people fade away when you are in trouble?....

@twinklee (895)
India
January 22, 2009 9:04pm CST
It is only on your good times that people like to move along with you?.....can it be true?......i have seen many of them who would shy away as soon as you get in to trouble and they dont even have the patience to listen to your problem what you met up with...you will see people who we all over you vanishing in air as and when you think of seeking their help.....only few people in very rare case have the heart to help.......
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Hi twinklee! That is so true. Have been in the lowest point in my life and all those so called friends of mine disappeared. But I am blessed that somehow I have a few more who have always been there for me in all the seasons of my life. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith210
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
gud you have friends whom you can cling to upon sorrows.....keep it goin...
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Indeed, they are one of my blessings!
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
yeah its really true, friends are just there if you have money, if you are there in times of their trouble, BUT... if you are in trouble, you cannot hear from them, nor wants to help you.. what ive said is based on my experienced. that's why right now, i am very careful and choosy of having friends,.. because it hurts knowing that you have friends, and you expect that they comfort you or help you,... whew! well maybe they were thinking that, they have their own problem also, and why bothering helping other people.. and i understand it also..
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
Well it is really true what you told, it is better to chose carefully amongst friends rather than expecting help after choosing, it really hurts when they don't give their hands at the time of NEED! It is a well established fact that " FRIEND IN NEED IS FRIEND INDEED".. Thanks for responding
@tabachi (263)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
it is sad but it is true.most friends are there when it is fair weather but once you get into storm most run for cover leaving you alone...hahaha!it takes a lifetime to really know who your true friends are come hell or high water...that's why we should value those who have stood by us through the years..but for sure they are just a handful...many have left just because you are down..the real ones will even try to put you up again..
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
it is upon your tuff times which tells you the others interest in ....& those are real friends....& they are very hard to be found.....
@jaffna (778)
• India
23 Jan 09
I agree with you 100%.This is the case for most of the people and i have heard so many people talking about such kind of situations and even myself have been affected by some colleagues of ma class.They just share me ma happy times and experience al ot of good things and helps from me.The moment if they find that am drowning down over,They escape from me very cleverly.Really,it's difficult to find good people all over in this world.I hardly found three whom i rely the most.Others are just for namesake,they are ma friends where,truly,they are ma companions
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
ritely said...others are happy staying away from our miseries....tatz their part of it....nothing can be done for it.....
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
23 Jan 09
Its very few who will come to your help in times of difficulties. So, just dont expect people to help and when they do, you feel good. Another point id like to make is that whenever you meet friends, dont start whinning about your problems. When one constantly is complaining or whinning, friends disappear and I dont blame them. They know of your problem if told once. If they want to help, they will. By constantly drawing their attention to your problems will only create negative vibes . The law of nature states people are attracted to happy people only. so be happy, even if it kills you. good luck.
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
there is a fine line distuingshin a friend from a true friend....a true one would never let you down at any cost......
@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I agree that there are people will fade away when you are in need of help. I have lots of friends but few are considered real and true friends. People may sometimes like you and pretend that you can count on them but when problem comes they will just disappear.
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
i say one thing never lose a friend who has the utmost care on you.....if u miss it is very hard to find another one.....
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
23 Jan 09
what you didn,t know you have a lot of friends when you are doing good but get in trouble and need them they are no where to be found.i learn this many years ago how people are.i find that many who profess to be your friend is not your friend you can quickly find this out when you need them.sorry you had to experience it as well.
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
true friends never leave you away for any reason.....u r blessed if you have some......
• United States
23 Jan 09
the last few months have been extremely trying for my husband and i. we were trying to buy a home. every step of the way there was some obstacle. we used friends and family to bounce our frustration off of them. we both lost our jobs due to building closure. we used our friends to try and find new jobs and network constantly to help each other. friends should want to be there. they should want to help take on some of the burden. they should bother you will crazy phone calls and emails about anything they think you might find interesting. if they fade... they were never really your friend. just hold on to the ones that stayed there. hold them tightly they are special, trust me.
@twinklee (895)
• India
23 Jan 09
special friends are a blessing in disguise.....even during during the tuff times they are there to heal the depressions.....never let your grip of them.....
• Brazil
23 Jan 09
I'm always so nice to people, always try to help my friends in every way possible, but when I need help it's like none of them care. I don't understand why people do this. Like i lended some money to a good friend of mine when she needed it, and now she got a job and she's doing good but she won't pay me back, and keeps hiding from me! She ended our friendship just so she wouldn't have to pay me back, I'm very mad!