Are you comfortable in telling your moms and dads: "I love you." ?

@inkyuboz (1288)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
January 26, 2009 9:27am CST
I've never been really close with both of my parents, but sometimes I do tell them I love them. I find it a bit hard sometimes because it may sound cheesy or insincere, but when I tell them that I love them, they'll always reply that they love me too. It's a good feeling, and to anyone out there who haven't had the chance to do this, I'm urging you to do the same. Anyone else who wants to share about a similar situation? Discuss.
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@henahuda (158)
• Australia
26 Jan 09
i am person who can share the feelings easily with the ones who are closest to my heart.i donot feel hesitant to express to my parents that i love them completely.when i say this to my parents they love it and they have such a lovely smile on thier faces when they say they love me too and i would like to hear from them again and again and they love to hear it from me my sister and my brother.i feel its very important to express your feelings to those whom you love and close to your heart its important to let them know how you feel about the ones who are close you and it makes them feel that they mean a lot to you and have a great value in your life and you need them in your every step of life.so i make sure that i let my parents know how i feel for them and how much important thay are to me in my every step of life.
@inkyuboz (1288)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
27 Jan 09
Good for you. :) That's a good trait and I hope you pass it on to your future sons and daughters as well.
@djemba (767)
• India
26 Jan 09
Well yeah i tell them i love them but you don't always have to say the exact words ..There's a lot of ways of showing love ..one of them could be following what they tell you to do
@inkyuboz (1288)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
26 Jan 09
Yeah, you could show it in some other ways too. Actions DO speak louder than words.
• United States
26 Jan 09
I am so close with my mom. She is like my best friend. I talk to her daily and always tell her I love her, even when I'm angry with her. My dad on the other hand I don't think I've talked to in like a month. Unless he says it first those words don't usually come out of my mouth.
@inkyuboz (1288)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
26 Jan 09
^ wouldn't it be nice if you tell him that you love him first. Just gauge his reaction. If he smiles or he tells you that he loves you too, then it will be wonderful. If he just shrugs... well, that would be awkward. LOL.
@mglend (8)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 09
I agree with you.. But in fact, I usually tell them that after receiving money, or anything like that. It's not good at all, but it's hard for me just telling I love you everytime, sounds cheesy. Really have to work on that. Thanks for the advice!
@inkyuboz (1288)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
26 Jan 09
I know the feeling. But do try to tell them you love them spontaneously. You'll feel better afterwards, believe me.
@ctrymuziklvr (11060)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I told my parents I love them up to the day they passed away. My family is very affectionate and even before hanging up on a phone call we say "I love you" and we all know we mean it sincerely. I also urge everyone to tell their parents they love them on a daily basis....we never know when they will be gone!
@inkyuboz (1288)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
26 Jan 09
Exactly. It's like what they say in the song Big Yellow Taxi: "You don't know what you got 'till it's gone." So true.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
7 Nov 09
It's easy to tell my Mom b/c we're pretty close but I do have a harder time telling my Dad. I do make sure to tell him though every time I call, just in case I don't get the chance again. ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
In my family we are very open in showing our emotions with each other. Though we may not be vocal with saying "I Love You's" but we show how much we love our parents in action and in thoughts. But I agree with you that I would be best to tell them once in a while how much we love them and how thankful with all the thinks that they have provided for us. For we don't know are parents are not getting any younger so we just have to tell them we love them. Thanks for reminding me.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
Yes.. but i feel more comfortable telling "i love you" to my mom.. my dad's been working abroad for so many years and i didn't grw up with him.. Though we don't have a good relationship(father and daughter), i still love him because no matter what happens, he's my dad..
@ferrai (20)
• India
27 Jan 09
i also love my parents and all ways i used to tell i love you mom and they will reply me same i to love u da ...surely i will accept your request thanks for yours kindness and telling the googd things thanks a lot..bye......
• India
27 Jan 09
With my Dad, never coz he never told me so, as much as I can remember. Maybe he’s not the expressive type. With Mom, yes, when I was a kid, I would often tell her so. However, as I grew up the distance increased and I really felt like faking it when I said ‘I love you’ to her…so I stopped saying. However, I know how important these three words are and with my son, I am forever uttering them and I hope to continue doing so.
@itsmine (104)
• United States
27 Jan 09
No. I never told about i love them, but they knew me about how much i love them.
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
Yes, me and my brother are very comfortable in telling our parents that we love them. Believe it or not, my brother still kisses my father on the cheeks even though he has already his own family. We are very close and we will still continue to do this as long we live.
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
ofcourse, i will not mind to tell them that i love them, life is too short, but i say it not because im in the mood but i tell them that because that's how i feel and it should be sincere.
• Canada
27 Jan 09
I don't have a hard time telling my mom I love her but I do with my step-dad and my sister. I mean My sister is more related to me than my mom is and I have a hard time saying I love you to her. I just don't know why but its hard. Als oI can't say I love you to my step-dad either because its weird. I mean he's been in my life for 6 years but he's not my dad and I can't accept that my dad is gone and he's trying to be my dad.
• United States
27 Jan 09
I have never felt uncomfortable telling my Mom that I love her. We're very close. My father, however, is another story. He wasn't a very good father and to this day we don't have a good relationship. We're mostly just polite to each other because my great aunt (who has played a big part in my life) wants us to get along. I also feel strange when I tell my step-father (whom has been more of a "Dad" to me) that I love him. I really do love him and I wish that I didn't feel this way, because I really do love him. I think it mainly comes from the lack of a relationship with my real father and the fact that he was abusive to my sister and I. Hopefully, one day I hope that I can overcome this obstacle.
• United States
27 Jan 09
Yes. Why shouldn't you be comfortable? My parents tell me they love me all the time. Are you a guy? Maybe it depends on the gender.. maybe YOU just feel weird saying "I love you daddyy!" (btw I'm a girl and I don't have any problems w/ tell my parents I love them)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
I am indeed comfortable saying those words to my parents when I'm over the phone or through SMS. . .
@HansonFan (1659)
• United States
26 Jan 09
My parents both abandoned me when I was little and I can never seem to tell them 'I love you' first. They usually say it and then I respond, but Im sure most of the time it sounds insincere, but I can't help it. I was raised by my aunt and then with my dad...well, how many people have heard "I wish I had never had a daughter" from their fathers? To make it worse, he has said it twice... Its hard to forget that.
• United States
26 Jan 09
When my dad was alive, we had a really bad relationship. He hurt me a lot, broke a lot of promises, and didn't seem to care if we talked or not. However, whenever we did talk I always told him I loved him. He always said it back and to this day, I believe that he was being honest, he just didn't really know how to love. My mom and I are fairly close (as long as we don't live together) and I always tell her I love her when I talk on the phone with her. There are a lot of people who aren't like this though. My husband's family don't say it much and it seems weird for me. I can only think of a few times that I have heard his mom say, "I love you" to my husband (or any of her other eight children). His dad is worse. I think it has a lot to do with how you grew up. My husband loves hearing it regularly and often. I am very glad that he also says it to our son.
@sammy009 (259)
• United States
26 Jan 09
HI. This is a good question. I had no problem telling my dad I love him. My mom I love her the same, as i love my dad, but it seemed harder to tell my mom. I am feeling reson why, my mom was the strict one and it seemed no matter what i did or was feeling she always had someting wrong to say. I know she loves me. There are times i did come out and say I love you mom. I feel if you get the chance, jsut say it. Someday they will not be with us. The three words I love you means so much, also one will always remember espically being a parent.