It took me 15 years to learn to drive

@cynthiann (18572)
Jamaica
January 22, 2009 10:18am CST
but I did pass my driving test first time. The length of time was due to the fact that everyone time I started to learn I became pregnant and my husband said that I couldn't learn to drive whilst pregnant, and I had a lot of pregnancies I think that this was really an excuse as I did have a little accident whilst learning which involved my reversing and he being in the way. Yes, I ran him over and he had cuts on his back. But the children were safe as I had put them on the patio to watch me practise reverse so I don't really understand why he went beserk. After this incident he was really mean and said that I was supposed to be intelligent and look at all the idiots on the road who can drive and pass a driving test. Those sort of remarks were passed. His mother asked me why had I tried to kill her son. That wasn't nice was it? I thought about this as I was driving to work this morning. Tell me, how long did it take you to learn to drive and did you run anyone over whilst still a learner?
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@salonga (27838)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
I would not want to run anyone over! That would be a traumatic experience for me. Actually I don't drive. I know how to start and move the car. I know the basics of driving but I don't really drive. My hubby patiently taught me some years back and I successfully learned how. But I have not much confidence on myself. I don't wanna drive unless the road is wide and not much vehicles and in place where there are no pedestrians. I think driving is not a thing for me. I'd rather leave that task to my hubby and my son.
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@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
22 Jan 09
I understand how you feel but it would be good for you to drive a few times just for practice. Thank you for responding
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
22 Jan 09
I took drivers training in school so it didn't take very long....I didn't run anyone over but before I got my license I had a little accident that I never told my folks about..I was being followed by some boys and went in the ditch...I thought if they found out I wouldn't get to try for my license! LOL
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@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
22 Jan 09
In the end, I got a professional to teach me to drive as my husband refused to do so. I can imagine your scare going into a ditch., I didn't do anything like that although becaue od my fear of reversing it still took me a year with my driving instructor befiore I took the test. I don't know why I was so scared of reversing. Thanks for responding
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
23 Jan 09
When I first tried to drive, I ran into a tree and my husband said, Never again. I took lessons, and got my license in my late twenties, but we did not have that much money and we only had one car, I could not afford to get the license renewed, and my husband threw my license away. So I have gone for almost forty-five years without a license. I am now 65, I now have enough money to at least get a license, but now they have these graduated licenses and they are only available for teenagers and young people. It seems that when you reach a certain age, you better forget if you have not tried before. I did not run over anybody. I am just going to give up. I cannot afford to get a license, don't have enough money to get even a second hand car, never did.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
I hope that you were not hurt when you went into the tree? Husbands are not the best people to teach their wives to drive. It never works. I am truly sorry that you cannot get it renewed as you never know - you may get a little car from somewhere and you would have more independance. Thanks for rresponding
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
27 Jan 09
I was not hurt, but all the neighborhood was around at the time. And when we cleaned my room and decided that my license would go, I was not working as we were trying for a baby and because we then were waiting to adopt, it was not that I could stop working when I got pregnant so I never could after the miscarriage so I could not save any money to renew my license. Now I have almost enough money to get my license, but with the graduated licenses that is out. It is just for young people and besides I could not afford to get one anyway. So I am screwed.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
23 Jan 09
well, bless your heart. think u needed a different teacher than what u had, he sounds about like my dad who had no patience in teaching u anything. as for your mother-in-law that was a very tacky thing to say to you. no wonder with her & your husband around it took u so long to learn. good luck w/those two, think you'll need it. it didn't take me long & no i never run over anyone but would have been tempted to if i had had a teacher like u.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
You are so funny. Thank you for responding. I had the wores MIL in the world - thisd is why I now try to be the best MIL! Blessings
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
23 Jan 09
there is no sense ihn anyone being a mil. i had two & thought the world of both of them. now their sons were a different story, i try to be a good one to.
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I think it would have taken me awhile to learn how to drive too if I had someone treating me like that when I was learning how to drive. I have a friend who is 34 years old, but won't get her license. She is afraid to drive. I learned in school. It took me an 8 week class to get my license. I am glad to hear that you got your license.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
28 Jan 09
Hey, you're clever. I am convinced that the younger you learn the better it is. I think that I said somewhere else that now I can see it was a control thing with my husband. He was scared that I would have an accident and also wanted to know where I was. He was somewhat jealous when I was young. If I didn't drive today then I would not have a job or much of a life. My driving is my independence. Thanks for responding dear friend
• United States
26 Jan 09
but I did pass my driving test first time. The length of time was due to the fact that everyone time I started to learn I became pregnant and my husband said that I couldn't learn to drive whilst pregnant, and I had a lot of pregnancies That is a strange excuse. It would be just as logical for you to not ride in a car while pregnant. There would be no problems unless you ran into something. If someone on the road ran into you, you'd be in the same boat as a driver or a passenger. That said, the whole running over the hubby things might be hard for him to forget.. but what the heck was he doing standing behind a car with backup lights on any way?
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
27 Jan 09
Today it would sound like a strange excuse but not in those days. Now I would view it as control - basically, my husband did not want me to learn to drive and be independent. He would prefer to drive me himself ot hire a driver. then, He wasnn't positioned exactly behind the car. I pressed the gas too hard and swerved the car in my panic! Thaks for responding.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
24 Jan 09
Honestly dear friend i learnt driving in 1 and a half day at max. maybe I was 15 at that time I a love so much to drive, but my dad wont let me to till I officially got my licence. Well as far as running over anyone , I think that can happen to any expert driver too.. Thank God i didnt have had any accident whilst i am driving till date. But my car met with one last year when i asked my friend to steer the wheel... thats was an awful experience. Cheers Bodhi
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
24 Jan 09
Hi Bodhi, thanks for responding. You must be a super genius to learn so quickly. I am so impressed and happily you have not had a major accident. My boys all learnt to drive at an early age on the private roads on the farm too. Blessings
@henahuda (158)
• Australia
23 Jan 09
hi there good that you have finally achieved your goal.my father also tried to teach me driving but i used to get so scared when he used to sit next to me and then he used to guide me the ways of driving carefully and how you should try to avoid accidents.but then i used to get so confused that i ended up making mistakes and prompt him to scold me he used to shout on me so badly making me cry.but then i guess it was fine he always tried to teach the best ways of driving but it was my fault i never took it seriously.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
I dson't think that it works for family members to teach us to drive. It should be an instructor. Those close to us never have the patience. Thanks for responding
@Rafikiki (21)
• Denmark
23 Jan 09
Uhh not nice. I guess you just have to keep driving. The more experience you get the more you learn. The problem is that we forget. Often it's the man driving I guess that could mean something too..
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
No, the accident was not nice at all for my husband. Thanks for responding
• United States
23 Jan 09
I first drove when I was 11. I drove my uncles farm truck in a field with my 12 year old cousin as my teacher. After that, I took drivers training when I was 14. However, because of money situations I didn't get to take the test and get my license till I was 19. Shortly after I got my license I was in an accident (which was horrible since I had been driving without a license for ages!). I totaled my mom's car (which was horrible and something she never let go). I don't remember the day at all, so I am not sure why I did what I did. Then a couple of years later I totaled another one of my mom's cars when I fell asleep and hit a semi-truck. My fiance bought my mom a new car of equal value (though she was still upset about it and never let it go). While learning to drive I never ran anyone over and I never had an accident, but since then it has been horrible. Now I don't drive often. This is for a lot of reasons. 1) I am not that confident of a driver (after all, I have been in two accidents). 2) We only have one car and it is usually at work with my husband. 3) It is a stick shift and it is a pain to drive 4) We live in a town with the worse drivers I have ever seen. We moved from a town 4 times as big (400,000) as the one we currently live in with a lot more traffic and drivers were so much better there then here. They are scary here! In fact, we were hit a little while ago by a woman who was turning onto the road from a drive. We were pulling into a neighboring drive. She rammed right into us! Anyway...
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
Thak you for an excellent response. I know hwat yo mean as the drivers in my country are pretty scary too. Especially the taxi drivers. You should stil drive in occassions so as to not lose your skill. Thanks for responding
@shamzy18 (2320)
23 Jan 09
well even after 15 years congrats you passed. i know quite a few people who had left their driving test because they didnt have time or family reasons. i havent learnt to drive yet but will soon and hopefuilly pass. Accidents happen though and you were only a learner its not like you were doing it on purpose lol
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
You are very kind and no, I did not do it on purpose. Thanks for responding
@user_786 (1340)
23 Jan 09
It took me approx. 1 months or so but obviously that wasn't enough until i took car to real heavy traffic. Understanding the traffic is another important part of car driving. In total, it took me about 2 months max to become a confident driver.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
Wow! I am impressed. You must be so good. Thanks for responding
@yanzalong (5855)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 09
But I think you can learn driving despite your preganccy. My wife took only less than a month to be able to drive. Only once did she crashed into a roadside stand. Luckily we knew the owner well so that accident was not really a serious matter.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
Your wife is a natural driver to lkearn in less than a month. I'm glas that her little accident was not serious though. Thanks for responding
• Singapore
23 Jan 09
First of all, congratulations that you have a driving license. i don't. I have never tried though. We have an excellent public transport system and I don't see the need arising yet. But I would love to know that skill. And I do envy those who have a driving license like you. Congrats!
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
I lived on a farm in the bush with no transportation. If I didn't drive then I would still be in the bush! Thank you for your very kind words and do try to get your license the younger you are the easier it will be.
• China
23 Jan 09
I will try my best to learn it though i have no chance to try.Good luck, losing is nothing but learning is something,believe you are best,if others do certainly you can do.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
Save for a chance to try to drive as it will benefit your life in the ;long run. I do hope that you can do it in the future. Thanks for responding
@chemcdow (149)
• United States
23 Jan 09
the most i ran over while learning to drive was a bush... it really shook me up, though! It didn't take me very long to drive, but i can always still improve!
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
I am so glad that you were not hurt. Thaks for responding
• United States
23 Jan 09
Oh Cynthiann: Your stories just kill me, (G) you my dear friend should put all of this into a book; I love reading your adventures and I'm glad to know your Hubby is alive and well..LOL! I had no trouble learning to drive and did so right away when I was 16, got my license and so on; now in my early 20's a friend of mine had a stick shift and I was trying to learn to drive that damn car and using the clutch and I was driving to Illinois late one night we were heading back to where I was living at the time to move my stuff back home here in Missouri, anyway I had no problem until I got to one town and at the stop sign I was right in the middle of the road and stuck using the clutch and killing the engine and these stinky guys were teasing me and yelling at us and then my friend and I got mad and started calling them names and it was so embarrassing; Funny now but embarrassing at the time, I've never driven a clutch since LOL! Praise be for automatic cars is all I can say LOL! Never backed into anyone either..LOL!
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
23 Jan 09
I never learned how to drive, I never had the money to own a car, and I didn't have the money to spend on driving lessons, my family said they would not show me how, so I never got to learn. At 54 I certainly do not want to now and I still do not have the money to learn to drive.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
I am so sorry that you never learnt to drive. It woul dhave made your life so much easier my firend. Thanks for responding
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
At least you never give up. Look at you now, you already know how to drive. Not giving up is really worth it. Because we get what we always wanted. I admire people like you.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
Oh thanks you for being so kind. I am a widow now and so I have to drive everywhere and I am glad that I did learn to drive. Thaks for responding
@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
I done fourteen lesson and passed first go. My hubby had a white Nova years ago and he walked to work everyday, so the car just sat there wasting. Well I went to a fortune tellers with my Mother when I was around 24yrs old and expecting my third child. She told me I would make an "excellent driver", so I went straight out and did my lessons and passed first go. I could not believe it and either could my husband. My driving instructer said I was a "natural we driver". I will now have been driving around 14 years and it is the best thing I have ever learnt to do. I would be lost without the car now as we live in the country. I am sorry you nearly killed your hubby (only joking) but I am so glad you passed first go. I bet you rubbed it in because I would of.
@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
22 Jan 09
Oh, I definitely rubbed it in but had to have a driving instructor as he would not teach me anymore! I am in awe that you did so well. Congratulations. I would not have a life if I did not drive as I like to get out. Thanks for responding.
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