Friends who do not respond to your discussions, do you delete them?

@Jenaisle (14078)
Philippines
January 25, 2009 4:50am CST
I never refused any friend request. I approve them all, but I have so many I'm having a hard time browsing over them, I want to delete those who never answered any of my questions. What would you do if you were in my place? Will you delete them too?
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@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I also never refused a friend request, I approved them all because that means they like me.hehehe. I also start answering discussions from my friends' posted discussions. But if they won't respond to my discussions I won't delete them of course, in fact, I never deleted any of my friends, I will never do that, it won't bother me anyway if they don't response to my discussions I respected their decisions maybe they have no idea to share or no personal knowledge about my discussion. Sometimes it is hard for me to answer discussions especially if I have no personal knowledge about the topic, I won't response also if I have no idea to share about that topic.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Thanks for that valuable information, thanks and mylotting.
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@ank_47 (1959)
• India
27 Jan 09
i will not delete them if they don;t answer my post also.they will be there in my friends list for ever. i beleive friends should be there for ever and if they don;t answer me also ,i will not loose their friendship. sometimes they have time and sometimes not. if they are interested in my question,they can answer me sometimes. if they are not interested in some topics which i have asked, i won't force them to answer me . if they have interested in one topic,they will only answer. at any cost i will not loose their friendship. if i am interested in any in any one person , i will not loose their frienship for forever .
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
of course it should be voluntary, Thanks and cheers.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
29 Jan 09
Ah just asked some thing like this. I think I need to delete some so called friends for inactive, non-responsive, maybe I call it self centeredness- because they always post and never attempt to add to others post or I always respond to their post but they dont to mine...
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
In some cases yes, are you my friend?lol...there are too many it's a maze to search...lol..thanks for the comment and happy mylotting.
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@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
No, of course not! It's not fair for them to be deleted because it's a fact that sometimes our topics just can't be interesting to all people or, some people just can't relate to the topic so they will not respond. Als, there's this time difference among other members of mylot, maybe you posted your discussion at daytime but it's night time to your friends' location.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
That's one factor yes, but what about if they NEVER replied to any of your discussions.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
29 Jan 09
The only way I delete someone is if they start SPAMMING me attempting to get me to join some super program that is supposed to make me and them rich overnight, or if they are being rude to others online and I happen to witness this during a discussion that I'm about to respond or if they respond rudely to a discussion that I started. I'm not the online police, but I do report abuse, and I try to stick up to those who may be in victims of obnoxious people that think they rule the world; when they don't rule anything other than their life IF they rule that. I consider myself a friendly person. I have a system of responding to discussions and responding to friends discussions. I'm here to participate, not to be concerned about who isn't participating. Everyone has their own view points of what they will and will not do. So, to answer the question of this discussion, directly. NO, I do not delete "Friends" who do not respond to my discussions. Everyone has a certain thing called life to live. Maybe, they requested me to be a friend of theirs because they liked a response to a discussion that I responded to and that they started. Maybe, they so a really interesting discussion that I started at one point in time on mylot and wanted to be friends with me. Whatever the reason, I don't turn everyone away, except for the things I outlined above. I don't consider that being friendly or rude at all, just wise. Happy Mylotting!
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
All mylotter respondents gave that as a reason. It's a good reason. Happy mylotting.thanks for that valuable contribution.
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Hello jenaisle! Honestly, I have many number of friendslist on my profile now but I never intend to delete them. Everyone who want to add me, I just accept and accept and never mind whether they will respond to my discussion or not. Anyway, I did not turn on my notification to those who add me and never responded to mine. I just turn on those on my friends list who keeps on coming back to my discussion and respond.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
Yes, the notification , that would help a lot. thanks for that valuable information. Cheers.
• United States
25 Jan 09
you're welcome jenaisle..
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• United States
26 Jan 09
Unlike you, I see if I can respond to any futrure friend before I approve them.If I can't I deny them . i have many friends with many different intersts so if they don't respond to my posts I assume they aren't into that subject. Every once in a while I do go through my friends lists and I delete the ones who haven't been active for 2 months.Or the names I don't remember.
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• United States
26 Jan 09
I am glad I could help.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
That's a good practice. Going through the list.. Thanks for that significant comment. cheers.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
25 Jan 09
I on my part, normally do not reject any request for add. I just glance through the profile of the member, who sends me the request, just to get a broad idea about him/her, before accepting him/her as my friends. However, I have observed that many of them do not participate in even a single discussion of mine. I wait for considerable period of time - say six months and even after that if I find that the member is not surfacing in any of my discussions and vice versa, I am left with no option, but to 'delete' his/her name from my list. I just cannot afford to have 'inactive' members in my list of friends. I am not crazy about a long list or large number of friends, I wish to have 'active' and supporting friends, who could come and join me in my discussions. Even if they post brief or short responses, I do not mind. Their participation makes me glad and I feel thankful to them. Good Post!
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Jan 09
LOL! So now I am in a position to read your mind so shall I give a pat on my back. Probably, we think alike that is why we are good friends.! Thanks for your kind words.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
hi dpk, that is exactly what I was pointing out and my trend of thought. really , can you read my mind?lol..thanks for outlining it for me. All the best.
@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
I have many on my friend's list, too, that never answered my discussions. Some of them are active and a lot inactive. Sometimes, it's hard to decide whether to delete or not, because they might feel bad when they realize that I deleted them on my list. Maybe, I could delete those who were really inactive for a year.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
That's a good option too, thanks for the vital input. cheers.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
4 Feb 09
If friends do not respond to my discussion.I never delete them.When i contact them through private messaging.They help me out.I have an opportunity to earn from my friends.I respond to the discussions friends started.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
You're right, sending them a private message helps. thanks for that good comment. Cheers.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
No not because they dont respond but i do go and delete the people that add me and then their numbers dont change for months on end.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
I'm not sure if you have added me but you are totally welcome to.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Thanks and happy mylotting.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
lol...yes, I've seen some of those kind. I'll get that tip from you. I 'm wondering If I have added you or not? my list is so long it's a maze in there, I find difficulty searching friends. Cheers and God bless.
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@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
25 Jan 09
Nope. I don't delete any friends. Actually I find it hard to delete them. Haha. If they add a button "Delete from friend list" in their profile then I must have deleted some friends. I actually wanted to delete 2 of my friends who were a bit harsh. But I am too lazy to find them in my friends list. Haha. Other than that, I don't delete any friends and won't decline any friend request. Seems like many senior mylotters don't accept new user friendship request. Haha. Happy mylotting.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
That's the reason why I wanted to delete some, I get lost when I try to find someone.lol..thanks for the vital comment and cheers.
• India
26 Jan 09
@Jouhar Must have been deleted. Haha.
@Jouhar (409)
• India
25 Jan 09
Hai vidyavini what happened to your posts ? When i saw your posts yesterday it was 1792 now it is 1782. What happened?
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• United States
10 Feb 09
I don't notice if my friends reply to my discussions or not. For the most part, I do not even browse through the people I have accepted as friends, though at some point, I might. If it is important to you, that they answer discussions you have started, why not send them a message and explain that? I think some people might not want to come off as stalkers, so they do not reply to every discussion someone has composed, though they have read it.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
You have a valid point there- a stalker-. But most probably I won't think of someone who answers all my question as a stalker, because there are mylotters here whom I always respond to. Thanks and cheers.
@minfas (878)
• Sri Lanka
25 Jan 09
Well really i don't check who responded or not. Even i havn't turned down any friend request until now.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
That's good, thanks and happy mylotting.
• Netherlands
26 Jan 09
I only accept friend requests from people who make discussions I like. I do not add everyone because then I would have the problem of not being able to easy find topics I like to respond to when looking in the friends discussions. It makes no sense to me to add people to my friends list who write things I am not interested in. I would go through the list and keep people who write things that are of interest to you to make it easy for you when you want to find good discussions.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
you're right, I should do that also, one day. Thanks for that significant comment., cheers.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
26 Jan 09
No, I do not delete people for this reason. Just because they don't respond to mine doesn't mean I won't respond to theirs. There could be a number of reasons why someone doesn't respond to my discussions. I don't take offense to it. As I've said on here before it would have to be a bigger reason than this for me to delete someone off my friends list. But hey, that's just me.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Well , you're cool too. thanks for that vital input. Happy mylotting.
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@veejay19 (3589)
• India
26 Jan 09
No, i won`t delete any of my friends just because they do not answer my discussion. To tell you the truth i hardly post any discussion so it really does not matter much to me.As it is friendsip on mylot is mostly restricted to answering posts or discussions and is not friendship in the true sense of the word.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
true friendship , yes, that's a good point. thanks for that vital comment., cheers.
• India
26 Jan 09
i dont delete any of my friends..i also accept any friend request made to me ....i think having many friends in mylot is added advantage...if you have more friends ,you get more number of responses........only those members who are inactive don't respond ........but i never delete any of my friends in the list.....happy myloting and have a nice day....
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
you must have now over a hundred. Thanks for that vital comment. cheers.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
26 Jan 09
I don't delete my friends. Some of them are very active and some are not, but I wouldn't delete someone just because they aren't active or don't respond to my discussions. I expect people to respond to my discussion, if they are interested in the topic, and if they have something to say. If they are too busy or just don't feel like responding that is okay. I always appreciate when my friends respond, and I am not saying that I don't care, my point is that no one should feel obliged to respond, and I don't see it as a condition of friendship.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
That's a good point, you are referring of course even to online friendships like mylot. one responder said that why would you accept a friend if you won't be responding to his discussions. anyway, I'll take into considerations all your comments. thanks too for that valuable comment. happy mylotting.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
4 Feb 09
So far I have not delete anybody. People do not respond maybe for various reasons. Maybe they are not familiar with your topic, they feel shy to enter field they are not specialized in, they have no ideas to add, they find it difficult to put into the right wording. They need to search and check to figure out or back their opinion, etc. Anyway, as long as they are present on the site, i will not delete them just for not responding to my discussion. Even for those absent for a long time, i am reluctant to take any action.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
That's pretty generous of you zhu. I haven't deleted anyone yet, but soon I will..perhaps..I'm still thinking about it. Thanks and happy mylotting.