm about to respond to a discussion where a myLotter stated that 70% of myLotters' discussions are unreadable. Either she's poor in math or she's poor in english that she doesn't know how to count or read anymore. lol! Of course i will not be posting that on her discussion. lol!
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
I agree
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
but i keep on attacking you on your discussions....:-D will you report me? I think you are already fed up with me. Lol! Well, anyway, I think the reason why she finds some discussions to be unreadable is probably because due to astigmatism or dyslexia. Could also be that she might be a kindergarten. seriously, that's true somehow. Especially when it comes to the sentence construction and grammar of some people, sometimes, I just get confused with what they are trying to say. I'm not criticizing or judging. I'm just stating the obvious. I myself have my own errors....lots of them, but at least I know that most f the time I can be understood. But when I talk to modstar, I feel so short of english. Dunno why? I always get that university prof feeling again.
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
I will never get tired if you attacking my discussions. In fact, i welcome the attack. Well i sure she's not reading this because we might get the axe. It's just a matter of relying on common sense to read something that's grammatically poor. I've seen people still asking for an excuse because they can't write english pretty well so i guess a few considerations here and there won't hurt for those who read.
@redhotpogo (4419)
• United States
21 Jan 09
its nice. just because someone disagrees with you on something doesn't mean they have to be your enemy. its nice that someone can argue with you deeply on something, and then say hey you're a good person. i like you.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
just like in debates, right? Except the ones in the senate houses sometimes. Okay so what if the argument has turned below-the-belt, calling each other bad names, bad words and trash-talking?
• United States
21 Jan 09
that can happen. when its a topic that people feel very strongly about sometimes they can turn animalistic and want to attack the person, to hurt them for not understanding their side. but they need to stop, step back ,and apologize for their behavior, and try to learn from it. some people will befriend those that they disrespect that dish it right back to them. that's how i got alot of my friends when i was younger. people would talk bad about me, and beat me up, and harrass me, and then they would turn around, and say hey i like you, and start hanging out with me.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
i see things have turned out good for you. i really think we shouldn't take things personally here. some people may even just refute you for the sake of starting an argument. What would u do incase somebody trash-talks youhere?
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
22 Jan 09
To be honest another member of mylot made some comments that seemed a little unkind in another discussion I was commenting on. I felt her approach was a bit harsh so I took up for the person she was directing her comments to. I wouldn't call it a heated argument, but we both spoke our minds on the subject and I don't think either one of us convinced the other we were right. Later I had run across some of her discussions and some of her interactions with others and I found a lot to be admired in her. I have been thinking about requesting friendship with her but I am unsure how she would react. So, the fact that you started this discussion at this time is interesting.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
23 Jan 09
glad to hear from someone who's actually been there. it seems illogically improper right? I mean, yes, you are right, if I was in your place, I would have second thoughts on requesting to be friends because of that person's possible reaction. But I dunno, perhaps you can always try. There's a 50-50 chance that he/she'll remember you and ur argument anyway.
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Yeah, I know. My plan is to catch her discussions and respond positively for awhile and see how she reacts. Who knows I may make a good friend out of this mess after all.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
27 Jan 09
i seriously think you should give it a try. If she fires at you again, keep a tank of extinguisher close by.LOl
@moneymaya (901)
• India
21 Jan 09
I thinks this is just discussion so there should not be like that thanks for sharing
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
you are right but if you happen to visit some discussions especially about religion and faith, it's ironic to see that in there are all the types of ballistic and war-like people. As for me, that is. So what if your blood pressure strikes 200/100 after an argument and minutes after you see that same person asking you to become his friend, don't you find it so irritating? Like he's putting your patience to a test?
• India
21 Jan 09
you can simply ignore him, friend if you are feeling like that then just ignore these type of discussion , since there is no end of such type of discussion , these topics are endless topic , and just think it business mind that he has such type of strategy so that you have to reply all his such type of discussion to increase his points , they know the week point of people so they intensonly started such type of discussion so that get more reply which increase his account money or nothing and you type of religious person just got stucked and increase your BP :-P, just keep in mind no religious in this world is greate means all is greate all religions are way to reach the god I am not saying this these are the views of greate persons so whould I follow to these greate person or such type of narrow minded persons who just want to doing that just for money thanks for sharing
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
22 Jan 09
that's exactly the problem because some people become less sincere all bcoz of money
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Maybe that person wants to show that there are no hard feelings just a difference of oppinion.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
okay, that's sensible enough. But what if the argument has turned into a very personal one, with both parties calling each other bad names, or telling each other bad languages and trash talks?