Would it make you worried if your bf or gf will fail to see or chat with you for

@annierose (18966)
Philippines
January 22, 2009 8:04pm CST
a day or more? My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. And everybody knows that having a long distance relationship is a complicated one. In order for it to grow, we must spend time to see each other even in internet or chat using messengers. We are chatting everyday. If we are not that busy we chat two times a day.One in morning and the other in night.And if our schedule is somehow unpredictable, we still chat even for a short time. Sometimes, if one of us cannot be online, we just leave a message on e-mail for the other one. There was also a time when I cannot come online because of internet connection or for being sick, then that is the time, he will call me on phone to ask what is happening. I can say that it really makes me worried if my boyfriend doesn't come online even for just one day and not even left any message for me in my inbox.Whenever that happens, I always leave him message asking him what happened and leave me also a message. Maybe I am that way because I am use to it that we always communicate as much as we can. How about you guys? Please share. Thanks and happy mylotting :)
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Hello annierose! I feel the same way with you. My husband and I are trying to keep our communication regularly although he is busy and working hard right now inorder for him to get me over there. If we are not online, we talk on the phone everyday even when he is at work. But you know, it's still really hard because one small mistake and we will think that our partner doesn't love us and or not interested in talking to us. Let's be "patient".
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@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
wow, my bf and me is like that also.Although he has a strict boss, he still tried to talk to me on phone. You are so lucky that you are now married with the one you love and soon going with him and live together.
• United States
23 Jan 09
hehehe..yes, it takes time..we talked online for 2 years before he decided to come and visit me. How about you? you're not married yet?
@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
No, we are not. But we have plans to marry someday after my two year experience teaching here in Philippines. :)
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Same as you, me and my bf are in a long distance relationship for almost a year already.. At first, I really feel bad and worried if he don't chat, text or call me but now I'm already used to it.. I don't feel so bad anymore when he didn't send me message.. I know that not all the time he must always send me a message since he has so many things to do just like me.. So, I'm already used to it when we were not communicating..
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@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
There are times when I am that way also especially when I am busy.Although I am quite noticing that he is not there to chat with me, in my heart however, I still worried.
@cripfemme (7714)
• United States
23 Jan 09
No, that would not make me nervous. I would assume they were off having their life apart from me which I want them to have. I'm not the sort of person (nor do I hope to ever be) who needs someone to call her everyday just so she can be reassured. I don't like those kind of women and if I were a man I wouldn't like those kind of men.
@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Thanks for response. I remembered my ex boyfriend by your post because he has same thinking also like you. Happy mylotting
@cocozhi (80)
• China
23 Jan 09
Most people I talked to said that you can't go looking for love on the Internet . Finding love on the Internet ,for me ,it is inconceivable . But my boyfriend and i meet online ,we havenā€˜t met each other in the real world ,i konw where he is, but he is not konw who am i.It is hard to make the relationships develop between he and i .but i think you and your boyfriend can success .so,wishes you and your boyfriend succeed .
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@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Thank you for your response. I am also praying for us. I do hope also that you will have a successful relationship.
@neknna (63)
23 Jan 09
i will be worried if he fails to show off during our agreed day of the week without advise. I once had a long distance relationship. And his off from work during fridays. So that's the only time we had for chatting. I will be worried if he can't make it during those time especially if he did not advise ahead. But if he does give me prior notice, it's ok with me. But if he does not, i always leave a message for him, emails, or even call him to know what happen.
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@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I also do same. And sometimes when I am not the one who not comes online, he just leave me message or call me in phone.
@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Hi annierose! I sympathize how you feel. I was in a long distance relationship also for almost 3 years. I felt the same way with you. Communication is a really one of a MUSTs when you are involve in a LDR. That is the only way the hold you and your other half for your relationship to remain strong. Admit it or not, there were times also that you have feelings of doubts with your other half. If your bf wasn't able to talk to you or left you any message for one or couple of days, leaving him a message is really a good idea to do. But if no replies, then have time to give him a ring on his phone to check what's going on. Happy mylotting!
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@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I agree with all you said here. Well, i just found out that I am not only one who suffer from worrying if my bf is not around.
• Brazil
23 Jan 09
Long distance relatonship need more serenity than when the bf and gf are near. These relationship has more risky to wearing. But if you to get stay in peace in this wearing moment, the relationship will be strongger after^^
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@baileycows (3669)
• United States
23 Jan 09
I understand you kind of sound like me. You get used to things and how they are all the time and then it changes for a while and you wonder. I do the same thing, but try to understand that things come up and to be patient.
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