WHY ME!!!!!!!!!!! I Gave him everything and i got nothing

Sweden
January 25, 2009 5:21pm CST
OK i´m blond i´m swedisch but i´m not stupid or am i???Met this wonderfoul man at´a car event! But after 2 months he began to change.......... he locked me up took everything i had even my brain............. So now 1,5 years later i moved from his city and i stand here with nothing he took it all!!! so i try to heal and get my life back....... No home (living with a friend temporary) No money A buisness that going to hell oh my, i have no life! Please do you hav any advise please give it to me give me striengh to carry on and forgive me if i dont spell the words right!
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19 responses
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
they say. . . be a good girl to attract a good guy. Well I guess. . meeting him at a car event is not a great start . . We need to start right to live right too. so next time make sure everything will be right and in place. . .God Bless You!
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
I'm not judgmental nor an idiot. You are more of an idiot because you were the one who are not loved. . by that car event man. . well.. im pretty sure you got a very bad attitude..things like that usually happens to women like you. . .hahahahaha!!
@deebomb (15348)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Tomorrow is another day and you can start over. You are young and seem to be smart if you had a business. He didn't take your life and he didn't take your brain. Look at what you have gained, experience so this won't happen again. Pick your self up and get going. Crap happens. It happens to the most careful and the smartest people. He didn't take your dignity. Take that and get started living from today Yesterday is gone and you can't get it back. You had a business once so you can have one again. Put the past behind you and go on from here.
• Netherlands
26 Jan 09
I agree. Take this bad event as a lesson you learned in life. Remember now you know what an evil man is you can avoid them in the future. You will not let another man take you to this dark place! Even bad things that happen can be made into a positive life experience.
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
there are some guys who are really jerk. they just get everything from you and just left you behind. just try to move on with your life. start a new one and be strong.
@willvaaz (75)
• India
26 Jan 09
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• Poland
26 Jan 09
Me English is not perfect but I really know what you fell. I know what you fell after everything what you did together. You spend beautiful days together and suddenly he began to change. It is horrible and when I read this text I would like to hug you I say that will be better.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
26 Jan 09
Hello there, every relationship is a gambling. No one can tell it will turn sour or be blossomed, let alone knowing it would end in good/bad term. And I believe regardless ended in good/bad term, it is an experience and lesson in everyone’s love life. I am sorry to know that you have been through such a bad relationship. But I don’t think you got nothing left following this relationship. At least you still have your brain, ability to deal with the life. You still have friend to help you. You are still young to start a new life. So please be positive for your future and make the life even better without your ex!
@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
26 Jan 09
[i]Hi zoophie, Just be strong and I know time will heal. Remember it happens to a lot of people and this is not stuoidity, just learn from every experiences and accept it! I know it is not easy but you can do it..Be positive, try to work hard and focus, do not also deprive yourself from enjoying life with friends! [/i]
@Anchopy (1453)
• Paraguay
26 Jan 09
I'm so sorry that had happened to you zoophie. I hope that you can get strength out of any close friend you have around, you do not do this martyred for the rest of your life, and the fight goes on forever, that life does not end a relationship that has ceased to function is very well what I say because I have gone through this.
• United States
26 Jan 09
You can't teach your heart that is why you are hurt, because you fell inlove with him you truly trust this guy, you gave him everything as much as you could.. But now its time to move move on, have a new life, try to forget him find a job, start living your life back, the only thing that you can do is, help yourself and start having a busy life i mean work, try to find things to cover the things in your mind.. life is good.. im sorry about your situation, you have to move on..
@anjel016 (330)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
The best thing for you to do is move on. Just take this one as a trial, an obstacle that will help you become stronger. Don't push yourself down, instead stand up and be strong. Make him regret what he did by being the best you can. This is that man's lost and not yours.
26 Jan 09
Hi zoophie, Please don't beat yourself up for your mistakes, everyone has done that, they say love is blind and that is very true, but its a lesson learned, twso months is not long enough to know a person but you have to harden yourself and have a protection barrier round you untill you know a person for at least two years. You can brush yourself down and think of it this way, you have had a lucky escape from him and you cannot stay down for long, you are stronger than that and you will get back up and be a lot more stronger and not let another man take you for a ride, be stronge, stand up for your rights, don't let him take away your dignity. Tamara
@hanson67 (35)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Sorry to hear that. I dont know what you can do in this situation. If you still know who this guy is give his name to the police and his apperance and hopefully they catch them.
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
hi, i am going through a similar time as you are now, times like these they make you feel like you just do not want to go on anymore, i can't really give you something of an advice because i badly need one myself hehehe. but i have forgotten what i used to tell myself before (because its been a long time since somebody broke my heart, 5 years long to be exact) but i am recalling it now. if you are viewing earth from above or from the moon, each person becomes a dot and on the grand scheme of things, our sad faces and broken hearts and problems do not exist, plus it is probably breath taking watching the blue earth from afar :) what was my point again? tkstkstk i guess we will live through this, right now i do not have a job, living with a relative who does not get me and i do not want to go on. i hope you can get through with your broken heart soon, they also say that to solve your own problems, helping others will usually do the trick :) smile smile smile smile though your heart is breaking
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Hello friend, don't give up and don't lose hope easily. I know that you can always pickup the broken pieces of your life and get up. Don't let this loser fully ruin your life. I know you have a brighter future ahead of you and with the help of your family and friends you can make it. You maybe being tested but be strong and have faith and you will surely see yourself triumphant eventually. Be strong and have faith to your God.
• United States
26 Jan 09
How awful!!! I feel for you.. You need to get out of that state of mind NOW...i know you're angry and upset but look at all you've just sustained..if you can put up with all that crap then you're strong enough to start again.. Make a commitment to yourself today that YOU are the most important person in the world right now..start treating yourself nicely...listen to motivational speakers like Brian Dodge: www.briandodge.com He has free trainings that will help you to change your thinking... Be appreciative and grateful that you have a friend that could help you..make a list of all the things you have to be grateful for now..start feeding yourself GOOD thoughts and you will start to see things change..You can do it! You owe it to you! Hope this helps!
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
26 Jan 09
This sounds like a bad guy but an important thing to realize is that you are not helpless. You weren't helpless then, and you aren't now. You are lucky that you have such a good friend that you can actually stay with. You do have a business, even though things don't look too good right now. I know that you feel bad right now, but you must leave this guy in the past. Sometimes the best revenge you can get on someone else, is to do good for yourself. If he sees you suffering and depressed you might as well say that he won ... and the prize is the value of your life. You will overcome and go on and have many more happy moments in life ... trust me. And, he will get his .. one day.
@gracie04 (4556)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Don't lose hope.. instead of feeling sorry for yourself, stand up and pick up the pieces.. you don't deserve a guy like him so move on! I know it would be hard but i know time will heal all wounds.. pray and ask God for guidance.. good luck!
• Netherlands
26 Jan 09
I lived with a boyfriend that did something similar to me. He broke my car, moved me to the middle of nowhere and took the phone with him to work everyday so I could not contact anyone. His only mistake was leaving me with internet access. Back then the internet was not as big as it is now but I was able to receive help from a stranger I told my story to. That stranger came to where I was and helped me pack and leave. Though that could have been very dangerous as well it turned out good. I say to keep your head up and remember that you are a special person who deserves to be happy and this will pass. You will get over it and move on. Soon this will be but a bad memory and you just have to wait! I know how you feel though and I am sorry you have to go through it but it will pass. Good luck *hugs*
@lomasbee (30)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Jan 09
chant the mantra OM 108 times daily,and watch the pieces of your life fall back into place,and you will become whole again.