Are you angry and annoyed?

..angry, annoyed, scared.. - We are annoyed species today.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
India
January 23, 2009 1:41pm CST
Some friend expressed her vulnerability over the annoyance and lack of hope the moment we come out of our home. Every place other than our home is unsafe and full of annoyance. We are essentially an annoyed and angry species today! Why so much of annoyance everywhere? How do you deal?
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
23 Jan 09
An angry and annoyed species. It seems to be. Step out of the house. It's either too cold or too hot or raining. Then someone speedingly along nearly knocks you down. The exhaust emmission of the bus hits you straight in the face and leaves you suffocated. You go to a govt office and it takes you half the day to do a 10 minutes work. You land up at the office late and soemone gives you a lecture on coming late. This goes on and on.. Some mindless terrorist commits atrociteis and takes innocent lives. We get angry and yet have the fear. The security of the people is not taken care of. The politicians are corrupt. We go home at the end of the day having gone through all this and so much more. We tend to take it out sometimes at our loved ones. But at the end of the day a sweet smile and a few sweet words , a good meal, some amount of laughter and at the end of the day a good sleep. And the next day ? ?
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Hi alokn, You seem to be a born writer. Everything written in the response seem to be a fiction at a glance. Once sink in, we realized that it really does happen for real. My thoughts... no matter how annoyed we are because of the situations we encounter everyday, at the end of the day, how calm and safe it is to feel being enveloped by a warm embrace by someone we love and loves us, the one we trust our whole life.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
24 Jan 09
Thanks. I write what comes to my mind and the way i have felt in experiences like this. There is so much that happens around us which generates fear and anger within us. In the secureness of our home and our close ones we feel much more relaxed and tend to put aside the worries.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
25 Jan 09
I agree with marguax there.
• India
16 Jul 09
Hello friend, an interesting topic and I read all the posts in response to it. Responses and counter responses I find here are quite attractive. And one more thing I notice is that all the stars are either red or blue having either 9 or 10 in them.I did not help myself from jotting down my feelings here. It is true that complexities and competitions of present day life has brought many harmful effects on our lives and we tend to loose our emotional equilibrium quite easily - not much provocation is needed. And the farther we are from our sweet home the more we notice all these things. Coming back to our home near to our loved ones brings a kind of assurance to our mind. However, every feeling we have in our mind comes from within. The same thing is viewed by different persons differently and by the same person differently in different times. The same stories of the great writer 'Sharat Chandra Chattopadhaya' when I read now reveals a whole new dimension that I did not notice earlier. I said this to support my point that feelings are generated inside us. So, if we can manage them (though very difficult to do) and cultivate a habit of looking at the positive side of life, we may enjoy our life irrespective of the external condition. happy lotting
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
21 Jul 09
Thanks Arka for a beautiful response and I do agree with you there. Indeed a slight attitudinal change can do wonders to our pattern of thinking and life. A happy person is generally happy. He is happy no matter what and we need to cultivate that. Thanks.
@balasri (26554)
• India
24 Jan 09
Hi Mimpi! I have learned over the period of time to visit the places and people I am comfortable with to beat this syndrome. I have managed to choose the right shopping places where I am received with a smile and I am sticking to a handful of my friends who are really divine. And I have leaned the art of manipulating the human minds to my advantage by being nice and trying to surprise them a smile and courteousness these people may not have ever seen in their life time. This really works .So I am very confident nowadays and never get annoyed or angry that is bad for my health.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Mar 09
I think, nothing like customising our priorities and choosing things that make us happy. This is a great way to let go and smiling can work wonder! Thanks for sharing this bit. Certainly it helps. I think I must learn to choose my things as well.
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@kalav56 (11503)
• India
5 Mar 09
Moreover, I agree with Balasri and we choose the place we go to.For example, I would never go to shady areas alone and invite trouble.As such there are unwanted elements and why invite trouble?
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Mar 09
Absolutely bang on Kala! We have to be alert and careful and NOT fearful. By being this we can actually avoid any untoward things in life.
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@drannhh (15226)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Do you mean violence on the streets? Here I think sometimes the streets are safer than people's houses. It depends on the neighborhood. I would move. I have moved quite a few times. But for the past 30 years or so I have only lived in gated communities, sometimes with people who sit at the entrance and check everyone coming in and sometimes in a community with a fence all the way around it and an electronic gate where the guest has to call my cellphone and if I want them to be allowed in I press a code on the phone that opens the gate. So the whole community is like our home and safe, but a few miles down the road maybe I would not walk alone at night.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
You are safe and I am so glad. Today we are living in a society where there is a risk of losing our lives at every bend of life. Our community is not gated and its an old neighborhood where we live in harmony. Having said this, things are changing rapidly for worse. The friend I was talking about was however paranoic. She is always apprehending some premonition, bad omen.
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@drannhh (15226)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Ah, that is too bad Mimpi because sometimes what we dwell upon in our minds manifests itself into our material lives. Stay safe, my friend.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
Thanks dear. I will. You too be safe and fine. Hope you two are great!
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@doryvien (2293)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I took a leave from work today to go to a government agency to work on some papers. I waited in line for more than 1 hour, and finally I was able to the person in charge for, would you believe, 2 minutes! All that waiting for the precious 2 minutes of this gov't guy. After my transaction, I left the building thinking of how these gov't people can do something to improve their service, the long line of people waiting was very annoying, surely there is a better way of servicing us, after all we, the taxpayers, pay their salaries. I just told myself to calm down, and not mind things that are beyond my control. When I went out of the building it was raining so hard and I heard there is a storm coming. I didn't bring my car so I had to brave the strong rain and wind to get to the train station. Then a speeding car splashed street water on half of my body. That did it, I was out of my wits! I went home sulking. What made things better though was the thought that I'll be home early and have more time to spend at myLot - which is what I'm doing right now. Cheers!
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
Hi doryvien Nice you see you after long and I am glad that you are trying to let go through mylotting. What could be a better way! Trust me, things are similar over here as well. We are harassed like anything in the name of a system which is irreversibly faulty. At the end of the day we are stressed out. But then, this is life. We must learn to let go and pick our priorities and be happy. Hope the storm has stopped there now. Drink a nice cup of coffee and mylot. Lots of smiles at you!
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@tutul0045 (2631)
• India
16 Jul 09
Hi, Iam neither angry nor annoyed. I always try to stay happy in all circumstances. Problems are always going to crop up no matter what and where you live but the key is to keep your mind stable and calm. As iam in highly engineering field i have learned that staying calm is something which you have to learn under all conditions. If you get angry or annoyed, its going to cost you dearly. Doing Yoga has helped me a lot and i would recommened it to everyone else. Cheers, Tutul
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
You are so right tutul! Hurdles are going to come for life is but hurdles and we must face it with a happy face. Grouchiness going to get us no where. You be fine and be happy always.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
24 Jan 09
well,if one looks at it that way,even our homes are not safe anymore..there are numerous people entering and leaving our homes and all these people cant be trusted.there are lot of crimes going on around,it is really dificult to trust anybody.but in the midst of all these,one can sustain,if one has faith in GOD and that all things happen for our good.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Jan 09
Faith, belief in ourselves and our gos help us fight these trying times. And I am hopeful.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Hi mimpi, My heart goes with your friend in feeling unsafe and annoyed almost everyday. i have twin daughters and being a mother, I will do everything to keep them safe. Days when I am also emotionally down, I feel the discomfort twice as much. I remembered one thing my father always used to tell me: If it is already a situation, then don't bother thinking of a solution. It's no longer a problem, deal with it. Now that I am a parent, I should also be strong for my kids. They look up to me for courage. One source which gives me courage for turbulent times is from the Bible, written in Isaiah 35:4 which says, "Be strong. Do not be afraid. Look! Your own God will come with vengeance itself....He himself will come and save you people." It comes as a refreshing cool water knowing that if ever we cannot do something beyond the uncontrollables,He is there for us to safeguard us as a loving Father, and a promised made that he will never forsake us.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Jan 09
I think, we humans have an indomitable spirit that keeps us going even in this times of horror and insanity. The children are most vulnerable since the impression is there to stay life long and make then a fearful species. I am an optimist all the way and have always seen the glass half full and not half empty. Thanks for your beautiful motivating thoughts there. Blessed be.
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
16 Jul 09
Yes Mimpi we get always angry or annoyed over one thing or another and we go through these emotions when we do not have control over situations.We feel irritated,disgusted and livid.As we step out of our houses,the endless series of mental agony traumatize us and leave us mentally saturated. The best way to tackle this inevitable problem is to accept it into our respective lives.When we cannot change anything,the best way is to accept it positively and wholeheartedly. Even in our houses,there are people with different frame of mind,different interests and thinking but still we live with them because there is acceptance for them in our minds and we have got used to them.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
You are such a sweet soul. I really appreciate your thoughts. Respecting and understanding each other even when we do not share the same kind of feeling only makes co-habitation easier. You are the best Kirti.
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• India
16 Jul 09
Ya ,you are absolutely right.Thanks for appreciating my thoughts. It is my personal experience of life and yes it is very practical and real.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
Thanks dear. Be the way you are always. How was your Goa trip?
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Hi mimpi1911! Isn't that sad when we have reached a very sophisticated and progressive time, the more we see people around us getting annoyed, grumpy and unappreciative of what they have and what they still want to have? Inconvenience and discontentment makes most of us annoyed, irritated and angry. I do know someone like that and she can never be content on anything. She will be annoyed, irritated and angry whenever she sees a speck of dirt in her house, if her grown-up children (who by the way are all married) will not do as she ask, if her maid would not be quick on her toes, and so on..She is a vexation to the spirit and being exposed to her almost on a regular basis will make me feel irritated and annoyed and angry too. But how do I deal with such person? I pray that God will touch her heart and mind and I pray that I wouldn't be like her. And of course, while I am waiting for an answer to my prayers, I avoid people like her because negative emotions and hopelessness can be really contagious. take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith210
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Mar 09
Beautiful minds have beautiful thoughts! And and you are one of them, I am so glad to know you dear. Indeed negativity begets negativity and more we think about bad things more we seem to get into the groove of darkness. I was reading the book 'The Secret' where exactly your thoughts are reflected. It says, likes attract likes and more we think about good thinks, hopes and aspirations more we exude it.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Hi dear friend! Thank you for the kind words my friend. I see you the same way too. Positivity attracts positivity! That is why we are good friends, don't you think so? lovelots..faith
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
16 Jul 09
You are absolutely right Faith. How are you doing?
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Hi mim, No, I am not angry or annoyed. I sometimes find myself getting annoyed when I'm on the road and see people do stupid and dangerous things but then I make an intentional effort to change my attitude because it's not worth my emotional outburst. Believe me, I am working very hard on that one. That's the only time I really have to work at it because people are truley ignorant and rude on the roads and highway. You are right though Mim, there is a lot of anger out there and I believe a lot of people are suffering financially and it brings out fear and anger because they have no control over the situation. My husband has been out of work for over a year and a half and we've been through all the emotions over and over again. Now I'm trying to realize if we lose our home and everything in it, that these are all material things and most important to me is my Husband and Son. I thank God that my Son is in California and if need be, we could always go out there and stay with him a while. But most of all, there is always hope. That is the answer for me,holding on to my Faith in God and maintaining Hope. I fear that too many people have given up on Hope. leenie
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
25 Jan 09
You have always motivated me with our encouraging words leenie. Life is but hurdles but we have to live it happily, to he full with whatever little we have. Faith, belief and conviction in ourselves and our God help us to live life positively. I do wish you a happier life and may you have all you want in life. Blessed be.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Thanks for the very precious comments you made. We truly do need to live our lives postively and happily. We waste precious moments being angry. Everything that God creates is meant to put a smile on our face. We just need to look around to be happy.xoxox leenie
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
26 Jan 09
Yes leenie we are so annoyed that we forget to enjoy what we have and trust me its enough and we can make the world out of i just by being constructive, happy and poised.
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@lovesummer (1162)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
i have to deal with annoyance and angry face everyday from one of my classmate. he would complain about his unitmate everyday with very dirty vulgar languages. I have been in the same classes with him since 5 years. once I had enough of him because he somehow shouted at me in the classes because of a small matter. I wasnt in good mood the otherday so i shouted him back and we had a fight in the classes. he even threw at me his pen. It was really ridiculous. and I think he is really really ridiculous himself. when we sit back and think, actually the problem come from these people themselves.
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
forgot to say how do i deal with these people. hehe just ignore them! and dont let them spoil your day. :) cheers..........
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Jan 09
Hi summer, ignoring the best thing to do. The rude and indecent people that they are why do we have to bother. It's there problem and let them handle it themselves. You carry on, have fun.
@thea09 (18324)
• Greece
18 Jul 09
Hi mimpi, I know exactly what you mean, i used to feel that in the UK, the stress of commuting to work on the train huddled in with a mass of strangers who push and shove, leaving the station to encounter beggars (and I mean strong able bodied young men who do it professionaly) sitting beneath the cash point machines, the constant rush at work, the commute back home, being afraid of kids loitering on the street looking menacing. Annoyance fuels the day. I moved to Greece where the pace of life is relaxed, courtesies still prevail, people help each other out, a simple walk to the shop is slowed down by greeting the many familiar faces, strangers rush to help when you are trying to get the car into the impossibly small space in the town, strangers chat in cafenions, the streets are SAFE, even late at night, there is no yobbish behaviour, teenagers respect their elders. The annoyance has gone - for the most part anyway - and leaving the house is a pleasure rather than an ordeal. Which goes to show the environment is influenced greatly by the attitudes of people outside the home.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
21 Jul 09
The perfect juxtaposition of the two countries said a lot about how the environment and surrounding affect out living and psyche. Thanks for this Thea. I am so glad to know that you are living in a beautiful place. Greece intrigues me a lot as well. I used to have one pen pal there when I was a preteen. The culture and heritage, customs add to the beauty and sanity. Thanks so much and be happy always.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
5 Mar 09
Well Mimpi ! I feel slightly different about this. The world will be what it is and what cannot be cured must be endured.I faced and am still facing a number of problems after my relocation to Mumbai.I was in a small town earlier, and first of all, there is such lack of integrity in this place and people just take you for a ride everywhere[I mean even the smallest vendor] And I keep saying that this is aplace is so full of aggressive people and even the mosquitoes here are more aggressive than anywhere else[I have always had my share of mosquitobites but only in Mumbai they boldly sit on my nose and enjoy their feast while I am busy cooking].Safety is the next thing-so, Ijust keep my chain at home when I go out and be at peace.[We have one yellow thread with the mangalsutra and one chain with mangalsutra].So, now I have stopped getting bogged down by these and just get on.What is the use feeling unsafe and annoyed?-just trust in God and in our guardian angel and get on .What has to happen will happen and God will be with us to help us be safe..We have to be with this firm conviction to maintain our peace. Otherwise there would be no end to this. Incidentally, this discussion had come on the top of my friends ' discussions , and having missed it I am responding one month late.Better late than never!
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Mar 09
I am so glad that this got activated and I got to get your lovely response! Thanks for sharing your story and I agree that bitterness is everywhere but we have to love whatever we have or else living would become miserable. It's all about how we look at it. We have to have the glass half full philosophy alive all the time. Or else we have had it! Thanks Kala.
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@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
24 Jan 09
my thing is if i get that way, i have to try at least to blow it off the best i can, i often will express myself to the person who's making me this way. and often there been a few who can't except the way we feel. so i had to learn ok i spoke my mind and told them and it's up to them to do with as they want. but often just like oh well, what the hell leave me alone for now
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Mar 09
Ranting out is a good way to let go and I think we must learn to let go by choosing the way which works best for us.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
24 Jan 09
I am actually not annoyed of being out of home. I think every place is safe and thus sometimes I do a few things which should not be done. Specially when it comes to females, they should be more cautious but I am never cautious and always looking forward to adventurus things in life.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Mar 09
You are right dropofrain. We must be careful and alert6 but have to go out isn't it. We must take life positively and happily.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
24 Jan 09
Instead of being angry or getting annoyed amidst others .. I would rather prefer to be angry or arrogant with myself - for all the shortcomings,misgivings,lack of fortune and feeling of downtrodden.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Jan 09
Yes, we are the ones who are responsible largely. we have to air our voice and act like the era of freedom struggle. Sadly, we talk a lot but act little. Thanks Sukumar.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Hi mimpi! I get that way sometimes! I hate having to go to the grocery store or places where I know it's going to be crowded and people are going to rude and grumpy. It is hard to stay in a good mood when you know that you are going to get annoyed pretty much the minute you leave the house! It's true! People are always in a big hurry to get wherever they are going and when they get there they are still in a hurry and have bad attitudes! It makes it hard to cope and not very pleasant to want to be anywhere anymore!
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Jan 09
It feels sad ow we are losing our beautiful emotions. We hardly stop by to appreciate, we have forgotten SORRY, THANK YOUs. We are just running and what's killing is that we are vulnerable angry species! We are the unsafest and the moment we step out we enter an incessant world of struggle for existence.