Would you?

@loveyevi (513)
United States
January 23, 2009 2:40pm CST
Get plastic surgery to please your lover? Nose job, liposuction, etc... Do you think it is unfair for our partners to ask for us to change ourselves?
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@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
23 Jan 09
No, I think God made us all the way we are for a reason. If you want to change yourself, fine. If someone loves you, they love you for you. There was a wealth man who told me, "I like you. I'd even marry you if you lost about 30lbs. I can't be with someone who looks like you! If you can't lose it, I'll pay for lipo." I liked his personality before this, but said get lost.
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@loveyevi (513)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Yes, I agree that if someone doesn't like you for you, you should get rid of them right away. If I were you I would of taken his offer to pay for it and then dumped him though, haha. Just kidding. Thanks for the response.
• United States
24 Jan 09
You know I thought about this and I feel that if someone say's they love you and want's to be with you then they are excepting you as you are. If my spouse was to ask me to fix my self different then I can ask him the same thing right. Well, I hope he want's to look like Johnny Depp; when he was in his late 20's. Not, the boy face but then pirate face. ha ha With out the extra eye's in the make-up! Ha ha Or, maybe Orlando Bloom! So, what is good for the goose is good for the gander right? Hey, can we get other thing's on them bigger the way we want, if they ask us to get che che's done bigger? Ha Ha
• Canada
23 Jan 09
Nope, never. I would never subject myself to any procedure to please someone else. If I had the money and I chose to have a procedure done to please MYSELF, then sure. It's absolutely unfair to ask a partner to change themselves physically to somehow be more pleasing. And, then, pleasing by whose standards? I think it's reasonable to want to help a partner to be in better health... for instance, in the case of losing weight or when a change in diet is necessary due to illness or condition. A partner can be supportive, can offer to exercise with the other, can maintain healthy eating habits along with their partner, etc. Those things are realistic, caring and about health. I think a lot of plastic surgery is strictly about vanity. I wouldn't even entertain an idea based on meeting someone else's "standards" for external beauty.
@loveyevi (513)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Yes I agree with you completely. My boyfriend thinks I need to lose a little weight. But he says that with love, because he knows I am not the most healthy eater and its just not about the weight but health in general. Thank you for your response.
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@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
I dont want to gop under the knife just to please a lover. If a guy loves me, he will accept me for what i am. I know its not bad to make yourself beautiful, but ig your main goal is just to satisfy a lover, then its not smart. Nose lift?, everybody can be beautiful after a perfect nose surgery, btu we all know that this surgeries can make us suffer in the end. Beauty will fade, time will come your skin will sag and wrinkled but its good if your lover will still eb there beside you through the years. I love it if I am appreciated and a girl is always beautiful in front of a guy loving her. My boyfriend always tell me im gorgeous and he makes me feel beautiful.
• United States
28 Jan 09
Ugh, no. I know that when I raise the money I'm getting rhinoplasty for myself, but to please someone else, I definitely wouldn't. If he's into fake-looking girls (i.e. on "Rock of Love") I would just break up with him and go find a guy who's better than him. It's unfair for a lover to make demands of me because my body isn't as perfect as they'd imagined. I would only alter my body for myself.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
28 Jan 09
The only reason to do something like that is for yourself. For anyone else, it is the wrong reason. My hubby wouldn't ask. But if he did, I'd tell him no! It is more than unfair to be asked. It is downright WRONG!
• United States
26 Jan 09
I don't think that your sover should ask you to alter your body. If he or she loves you that is suppose to be for eveything that you are inside and out. Especially not through any plastic surgery of any kind. If you want to change your appearance, it should be because you wanted to do it.