what would be your first reaction when you bumped into your EX?

Philippines
January 22, 2009 10:15pm CST
Not all relationship end in good terms. Other may carry the hurt for a longest time and would feel bad seeing the insignificant (used to be significant)other especially on the first few weeks or months after the split up. What if you were walking somewhere and unexpectedly you bumped with your EX boyfriend or girlfriend, what would be your reaction? Please share why is it you would react that way? Thanks.
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@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Hi, well my marriage ended in really bad terms so I do not even go to any place he might be but luckily I live almost 400 miles away. If I ran into my ex-husband I would say hi if he said it first otherwise I would walk away. As for an ex-b/f who lives close to me, well luckily I haven't seen him too much but every time I have, I have always been with my b/f. My mom said my ex-b/f was staring at me and my b/f when we ran into him.I never speak to him. I see no need to.
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• Philippines
23 Jan 09
If thats the case, i think the old bf has still an eyes for you. It is nice to hear that you have move on with your life and what is important is that you are happy. you don't have kids with your ex husband? hope you don't mind me asking.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Hi I don't mind you asking. I had no children with my ex-husband
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Sorry it took so long for me to reply, I've been down with a bad cold
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I would ask him to treat me. I never saw 2 of my exes after break up upto now. In case I would accidentally get bumped unto them, I would be glad and asked them to treat me and have some friendly talk. I had moved on and I respect whatever relationship they have now. I am the type of girl who could really befriend with my exes as well as with their significant partners. There would be no awkward feeling because if I do, it means that the feeling is still there and it would be unfair. Whatever happened in the past should remain in the past. What is important now is the present and future.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I like the way you see things. Though I don't think I can do it the way you put it maybe I will just say hi and hellos but not to go out to coffee with them especially if I am in a relationship and the ex is in a relationship as well. Yes that is true moving on would have a great part in the way you relate with an ex and it is always important to move on. As what they say let bygone be bygones. thanks for sharing.
• United States
23 Jan 09
Um. Awkward! This happened to me in a parking lot of a grocery store I *used to* go to all the time. Turns out, he started going there after we broke up. I found another grocery store, but that's a different story. He acted like he had no idea who I was. I smiled at him because I thought that was the nice thing to do. He was with friends and they said, "who's that?" He said, "I don't know, just some girl I guess." Jerk.
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
A total jackass!!! He needs to be slapped by the face for his reaction is so uncalled for. Maybe he was really hurt that you slip up with him that he wants to get back at you but such reaction is so unmanly. What I can say is that he is an immature person. It is a good that you broke up with him. We even smile at strangers. I a flaring up, i know. hehehhe. When you bump into again don't smile and act as is he is a totally lowly stranger... talking of immaturity... LOL
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Oh!! that still hurts!! ouch!!! well, if it happen to me? am sure my day is not that good. It will really ruing my day. Specially if we did not end our relationship in a nice way. What would be my reaction? if possible I will not look at him. hahaha.. I will pretend that I did not see him, I will snob him . And if there is a way to avoid him, I will do everything.. not to meet him hahahaha...
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
You are really funny my friend. This reminds me of how I act when I was in high school and college if I am about to meet someone that I don't like bumping into. LOL. Me on the other hand would really smile at the person and show him what he had been missing in losing me. LOL. A lot of my friends says I could really be mean if someone hurt me. LOL
• United States
23 Jan 09
I actually "bumped" into my ex about a month and a half or so ago. I was cashing my check at Walmart and he was like 3 people in front of me and as he was walking away, I saw him. I think he saw me, but I'm not sure. If he did, he sure ignored me. Not that I really care, though. I only dated him for a month and some days, but if I were to bump into him, I would probably just ignore him. I don't care about what he is up to, as bad as that sounds. He was a scum bag as far as I'm concerned.
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• Philippines
24 Jan 09
So unmanly of him not to say hello to you, that is if he saw you. He could have smiled but then again it is not a big fuss. Maybe he has his own reason that we don't know of. LOL. Thanks for sharing.
@djemba (767)
• India
23 Jan 09
I guess I'd try to talk to her in a friendly manner ..ask her all the regular stuff like how are you? and what you doing and stuff....what i wouldn't do is ask her any personal questions or remind of the times we shared ....i guess i'd try to end the chat as soon as i can because it could get hazardous(if you know what i mean)...
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Are you afraid to get hooked with your ex? LOL. a smile will do so that you conversation with her will not take a long time. You might not know it but it is a possibility that you ex is madly in love with someone else and wouldn't careless seeing you around the road. LOL. it is just a possibility. heheheheh. Thanks for the post!!!
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I had a boyfriend for almost four years. I broke up with him because I found someone more deserving. Though I did not intend do it on purpose, still he was hurt. We havent seen nor bumped each other for more than a year. No chat/text or email communications. And I still have no idea what would I react if ever we see each other. Sometimes our reactions can be unpredictable. But I think a simple "smile" would be safe. Hope he smiles back. :)
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• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I think the have move on, it has been a year now. I hope he smiles back too when you bump into each other and I know this will give you a relief that everything is okay now. Thanks for the post!!!
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
That depends really if your still in love with your ex but in my case, though I am no longer in love with him, I still have this feeling that I want to prove something to him. That he shouldn't have never broken up with me and its his lost! Hehe! -cherry
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• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I understand what you mean my friend for I act that way too. LOL. I have never looked weak to those that i had relationship in the past they always see me as a strong person thought i maybe hurting inside. I just want to show to the the impression that "hey, look what you have lost!" I always get the last laugh. LOL. I know i sound so vengeful but i don't like people pitying me. I guess you have found your true love right? and so do I.
@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
No matter how long or short the relationship was or if it was good or bad, still no reaction at all. If ever we bump to each other i just say hi or hello and how are you then goodbye. Past is past and just have to move on.
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• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Moving on after a relationship is really important there is no need to sulk over it. After all it is not the end of the world. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@marisriel (1157)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
My ex caused me a lot of pain in the past however, I knew that I totally got over him already because I don't care for him anymore. It means that if ever I bumped into him, I'll just shrug my shoulders and think what a small world it is. I don't have anything to do with him and I just don't like to think of him either as a friend or even as an acquaintance. I don't even like to waste my time thinking of that person. I won't tell my husband, "Oh, there's my ex" because he definitely is not worth my husband's time even just a glimpse of him.
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I really like the way you put things in here. I can feel what a jerk that EX was. It is a good thing that you didn't end up with him for he will surely hurt you all the way. I too would feel the same thing with someone who have hurt me a lot and never appreciate the efforts and the love that I have given him. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and Keep on posting!!!
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Wow! nice discussion... Well, I think it happenned to me when I broke up with my first boyfriend who is a Mama's Boy type. Well, we are all invited for a debut party of our schoolmate, that was I think 2 weeks after our break up. We just smile with each other and he never took the chance of talking to me and explain his side and try to win me back, etc. I was surrounded with my group of friends and so he was too but if he he willing to talk to me privately and seriously, he will do it right?! We talk as if we are just friends and no history maybe we are just shy of what had happened to us, our relationship last for a month only but it can be extended if he is not stupid not to find ways to tell me what happened to him and never communicate with me for a week. But it's 6-7 years ago and we are happy with the person we are with. Whenever our batch have reunion we talk a little and we already moved on with our life.
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• Philippines
23 Jan 09
That is nice to hear that you never build walls between you two and you are still friends. It would only be hard for the first few weeks but as both of you have accepted that a chapter has ended it makes you life more easier and you both can easily move on. It is nice to hear that you have found the right man for you who will always be there to fight and defend you.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Well I believe there is always a reason why things happens. Well if we split up that time with a lot of hurts and I really got into trouble well maybe a hi is enough and not to prolong the conversation. Maybe that time I was moving on so I wont care less. Have a nice day to you!
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• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Hello, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. Is your share based on your own experienced? How did you ex reacted when your ex saw you? did you see regret all over her face of letting you go? I know everything has a reason for there is no such things as an accident in this world. happy mylotting my friend and have a great day.
• India
23 Jan 09
oh man.. now that is going to be awkward. i would never ignore him.. i would smile at him, ask him how he is, if he fine, ask if everyone in his family is fine, ask whats new with him and routine questions like that.. if the relationship broke mutually,then i would ask him out for a coffee and we will talk about old times.. just catching up.. otherwise if it was a serious relationship that we broke, then i would smile, ask how he is and i would walk away..
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• Philippines
23 Jan 09
yeah i agree with you that it is an awkward situation. But i salute you my friend you are a very kind and forgiving person given that you will still go through the usual hi and hellos and ask questions regarding the ex. for if i am in that situation i would just smile and never look back just to let the person know that he hurt me especially if a third party is in the picture. thanks for sharing.
@munhozmib (3857)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
23 Jan 09
Hello, Kenchiprincess. If I saw my ex-girlfriend, which has already happened, I act normally. If we happen to meet each other and start talking, I'll be myself. No hurt feelings, nothing. Talking like old friends. Now, there was this ex-girlfriend that I met, and she was hiding herself because she didn't want me to see her. I don't see why. She knew I saw her already, but she avoided me. I'm not going to chase anybody. If she is avoiding me, alright. There is no reason to do what she did. Relationships are common. People get hurt, some don't. I can deal with it. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I can see from you that you have already moved on with your life with whatever relationships from the past. You have to understand that women are more emotional than the male gender and we tend to get hurt over things easily from the male ones. Maybe she's really hurting still that she doesn't like to face you and say hi or she haven't move on. Hope this helps. Thanks for the post and happy mylotting!!
• United States
23 Jan 09
If I saw an ex in a public place I would probably start walking in the oppisite direction to get away from them as soon as possible. There is a reason that exs are in the past. If they hurt you once then they could hurt you again and who wants to be hurt by the same person more then once. Im married and im sure that talking to an ex could only hurt not help my relationship.
• United States
23 Jan 09
Im married so if I saw an ex in a public place I would probably try walking in the oppisite direction. Just seeing an ex would either bring back good or bad memories. Ex's are part of the past for a reason and its smart to leave them in the past. If they hurt you in the past they could hurt you again and who wants to be hurt twice by the same person.