Have you ever posted a discussion that you wish that you never started?

@ronaldinu (12445)
Malta
January 21, 2009 12:38pm CST
A few days ago I posted a discussion about a rather serious topic. One of mylot friends shared her/his life experience which is really painful. My friend narrated the painful experience of losing one of his/her children to crime. Obviously I did not know that this friend has passed through this experience (otherwise I would not have posted it) as I do not want to open old painful wounds. Have you ever posted a discussion that you have regretted? © ronaldinu 2009 – the more people I meet – the more I love my dog.
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34 responses
22 Jan 09
Hi Ron No I can't say I have ever posted a discussion and then regretted it ... however, I have responded using life experiences similar to the one you mention and I don't think you should feel bad about posting a question to which a response was a painful one for one of your friends. I appreciate that you are a person sensitive to other people and their emotions and that is a wonderful quality to have. However, if the incident was still very painful to the person involved, they probably wouldn't have posted a response. Also, some people find it theraputic (I know I did) to be able to talk about/share these experiences. Sometimes something that we have gone through in life may help someone else to feel better about something that they are going too. Because of these reasons, I don't think you need to feel bad about posting your discussion. Carry on posting and don't regret. Hugs Violetdreams
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
22 Jan 09
I have posted a few discussions which did not get any responses to me.These might not be interesting as i may put it but i have never ever regretted to have posted these discussions.I am a new member in mylot and everyday is a new learning experience for me.I am still get to the nerve that what kind of postings draw huge responses.
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@henahuda (158)
• Australia
22 Jan 09
hi there no i have never posted any such kind of discussion.i have recently joined mylot.but whatever you did was not done delibrately by you.atleast you realized that you had posted something by mistake and you are sorry for it then its fine,make sure that none of us do it again and it by mistakes hurt somebody's feelings.anyways hope it never happens by anybody.
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
22 Jan 09
Yes, I have started a few discussions I wish I had never started. I just ask MyLot to take the discussion down and they do within a few days.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I don't think that is a reason to regret starting that discussion. Obviously your friend was comfortable with discussing that situation or they never would have. I have started discussions I wish I never did, but for reasons of after I posted them I thought they were just stupid. Which by how many replies they got no ones else really cared for them either. Usually I do the really stupid ones when I am bored of responding to others and want something else to do.
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• United States
21 Jan 09
My answer to the question is no.However the topic was interesting,Life of a blogger".I gave the pros and cons of this new-media.Like being realistic with payment from it.That one should keep their day job until you start earning an adequate living and the pit-falls of deadbeat publishers.But it didn't get any comments ouch!.
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• Philippines
21 Jan 09
yes i have because i think i should have moved on and did not asked others for their opinions. .
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
21 Jan 09
There waa a discussion that I started that at first I wished I hadn't, but, when I started getting responses I realized that it was a pretty good subject. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija The more people I meet the more I love my cat=^..^=
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@KrauseHome (35025)
• United States
21 Jan 09
There are many times I have started a discussion here, and then wished I could remove it later. A lot of times for me, is I end up not getting back the type of responses I had hoped for or would want so it makes me regret starting that one as well. But overall I feel it is up to each individual what they want to share here, and personally I learn to move on the more I can talk about the Bad things that might have happened for me more in my life as well.
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
21 Jan 09
No, I haven't, and I don't know how I missed that discussion since yours arrive in my mailbox with all my other friends' discussions. It probably did your friend some good to talk about it, I imagine he/she kept it in their heart and would not have mentioned it if they hadn't needed an outlet. Your discussion probably did them some good.
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• United States
21 Jan 09
I have definately done this one. I never thought when I first came on here that it would turn out the way it did and really just wish that myLot would delete it. It turned out nasty really nasty and it never crossed my mind when I started it. On here you definately have to think long and hard before you post! People can be pretty hateful at times but we all have our opinions and all the good way outweighs some people being nasty. We learn from our experiences. Good or bad!!
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@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
24 Jan 09
It would be impossible to know everything about everyone who is a member here on myLot. That is also the very reason we might start a discussion or make a post that we later wish we hadn't. You started that discussion with good intentions and then your friend chose to respond. Yes it might have been painful for them to open up and respond in the manner that they did, but possibly it also helped them more than you realise. Also in choosing to respond and in the manner that they did, your friend knew what they are doing. It takes a bit of time to type out a response, getting the words right and so there is time to opt out before we post our response. Okay so once you have posted the response there is no way that you can withdraw or modify it in any way. No I have not made a post that I later regret Ronaldinu. There are many more important things in life to be concerned about, particular when my posts (like the discussion you started) are done so with the best of intentions.
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
24 Jan 09
it is impossible to know what is going on in the personal life of each one of us here but I never imagined that my posting was going to hit the nail so much
• United States
23 Jan 09
I wish you didn't feel bad about it. I needed to let it out, and you were so kind and caring. My daughter will always live in my heart, and the burden was lightened a bit by discussing it. I just can't handle much of that yet, as this was the first time I'd ever told anyone. It was mentioned in a book by one of my favorite authors, and I didn't know it was going to be there. THAT was painful! This was, instead, therapeutic. I still think you're a wonderful person, and none of that has been reduced an iota!
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
31 Jan 09
thanks your posting made me feel better....
• United States
21 Jan 09
I find that I love my dog more and more everyday! lol! yes, I've posted things I wish I hadn't.. I would tell you what they were but then I would be posting it AGAIN! lol!
• United States
23 Jan 09
*picks DM up by ears and tosses him over shoulder* come on doggy... you know, you talk way too much!
• United States
25 Jan 09
No I haven't but I did post a post with a sensitive subject and I said right in the pot that if this is too close to home, please stop reading . But I had a person who's life story was just like the post and they responded.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
23 Jan 09
Yeah, i did post a discussion that i wish i had never started at all.. Though it's not as sad as yours, but still i feel funny starting when i was a newbie, and i was just following the trend.. lol =D But for u, u just din expect that to happen, and actually u should be glad as your friend is willing to open up and put the past behind, move on with life ^_^ U should support your fren and though u feel sad, but still, i manage to do a good deed too ^_^
@Humbug25 (12551)
22 Jan 09
Hi ronaldinu I think the only time I have regretted posting discussions is when I first started and didn't get many responses but would probably now but can't repost those discussions!! You can't be responsible for other people's emotions when they have read your discussion. It is totally up to them too if they decide to respond to it. Of course we don't like to upset people by what we say but you had no clue how your friend would react and that it was a touchy subject for them. I am sure that they now feel bad for giving you the response they did and that has made you feel bad about it! Don't be so hard on yourself, anyone who knows you as a friend on myLot would know that it wasn't your intention to make someone feel uncomfortable!
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
22 Jan 09
I dont think i have here. I know on another forum i have before. And when people give me negative feedback without really understanding it hurts.
@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
22 Jan 09
Till now I haven't, no! myLot isn't too wide opened web site where after placing too private things I could regret because someone could use it against me. One thing I wouldn't do though, I wouldn't tell people things what have been trusted me by someone, specially when these things are painful.
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
22 Jan 09
I wouldn't worry too much. Sometimes it can be cathartic to talk about old memories that caused a lot of pain. I have found when certain discussions have brought painful memories to my mind and I when I write about them...those memories are then not so painful. So even though the old wounds were re-opened, the wound was in fact healed to a degree.