Is it neccessary to remind your spouce or family member that you loves them??

India
January 22, 2009 6:13am CST
I feel, In this busy life even they know, we should express to our spouse or to our family member that we loves them though we do not have time to spend with them. Since i got married my sister feels neglected, she loves me very much. but after marriage i was getting busy. But then i realize and thought to tell her, explain her, once i told her even now i love her, she was very happy. By Expressing your feelings, you can solve many unknown problems, you can make your people happy. It is inexpensive but very necessary.
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18 responses
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
yes it is deemed necessary that our love to our spouse, family members, friends, siblings and especially to our kids are being expressed to words most of the time. why because although action speaks louder than words but words are powerful than of action. no matter how busy our schedule was it is important that we sometimes tell our love ones how much they mean to our lives and how much we love them. those are of most value as compared to money and wealth. this is a very nice discussion i marked it positive.
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• United States
22 Jan 09
I couldn't agree more. I believe the expression of love through words and actions on a regular basis reduces stress, prevents a lot of conflicts, resolves misunderstandings, and creates a type of harmony that is addictive. We express love constantly in our household, as well as to our extended family, for these reasons and we have noticed a big change in comparison to when this didn't happen as much. It seems like everyone enjoys each other's company more, and we all get along so much better. That's the kind of positive attitude toward love and relationships I'm hoping my children will bring with them as they grow into adulthood.
@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Sometimes its hard to say "i love you" to our love ones. Sometimes we just show it through actions which is not bad. But i think sometimes we just need to tell them how much we love them by saying it verbally. I just tried one time to say it verbally to my mom and my mom was overwhelmed and kiss me alot. Its really overwhelming to see people are happy because you express to them how much you love them.
@bing28 (3800)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
oh yes, me I let them feel by mentioning even in text messages, take care love, or mom loves you, or bye love but of course these are for my children alone as my hubby is already in heaven for him I just include or address him love thru my prayers...for my siblings I still kiss them on their birthdays or christmas, fathers day...to my parents same thru prayers I express my love for them. To my children, though their grown ups already I still kiss them before leaving the house and they do the same before going to work. There are times however that you can't fins a time telling them you love them but they could feel it, for sure...
@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
23 Jan 09
Absolutely. Otherwise you expect them to take it for granted and that simply does not work. Even if it's just a quick hug and a kiss if it's your sister Mum or wife and saying the words..."always remember that I love you and if you need me I'm there for you." You can say these things to anyone you are close to. Those simple words and actions can mean a great deal to a loved one who is feeling a bit lost and lonely.
• India
23 Jan 09
no its not neccessary they should get known by your behaviour way of talking etc.
@subhakars (935)
• India
23 Jan 09
yea, we need to remind our loved ones how much we love them. it makes them as well as us also feel good. but we should also be cautious not to over do it.
@acegirl (127)
• China
23 Jan 09
I think that depends on. If your family members don't think you love them, I think you should show your love to them so that they can feel that you love them. If they can understand you,but of course, you know the point. Then you don't really have to show your love to them. But sometimes family members can't always figure out whether you love them. Then they are gonna be very puzzled. And sometimes they will be kinda...angry or disappointed. Then it's definitely neccessary for you to do so. In case that they fear to lose your love. I think you'd better explain your ideas to them. It's the best way. Do you really also think so?
@murali603 (114)
• India
23 Jan 09
Some times i also feels like this only. I give more preference to the family members but i don't express the love and liking on them always. I am very calm and won't involve in the discussions but i love them so much and i think they also loving me much. I want to see them very happy because of me. I do any thing for them and i wanna see the family members very happy
• United States
23 Jan 09
it never hurts to tell those you care about how you feel, especially family. although a lot of times we feel it goes without saying, both the speaker and the recipient appreciate the words aloud more than can be explained. happiness doesn't happen without love, and though love can exist unspoken, it is that much stronger when it is verbally expressed and understood.
@creationhub (3070)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
I believe that we need to constantly remind each other of our feelings. It is easy to show by actions but words play an equally important in a relationship. The asians are not so vocal but expressive in actions.
• India
22 Jan 09
Yes it is not necessary but must also. If you will not let your near and dear ones that you love them they will take it in another way.It is very easy to earn the money but it is very difficult to maintain the relations in present world. Life is getting faster and faster. But one thing is there, your family members sometimes not object when you dont tell them that you love them but if you dont make your spouce to feel it life can become very difficult.
@rtslvtwy (1091)
• Malaysia
22 Jan 09
I would need to say that it is really necessary to remind our spouse or family members that we love them. Especially in this busy world we live in and most are usually working parents with kids and sometimes we just forget to let each other know hoe much we love and appreciate them. It would be good even just a word of praise just to let the other person know that we are still interested in the things they do or who they are.
• India
22 Jan 09
Relationship is like a plant which requires water everyday. Whenever you get opportunity we should express our love. In life to express everything is very important, b'cause of that opposite person can better understand you.There are many ways to express your love and best way is flower. Whenever i have flower, give it to my lovedone who is near at that time and say him/her i love you. Happy LoveLotting
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
its good to be reminded that you are loved, especially in the season of depression, trials in life. It does make a big difference in one's life. I love to say " i love you, i care for you to my boyfriend, mother and father and other family members. But, do it with actions too, not only in words. Give time to your family members, spouse, and all loved ones. Make it a point that even you are busy, give time for them. Go for a movie together, laugh together, play sports together, serious talks, funny and sweet gestures to special someone. That would be the best thing in life
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Hello ratnapatel! Honestly, we are not showy in the family. I mean we are not the kind of saying "i love you" to each other. I feel that my family love me because they are always there for me when I was sick, down or I have any problems. But I guess you're right, saying "I love you" would really help but it's not enough without actions.
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Yes,is necessary to assure them once in a while that we love them, but still... action speaks louder than words, so we have to make them feel also that they are loved and cared for.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
22 Jan 09
So true! Even though we know our family loves us, it's nice to hear them say so. The reason we are on this earth is to love one another, but sometimes we just get so busy with our daily lives that we begin to take each other for granted. A few kind words can go a long way towards happy relationships. It sounds like you and your sister are very close, and that is wonderful, but now that you are married your husband is your first priority. It's good that you could talk things out with her, and let her know she is still important to you. It does help to sit down and talk out problems (more men need to learn that!)